I've been dating this guy for almost two months, but I've known him for a year or so. He has issues - super bad depression, and sometimes he's very disturbing, ie talking about killing people or how much he hates everyone.
He's fallen desperately in love with me. He says that he'll never leave me, that I need to tell him everything, and that I'm the only person he has. He's threatened suicide because I was mad at him once, and he's ALWAYS butting into my life - conversations I'm having with friends, or on Myspace he comments on every single bulletin and status and things like that. He's even talking about us getting married one day, and we're not even 16 yet. I'm only 14, even. It's driving me crazy. He's always sort of putting down my accomplishments, too, so that he's the smart one in our relationship, which offends me to no end.
I told my mom all this, and she wants me out of this relationship, pronto. I'm not allowed to hang out with him anymore. And honestly, I don't want him anymore either....but how do I break up with him? He's really in love with me. I'm not feeling this at all but with how unstable he is, I don't know what he'll do. I plan on breaking up with him tomorrow, but I'm kind of nervous.Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
dont go alone.get away from this guy.seriouslyHelp! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
Seriously listen to your mother gtfo of that relationship..you want nothing to do with it. Your gonna have to be a big girl and just turn your back, its the best thing to do for both of you. I would tell his parents also, so that they are aware that he may need help.
Dont worry...
95% of the time people are too scared to commit suicide.
Just tell him that you want to be single right now and focus on yourslef and your school work. Someone like this can bring you down and thats not good. You dont need this.
good luck darlin
Make HIM fall out of love with YOU! ;O Then someone will make a movie out of it. But seriously, be a cow and a slobl around him and diss his friends.
This guy is very disturbed and your life is in danger after you tell him you are breaking up with him. You are right in being nervous, and your mother is right in telling you to get out of this relationship pronto. He is very unstable and has the capacity to kill you, himself and both of you at the same time. Do not correspond with him on Myspace or anywhere else. I suggest that you inform your counselor or the principal of the school, as he is capable of coming to school with a gun and killing you and himself. He is a danger to others and to himself, and the school needs to be informed. Perhaps someone will be able to get in touch with his parents and have someone look at what he has on his computer or in his room that may give a better indication as to what he will do if you were to leave him. He is very sick in the head and needs intervention before he kills someone or himself. Tell your mother of this and she will help you make a decision as to how this needs to be handled. This is a delicate situation, and it may be necessary to contact the police. The police will know how to best handle this situation, and if I were you and your mother, I would notify the police as soon as possible. I suggest you not break up with him tomorrow, and not do so until you are assured as to your safety. This is not something to brush aside, as he is very unstable and unpredictable. He may be suffering from the early signs of schizophrenia and be in need of treatment, and the sooner he gets treatment, the better the chances are that he won't kill someone or himself. Were he to kill himself after you break up with him, don't blame yourself for his death, as you have no control over what he does, but you do have control over what you do to protect your self from him. You have asked a very important question on Yahoo Answers, and I hope you will read what I have told you and will take action to protect yourself. He is very unstable and you are wise to end the relationship.
omg, tell him you care about him and everything however yu cant be everything to him, tell him its not healthy. tell him if he really cares about you he will get help. no one can be truly happy if they hate themselves. if he loves you he has to understand if he doesn't you have to tell him he's being selfish. good luck. also do it somewhere public incase he flips out. like a coffeeshop. also maybe consider having your mom talk to his parents.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Lord I could not even ask advice to a friend.
my boyfriend and meet a month a few weeks now. I from the island and it is a bit different when carribean date.Usually we wait longer to see if the man he serious. I can said that it his the first time in my life that my family know about someone that i m going out with etc... ok we meet and click went out ok, had sex make love and start going out.
1-he works 3 jobs go to school and live with his brother. so only way to be together is to go to a hotel. we see each other 1 or twice a week for a few hours.and talk always in the phone he calls me every minutes.and travel for distances to come see me or pick me up from work.and try to make sure i'm satisfied.My biggest problem is his attitude when i talk and he says i don't care constantly or when i ask him for his opinion and he does like i should only decide.we so far went 3 familly parties and to dinner 1 time. everytime we order food we eat in his car.
