I've been seeing a guy for three months. I'm 30 he's 34. We really hit it off on all levels, he's so thoughtful, fixes everything in my house,texts me throughout the day, just very thoughtful.I thought it was nice to have a guy not pressure me into a serious relationship but now after brining up the exclusivity talk he says he is not ready.a)because he got out of a 5 yr relationship 1 yr ago and wants to be sure before getting into another and b)he is going away for military training due to a promotion for 8 months in May and is scared because his last gf freaked out whenever he left. I've never had a guy want to take it slow so it concerns me.I'm trying to be patient but it scares me to emotionally invest and risk getting hurt. He's really good to me, this is really the only issue but to me it's a big one.I feel like we could have a really good thing but fear if he isn't sure now, he will never be. How long should I give him? Suggestions on how to deal with him? I feel sort of lost.Adults please read...looking for advice on a sticky dating situation...thank you!?
Wow...this is a tough one, but if he said himself he is not ready for anything serious, than you pretty much have your answer there. Would you be able to deal with it when he leaves for 8mths...let me tell you, from experience,its very tough being with a military guy especially when he's away. Just enjoy what time you have with him, live for the moment, and if you guys are still together when he gets back, than you know this was meant to be. Good luck!Adults please read...looking for advice on a sticky dating situation...thank you!?
You should take it slow. It's about time! Just let it go - why do you feel to put a ';rush'; on things?!?!
If you be patient, you are probably better off ending it before your relationship gets too serious. You shouldn't try to change yourself or him for the relationship to work.
Good Luck!
He's telling you that you are going to get hurt if you invest. He wants his freedom when he is away. He wants you on his term but you know that's not the way it works. Ask yourself, ';What would a woman with self respect, confidence and a few good men insight do?'; She'd move on! Don't screw him anymore. How can you have a relationship with a guy that's not there most of the year? You know you can't. I can hear it in your writings. And don't buy into that, ';I just got out of a long relationship crap!'; It's just an excuse. Believe me!!!! There's a million guys out there that would love to fix your pipes! His loss, bu-bye! Move on, girlfriend! You deserve better.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Help! I need a little advice on this Internet Dating thing!?
i need a little advice on this internet dating/talking thing. I have had a set mind on things before i got a myspace and facebook that it will just be for entertainment and to stay in contact with friends. but there is this one guy on there that i have been chatting with for 3 months who is 20 years old, a junior in college, seems to be Intelligent and a very person, but you never know, he could be a pervert, some where in his 40's and jack's off to my pictures. haha. I went through his friends list and saw that there were plenty of guy friends on his page, which indicates that he is somewhat real, for guys would not add another guy to their page who they do not know. Im just a little skeptical on if i should give out my # then meet him. Im also scared about the fact that they if it is the person on the pics he could just be photogenic and be hideous in person. What do you think? have you ever talked to someone off of the internet and meet up with them? Did they look exactly like their pics?Help! I need a little advice on this Internet Dating thing!?
first contact a few of the guys on his friends list. ask them about this guy. if they have ever met up with him is he really a nice guy, is he interested in dateing anyone ext.
dont trust pictures on the internet. its mostly guys you cant trust with pics or older women. teens and young women tend to put their actual pics on myspce and whatnot.
if you do meet up with him some place make sure it is some where public. like the mall were there are plenty of witnesses.
be warned if he has seen your actuall pics and you havent seen his, he will know who you are but you wont know who he is. this is why you want to do it some place public. NEVER EVER meet up for the first time at your home or his. also dont start by giveing him your number because he can do a reverse look up and find exactly were you live.
also if this guy isnt a perv dont be suprised if he still isnt the guy in the pics because he could have put a pic of him a year or two ago up.
first contact a few of the guys on his friends list. ask them about this guy. if they have ever met up with him is he really a nice guy, is he interested in dateing anyone ext.
dont trust pictures on the internet. its mostly guys you cant trust with pics or older women. teens and young women tend to put their actual pics on myspce and whatnot.
if you do meet up with him some place make sure it is some where public. like the mall were there are plenty of witnesses.
be warned if he has seen your actuall pics and you havent seen his, he will know who you are but you wont know who he is. this is why you want to do it some place public. NEVER EVER meet up for the first time at your home or his. also dont start by giveing him your number because he can do a reverse look up and find exactly were you live.
also if this guy isnt a perv dont be suprised if he still isnt the guy in the pics because he could have put a pic of him a year or two ago up.
