Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?

So ive been dating a boy we will call him jason for 9 months on saturday. When we first started dating it was really nice and wonderful. It still is i love him he is just really immature and really sexual and it is kind of obnoxious.


Then there is my best friend we'll call him andrew. We have been friends for 5-6 years. He is like my big brother, a role model everything. I used to have a crush on him and I thought that I was over my crush with him. We have recently started talking again cause we where neighbors and he and i both moved yet we went to the same school. But anyways now i think i am falling for him hard core. and i really have no clue what to do. any advice?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
think about the future, who can u c yourself with in the future right now when you read this?Does anyone have any advice for someone whos dating but thinks she is falling in love with her best friend?
OMG sweetie i had the SAME problem!


Okay so look....


Your relationship with Jason may seem awesome, but its not a good enough relationship if you think of him as obnoxious. I would see him more of a friend if I were you. One of those guys that you can call when your bored and just hang out regularly without a love interest. Now, it may be difficult for you now because 9 months isnt exactly a little amount of time. I recommend you break it off with him.





Now.....Andrew!


The fact that you have known him for a very long time is the key. You know who he truly is and thats what you love about him. Those are the type of guys you need to stick with.





I say you go for andrew. You shouldnt settle for less when you can accomplish an awesome relationship. You deserve to be completely happy!





Best of Luck girl!
If you can describe your boyfriend as immature and obnoxious then the wonderful feelings you had for him are already in the past. Life is too short to waste and you could be wasting both his time and yours. Though it's hard, call these last nine months a bit of fun, and then i suggest you move on.


As for 'Andrew', decisions regarding a friend are always very tricky. Falling in love with your best friend is lucky, but only if you feel there is a chance they return your affections. People tend to be most cautious about approaching their friends because they are afraid of making things awkward, but if you are really close, then either its great and you start dating and it's wonderful, or its sad for a few days then you move on. The torture is not knowing.
re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend first. Think about your life with your boyfriend 5 years from now, and be very honest with yourself. If you dont see any good prospects, and you think that this relationship is short term, then break up with him.





as for your friend, consider the 5-6 years of great friendship, and that crush that keeps coming back, maybe something beautiful can blossom with your friend, and maybe its just you who isnt letting it happen.
if you really like your best mate then i think you should tell your current partner that you still would like to talk but need a bit off time off and see how you feel for a few days and then if you still like your best mate then you should think about getting with them :) x
Dump your immature boyfriend if he's bugging you that much and if you like your mate tell him and see if he feels the same if not then he'll understand since he's your mate and all and it will just be the same as it was before.





Good Luck, hope I helped!





And... HAPPY EASTER x
oh well talk to him some more
talk to ur bf about him being to sexual and stuff. if he doesnt stop then break up with him and ask the guy out
wow.


this is just like what happened to me lol


first off


break up with the other guy


ugh obnoxiousness is the worst hahah





and as for the best friend


im in this EXACT situation right now


ive been best friends with this guy since 7th grade


and recently he started dating this girl and i got really, really jealous


thats when i realized i might like him as more than a friend. . .you know?


well i decided it wasnt worth my friendship to him cause like you said hes like my big brother


but i think you should definately go for it


if might blossom into something beautiful


( i didnt cause i knew i would just ruin it - im not into long relationships and i would just lose my best friend)
I think that it sounds like yooh two havent talked in a while.....so yooh two should get to know each other a lil' better......then see if there is any connection......yooh may be in love but then again......yooh might not....... lets just say this is a follow your heart situation.....=]
ok so starting off your boyfriend he is going to keep being sexual he's a guy, that part of the relationship is like Pandora's Box once you open you cant shut it, trust me i am a guy i know, but honestly you got to fallow your heart i know that that really doesn't answer your question but you know lifes to short to fool around you know you only live once so talk to him and be obvious but subtle at the same time so you don't seem desperate. and tell your boyfriend that ';our relationship is just all physical there's no depth in it and i don't think i can do this anymore'; but that's is if you want to do that...





do what makes you happy!
So what's the problem? You said Jason is turning obnoxious - so drop him and focus your attention to this andrew guy who's obviously known you more!
I've been in that situation alot of times..


Well first off, do you think he likes you back?


you really have to think about this, i know this is a hard decision..


If Andrew is like how you explained him to be, I think he'd last longer in a relationship.
this is two different problems.


1. your current bf.


if you don't feel that he is the right one for you, just end it.


2. your friend.


you have to find out if he has any feelings for you besides being your friend. talk to him and find out.
GO 4 IT
andrew would prob be better 4 u because he knows more bout u if u gt wid andrew it would prob last longer and ud prob be happier





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I say dump Jason and go for Andrew. If not tell your obnoxious boyfriend to cut it out and continue to be best friend with Andrew and date your boyfriend. It might be rough though, even trying to ask out your best friend.





Hope this helped :-)
First of all- break up with your current boyfriend. If you are having feelings for someone else you can't possibly be in love with him. Next tell your long time friend that you have feelings for him. Make sure you do not do this in reverse order because it is not fair to your boyfriend to keep him as a safety net if the other guy is not interested.