Also we went a hotel twice now he only want to have sex in the car and i hate that, i told my condition about my back and knees after a accident,can get worst like that.he said what other solution we have and tells me that he will fix it when he get his own apart. but now I found myself more than once in that position that.so much i decide that if he come to see me next time i will not have sex at all with him.because what if the police come.
I hate when he tells that sex his the only thing in life ,he notice that a few to me I start worried and told him no he told me waht else than. He, yersterday told me that he need to have sex everyday i was like what.(we have sex only 1 or 2 time a week). i worried more and tried to talk to him when he told me that make him feel that he love his woman better.He will constantly tell me how he would like to have sex with me sometime i feel like bad not love for affection or touch. or sofht love making
I let him be itself so i can discover stuff about him. He curse to much sometimes when he talk and i a lot made the remark.he told me that he became like that for certain reason.
when i try to show him why i'm mad or explain someting that i know will upset him just to get a better communication he keep telling me my bad habit and that i get on his nerve.
for valentine I never had nothing from no one before and hope that it will be a nice day soon. Like he will be romantic and go to a dinner and dance with me. he decide already two weeks before we said we will go to a hotel to have sex and keep telling me during this week i can't wait to be paw paw with you.Also he don't want to use condonm and don't want to go get tested wiht me. to tell the truht, i'm hurt.Only a few good souvenir make me smile.
We mad today , i do love him but if that continued my health and person are more important. we are both in our 20's. i'm tired to ear of his big past story how he got girls and him be so proud of it and if i will tell him a story he say ok ok enough.can any dating coach or anyone tell me how to fix this mess.I fell like respect his the mean point there and sexual health.PLEASE ADVICE HOW TO MAKE HIM KNOW THAT HE'S WRONG.
I'm crying while wrinting this can not even review mistakes sorry for the english.ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Don't worry about telling him he's wrong because he could care less.
Seriously, cut your losses and toss this dude out like a parking ticket! You want someone who's going to respect your wishes and physical limits and understands that sex isn't everything. It's important, but it's not everything.
You'll have to be tough, but you don't need to be crying and upset over a manchild.
Take careANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
You need a better man than that, he's bad news
You maybe need to separate for a while then get back together. If he doesn't change well i guess hooking up with someone else is better
being a guy working 3 jobs is mind craming, the sex relaxs hims i bet, w/o a condom is bad news, you should both get tested if your unsure, i think clinics do that for free nowa days, as long as you feel he's really working 3 jobs , then i would say help the man thru it...bj here and there, make sure your not wasting your time.
Just don't give in to his requests, he treating you as a sex object %26amp; he using his past to ';force'; you in giving in to him.
He not respecting you at all, I bet he love himself more then you too.
my boyfriend and meet a month a few weeks now. I from the island and it is a bit different when carribean date.Usually we wait longer to see if the man he serious. I can said that it his the first time in my life that my family know about someone that i m going out with etc... ok we meet and click went out ok, had sex make love and start going out.
1-he works 3 jobs go to school and live with his brother. so only way to be together is to go to a hotel. we see each other 1 or twice a week for a few hours.and talk always in the phone he calls me every minutes.and travel for distances to come see me or pick me up from work.and try to make sure i'm satisfied.My biggest problem is his attitude when i talk and he says i don't care constantly or when i ask him for his opinion and he does like i should only decide.we so far went 3 familly parties and to dinner 1 time. everytime we order food we eat in his car.
Also we went a hotel twice now he only want to have sex in the car and i hate that, i told my condition about my back and knees after a accident,can get worst like that.he said what other solution we have and tells me that he will fix it when he get his own apart. but now I found myself more than once in that position that.so much i decide that if he come to see me next time i will not have sex at all with him.because what if the police come.
I hate when he tells that sex his the only thing in life ,he notice that a few to me I start worried and told him no he told me waht else than. He, yersterday told me that he need to have sex everyday i was like what.(we have sex only 1 or 2 time a week). i worried more and tried to talk to him when he told me that make him feel that he love his woman better.He will constantly tell me how he would like to have sex with me sometime i feel like bad not love for affection or touch. or sofht love making
I let him be itself so i can discover stuff about him. He curse to much sometimes when he talk and i a lot made the remark.he told me that he became like that for certain reason.
when i try to show him why i'm mad or explain someting that i know will upset him just to get a better communication he keep telling me my bad habit and that i get on his nerve.
for valentine I never had nothing from no one before and hope that it will be a nice day soon. Like he will be romantic and go to a dinner and dance with me. he decide already two weeks before we said we will go to a hotel to have sex and keep telling me during this week i can't wait to be paw paw with you.Also he don't want to use condonm and don't want to go get tested wiht me. to tell the truht, i'm hurt.Only a few good souvenir make me smile.