Help! I need a little advice on this Internet Dating thing!?
i need a little advice on this internet dating/talking thing. I have had a set mind on things before i got a myspace and facebook that it will just be for entertainment and to stay in contact with friends. but there is this one guy on there that i have been chatting with for 3 months who is 20 years old, a junior in college, seems to be Intelligent and a very person, but you never know, he could be a pervert, some where in his 40's and jack's off to my pictures. haha. I went through his friends list and saw that there were plenty of guy friends on his page, which indicates that he is somewhat real, for guys would not add another guy to their page who they do not know. Im just a little skeptical on if i should give out my # then meet him. Im also scared about the fact that they if it is the person on the pics he could just be photogenic and be hideous in person. What do you think? have you ever talked to someone off of the internet and meet up with them? Did they look exactly like their pics?Help! I need a little advice on this Internet Dating thing!?
first contact a few of the guys on his friends list. ask them about this guy. if they have ever met up with him is he really a nice guy, is he interested in dateing anyone ext.
dont trust pictures on the internet. its mostly guys you cant trust with pics or older women. teens and young women tend to put their actual pics on myspce and whatnot.
if you do meet up with him some place make sure it is some where public. like the mall were there are plenty of witnesses.
be warned if he has seen your actuall pics and you havent seen his, he will know who you are but you wont know who he is. this is why you want to do it some place public. NEVER EVER meet up for the first time at your home or his. also dont start by giveing him your number because he can do a reverse look up and find exactly were you live.
also if this guy isnt a perv dont be suprised if he still isnt the guy in the pics because he could have put a pic of him a year or two ago up.
first contact a few of the guys on his friends list. ask them about this guy. if they have ever met up with him is he really a nice guy, is he interested in dateing anyone ext.
dont trust pictures on the internet. its mostly guys you cant trust with pics or older women. teens and young women tend to put their actual pics on myspce and whatnot.
if you do meet up with him some place make sure it is some where public. like the mall were there are plenty of witnesses.
be warned if he has seen your actuall pics and you havent seen his, he will know who you are but you wont know who he is. this is why you want to do it some place public. NEVER EVER meet up for the first time at your home or his. also dont start by giveing him your number because he can do a reverse look up and find exactly were you live.
also if this guy isnt a perv dont be suprised if he still isnt the guy in the pics because he could have put a pic of him a year or two ago up.
I like men of Asian Ancestry, especially East Indian, any advice from Amr ladies who have dated any would hlp?
I find them to be very loving caring and passionate. I know most don't marry outside their own race (I am a mixture of mostly blk,wht, native Am), I am far from being a kid and the older men seem more open and willing. Yes, they are smaller in the plumbing area, but other talents make up for that. If any one has some good advice for me it would be great. I currently have a guy to which we are building a friendship. If it goes further I want to be prepared, or know what to expect.I like men of Asian Ancestry, especially East Indian, any advice from Amr ladies who have dated any would hlp?
Some like to date but will not marry. I had a guy play me and my best friend, but we got him back. Some are real freaky, like any other man so be careful.
But over all they are cute and nice.I like men of Asian Ancestry, especially East Indian, any advice from Amr ladies who have dated any would hlp?
my best friend at one point was a japanese/german guy, looked more japanese, who may as well have been my boyfriend. they are just like other guys, nothing special you need to know about them. they eat interesting food though, sometimes they like you to try it. without him, i never would have tried urchin i think it was. so i think thats all =]
so i guess it's true, white girls have smaller brains than other humans
Some like to date but will not marry. I had a guy play me and my best friend, but we got him back. Some are real freaky, like any other man so be careful.
But over all they are cute and nice.I like men of Asian Ancestry, especially East Indian, any advice from Amr ladies who have dated any would hlp?
my best friend at one point was a japanese/german guy, looked more japanese, who may as well have been my boyfriend. they are just like other guys, nothing special you need to know about them. they eat interesting food though, sometimes they like you to try it. without him, i never would have tried urchin i think it was. so i think thats all =]
so i guess it's true, white girls have smaller brains than other humans
What should i do? advice with guys and dating?
okay there's this guy i REALLY like. and he told my best friend he wants to ask me out (apparently he's liked me for a while).
but there are some major problems. my parents would probably murder me if they found out. no joke.
and i honestly don't see the point in going out right now (im a sophomore in HS). i personally can't see what good it would do. if any.
but he's so different and hes like practically perfect for me you could say. i feel like i can't say yes to him (i'd feel guilty if i snuck around with him) and i dont want to hold him back. but theres this part of me that doesn't want him to move on from me.
what should i tell him?What should i do? advice with guys and dating?
Tell him the truth about what you feel. And if he really likes you, he'll probably understand.
And I know what you mean about the parents. I would try to reason with them and bring it up randomly one night with the one parent that you're closest to.
Hope this helps!
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but there are some major problems. my parents would probably murder me if they found out. no joke.
and i honestly don't see the point in going out right now (im a sophomore in HS). i personally can't see what good it would do. if any.
but he's so different and hes like practically perfect for me you could say. i feel like i can't say yes to him (i'd feel guilty if i snuck around with him) and i dont want to hold him back. but theres this part of me that doesn't want him to move on from me.
what should i tell him?What should i do? advice with guys and dating?
Tell him the truth about what you feel. And if he really likes you, he'll probably understand.
And I know what you mean about the parents. I would try to reason with them and bring it up randomly one night with the one parent that you're closest to.
Hope this helps!
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I really need some advice...I just started dating this guy today.?
I just started dating this guy today and I'm still not sure if it's really what I want. I mean he makes me happy and he's very sweet, but I kind of think I still have feelings for my ex. I thought dating my current boyfriend would help me get my mind off of my ex, well I told my mom about it and she started asking me a lot of questions. Some questions I really didn't know the answer to I answered with an ';I don't know'; and she got all mad and asked when our (her and my) relationship started going downhill. Now she won't speak to me... I don't know what to do...should I break up with my boyfriend or just let things go? Please, any advice is appreciated!!I really need some advice...I just started dating this guy today.?
I am going through the EXACT same problem. Im just trying to see how this guy goes, i mean the more i hang out with him, the more i like him. The only way to get over an ex is to move on, but take your time. If you rush through it youll never get over him. Tips: dont text your ex when your lonely or miss him, dont check up on his facebook/myspace, and deff dont talk about him with your new boyfriend. And your mom might have a lot on her mind and just wants you to be happy and is trying to help you move on by being agressive about it. Hope this helps :)I really need some advice...I just started dating this guy today.?
This depends on how you feel about your current boyfriend. Do you wanna get back with your ex? If so, then you may not be ready to jump into another relationship. Just take things slow with your boyfriend.
As for your mom, you should be open to her and let her know how hard it is to be open with your parents about your personal relationships. I know it was hard for me.
So is this guy a rebound or do you really like him? And besides you just started dating him today, shouldn't u wait a little to form a decision? And for your mom problems, she'll get over it.
You can do it, just give it a try.
I am going through the EXACT same problem. Im just trying to see how this guy goes, i mean the more i hang out with him, the more i like him. The only way to get over an ex is to move on, but take your time. If you rush through it youll never get over him. Tips: dont text your ex when your lonely or miss him, dont check up on his facebook/myspace, and deff dont talk about him with your new boyfriend. And your mom might have a lot on her mind and just wants you to be happy and is trying to help you move on by being agressive about it. Hope this helps :)I really need some advice...I just started dating this guy today.?
This depends on how you feel about your current boyfriend. Do you wanna get back with your ex? If so, then you may not be ready to jump into another relationship. Just take things slow with your boyfriend.
As for your mom, you should be open to her and let her know how hard it is to be open with your parents about your personal relationships. I know it was hard for me.
So is this guy a rebound or do you really like him? And besides you just started dating him today, shouldn't u wait a little to form a decision? And for your mom problems, she'll get over it.
You can do it, just give it a try.
Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
So ive been dating a boy we will call him jason for 9 months on saturday. When we first started dating it was really nice and wonderful. It still is i love him he is just really immature and really sexual and it is kind of obnoxious.
Then there is my best friend we'll call him andrew. We have been friends for 5-6 years. He is like my big brother, a role model everything. I used to have a crush on him and I thought that I was over my crush with him. We have recently started talking again cause we where neighbors and he and i both moved yet we went to the same school. But anyways now i think i am falling for him hard core. and i really have no clue what to do. any advice?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
think about the future, who can u c yourself with in the future right now when you read this?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
OMG sweetie i had the SAME problem!
Okay so look....
Your relationship with Jason may seem awesome, but its not a good enough relationship if you think of him as obnoxious. I would see him more of a friend if I were you. One of those guys that you can call when your bored and just hang out regularly without a love interest. Now, it may be difficult for you now because 9 months isnt exactly a little amount of time. I recommend you break it off with him.
Now.....Andrew!
The fact that you have known him for a very long time is the key. You know who he truly is and thats what you love about him. Those are the type of guys you need to stick with.
I say you go for andrew. You shouldnt settle for less when you can accomplish an awesome relationship. You deserve to be completely happy!
Best of Luck girl!
If you can describe your boyfriend as immature and obnoxious then the wonderful feelings you had for him are already in the past. Life is too short to waste and you could be wasting both his time and yours. Though it's hard, call these last nine months a bit of fun, and then i suggest you move on.
As for 'Andrew', decisions regarding a friend are always very tricky. Falling in love with your best friend is lucky, but only if you feel there is a chance they return your affections. People tend to be most cautious about approaching their friends because they are afraid of making things awkward, but if you are really close, then either its great and you start dating and it's wonderful, or its sad for a few days then you move on. The torture is not knowing.
re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend first. Think about your life with your boyfriend 5 years from now, and be very honest with yourself. If you dont see any good prospects, and you think that this relationship is short term, then break up with him.
as for your friend, consider the 5-6 years of great friendship, and that crush that keeps coming back, maybe something beautiful can blossom with your friend, and maybe its just you who isnt letting it happen.
if you really like your best mate then i think you should tell your current partner that you still would like to talk but need a bit off time off and see how you feel for a few days and then if you still like your best mate then you should think about getting with them :) x
Dump your immature boyfriend if he's bugging you that much and if you like your mate tell him and see if he feels the same if not then he'll understand since he's your mate and all and it will just be the same as it was before.
Good Luck, hope I helped!
And... HAPPY EASTER x
oh well talk to him some more
talk to ur bf about him being to sexual and stuff. if he doesnt stop then break up with him and ask the guy out
wow.
this is just like what happened to me lol
first off
break up with the other guy
ugh obnoxiousness is the worst hahah
and as for the best friend
im in this EXACT situation right now
ive been best friends with this guy since 7th grade
and recently he started dating this girl and i got really, really jealous
thats when i realized i might like him as more than a friend. . .you know?
well i decided it wasnt worth my friendship to him cause like you said hes like my big brother
but i think you should definately go for it
if might blossom into something beautiful
( i didnt cause i knew i would just ruin it - im not into long relationships and i would just lose my best friend)
I think that it sounds like yooh two havent talked in a while.....so yooh two should get to know each other a lil' better......then see if there is any connection......yooh may be in love but then again......yooh might not....... lets just say this is a follow your heart situation.....=]
ok so starting off your boyfriend he is going to keep being sexual he's a guy, that part of the relationship is like Pandora's Box once you open you cant shut it, trust me i am a guy i know, but honestly you got to fallow your heart i know that that really doesn't answer your question but you know lifes to short to fool around you know you only live once so talk to him and be obvious but subtle at the same time so you don't seem desperate. and tell your boyfriend that ';our relationship is just all physical there's no depth in it and i don't think i can do this anymore'; but that's is if you want to do that...
do what makes you happy!
So what's the problem? You said Jason is turning obnoxious - so drop him and focus your attention to this andrew guy who's obviously known you more!
I've been in that situation alot of times..
Well first off, do you think he likes you back?
you really have to think about this, i know this is a hard decision..
If Andrew is like how you explained him to be, I think he'd last longer in a relationship.
this is two different problems.
1. your current bf.
if you don't feel that he is the right one for you, just end it.
2. your friend.
you have to find out if he has any feelings for you besides being your friend. talk to him and find out.
GO 4 IT
andrew would prob be better 4 u because he knows more bout u if u gt wid andrew it would prob last longer and ud prob be happier
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I say dump Jason and go for Andrew. If not tell your obnoxious boyfriend to cut it out and continue to be best friend with Andrew and date your boyfriend. It might be rough though, even trying to ask out your best friend.
Hope this helped :-)
First of all- break up with your current boyfriend. If you are having feelings for someone else you can't possibly be in love with him. Next tell your long time friend that you have feelings for him. Make sure you do not do this in reverse order because it is not fair to your boyfriend to keep him as a safety net if the other guy is not interested.
Then there is my best friend we'll call him andrew. We have been friends for 5-6 years. He is like my big brother, a role model everything. I used to have a crush on him and I thought that I was over my crush with him. We have recently started talking again cause we where neighbors and he and i both moved yet we went to the same school. But anyways now i think i am falling for him hard core. and i really have no clue what to do. any advice?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
think about the future, who can u c yourself with in the future right now when you read this?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
OMG sweetie i had the SAME problem!
Okay so look....
Your relationship with Jason may seem awesome, but its not a good enough relationship if you think of him as obnoxious. I would see him more of a friend if I were you. One of those guys that you can call when your bored and just hang out regularly without a love interest. Now, it may be difficult for you now because 9 months isnt exactly a little amount of time. I recommend you break it off with him.
Now.....Andrew!
The fact that you have known him for a very long time is the key. You know who he truly is and thats what you love about him. Those are the type of guys you need to stick with.
I say you go for andrew. You shouldnt settle for less when you can accomplish an awesome relationship. You deserve to be completely happy!
Best of Luck girl!
If you can describe your boyfriend as immature and obnoxious then the wonderful feelings you had for him are already in the past. Life is too short to waste and you could be wasting both his time and yours. Though it's hard, call these last nine months a bit of fun, and then i suggest you move on.
As for 'Andrew', decisions regarding a friend are always very tricky. Falling in love with your best friend is lucky, but only if you feel there is a chance they return your affections. People tend to be most cautious about approaching their friends because they are afraid of making things awkward, but if you are really close, then either its great and you start dating and it's wonderful, or its sad for a few days then you move on. The torture is not knowing.
re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend first. Think about your life with your boyfriend 5 years from now, and be very honest with yourself. If you dont see any good prospects, and you think that this relationship is short term, then break up with him.
as for your friend, consider the 5-6 years of great friendship, and that crush that keeps coming back, maybe something beautiful can blossom with your friend, and maybe its just you who isnt letting it happen.
if you really like your best mate then i think you should tell your current partner that you still would like to talk but need a bit off time off and see how you feel for a few days and then if you still like your best mate then you should think about getting with them :) x
Dump your immature boyfriend if he's bugging you that much and if you like your mate tell him and see if he feels the same if not then he'll understand since he's your mate and all and it will just be the same as it was before.
Good Luck, hope I helped!
And... HAPPY EASTER x
oh well talk to him some more
talk to ur bf about him being to sexual and stuff. if he doesnt stop then break up with him and ask the guy out
wow.
this is just like what happened to me lol
first off
break up with the other guy
ugh obnoxiousness is the worst hahah
and as for the best friend
im in this EXACT situation right now
ive been best friends with this guy since 7th grade
and recently he started dating this girl and i got really, really jealous
thats when i realized i might like him as more than a friend. . .you know?
well i decided it wasnt worth my friendship to him cause like you said hes like my big brother
but i think you should definately go for it
if might blossom into something beautiful
( i didnt cause i knew i would just ruin it - im not into long relationships and i would just lose my best friend)
I think that it sounds like yooh two havent talked in a while.....so yooh two should get to know each other a lil' better......then see if there is any connection......yooh may be in love but then again......yooh might not....... lets just say this is a follow your heart situation.....=]
ok so starting off your boyfriend he is going to keep being sexual he's a guy, that part of the relationship is like Pandora's Box once you open you cant shut it, trust me i am a guy i know, but honestly you got to fallow your heart i know that that really doesn't answer your question but you know lifes to short to fool around you know you only live once so talk to him and be obvious but subtle at the same time so you don't seem desperate. and tell your boyfriend that ';our relationship is just all physical there's no depth in it and i don't think i can do this anymore'; but that's is if you want to do that...
do what makes you happy!
So what's the problem? You said Jason is turning obnoxious - so drop him and focus your attention to this andrew guy who's obviously known you more!
I've been in that situation alot of times..
Well first off, do you think he likes you back?
you really have to think about this, i know this is a hard decision..
If Andrew is like how you explained him to be, I think he'd last longer in a relationship.
this is two different problems.
1. your current bf.
if you don't feel that he is the right one for you, just end it.
2. your friend.
you have to find out if he has any feelings for you besides being your friend. talk to him and find out.
GO 4 IT
andrew would prob be better 4 u because he knows more bout u if u gt wid andrew it would prob last longer and ud prob be happier
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I say dump Jason and go for Andrew. If not tell your obnoxious boyfriend to cut it out and continue to be best friend with Andrew and date your boyfriend. It might be rough though, even trying to ask out your best friend.
Hope this helped :-)
First of all- break up with your current boyfriend. If you are having feelings for someone else you can't possibly be in love with him. Next tell your long time friend that you have feelings for him. Make sure you do not do this in reverse order because it is not fair to your boyfriend to keep him as a safety net if the other guy is not interested.
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