We mad today , i do love him but if that continued my health and person are more important. we are both in our 20's. i'm tired to ear of his big past story how he got girls and him be so proud of it and if i will tell him a story he say ok ok enough.can any dating coach or anyone tell me how to fix this mess.I fell like respect his the mean point there and sexual health.PLEASE ADVICE HOW TO MAKE HIM KNOW THAT HE'S WRONG.
I'm crying while wrinting this can not even review mistakes sorry for the english.ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Don't worry about telling him he's wrong because he could care less.
Seriously, cut your losses and toss this dude out like a parking ticket! You want someone who's going to respect your wishes and physical limits and understands that sex isn't everything. It's important, but it's not everything.
You'll have to be tough, but you don't need to be crying and upset over a manchild.
Take careANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
You need a better man than that, he's bad news
You maybe need to separate for a while then get back together. If he doesn't change well i guess hooking up with someone else is better
being a guy working 3 jobs is mind craming, the sex relaxs hims i bet, w/o a condom is bad news, you should both get tested if your unsure, i think clinics do that for free nowa days, as long as you feel he's really working 3 jobs , then i would say help the man thru it...bj here and there, make sure your not wasting your time.
Just don't give in to his requests, he treating you as a sex object %26amp; he using his past to ';force'; you in giving in to him.
He not respecting you at all, I bet he love himself more then you too.
Girls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
I just turned 18, freshman year at university.
Things (I feel) that have been holding me back from dating are just about to be over forever.
I got braces on late but I am so glad I got them, miracles happened. Anyway I get them off in less than a month.
Physically matured- im 6'2 180 lbs, exercise etc
got over teenage mild acne
mentally matured
so there is this chick i will be working with until february. i already flirt with her and that but should I wait the 2 months or so when I finally hit my prime or should I just go for it now. I know it shouldn't matter if the girls likes me she does either way, but it is such a confidence booster!
any advice?
thanks for the help
cheersGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
i say go for it, what do you have to lose?
2 months wont exactly be your prime, we're always growing, but good luck with itGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
Stick your d|ck in her butt.
Things (I feel) that have been holding me back from dating are just about to be over forever.
I got braces on late but I am so glad I got them, miracles happened. Anyway I get them off in less than a month.
Physically matured- im 6'2 180 lbs, exercise etc
got over teenage mild acne
mentally matured
so there is this chick i will be working with until february. i already flirt with her and that but should I wait the 2 months or so when I finally hit my prime or should I just go for it now. I know it shouldn't matter if the girls likes me she does either way, but it is such a confidence booster!
any advice?
thanks for the help
cheersGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
i say go for it, what do you have to lose?
2 months wont exactly be your prime, we're always growing, but good luck with itGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
Stick your d|ck in her butt.
Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Earlier in the day,my boyfriend texted me yesterday and he said that a girl that is close to his grandma said that I cheated on him,he said she thinks she is hating.I dont know this girl,and she keeps buggin him about it,and its getting to his head.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.dermalogica
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
Dating a Marine & Needs advice/insight!!!!!!!?
m dating a Guy in the Marines, and we had hung out for about a month before he left for japan that was back in March. I have known him all my life we grew up together his mom is my moms childhood best friend, But we hadnt kept in touch when we got older. When i saw him on st patricks day, and was reunited i couldnt believe my eyes, and felt an immediate attraction towards him. We hung out almost everyday up until he left and i had never felt so strongly about someone so quickly. Lately.. i have been feeling so sad and lonely. Its breaking my heart. I dont know how im going to feel when he does finally come back, which might be in december, january, or feb... or might be longer.. he doesnt really know when he is going to be able to take leave. Just somedays, i feel like i cant do this anymore.. and that hopeless feeling will last for a few days. Other days i feel like im on top of the world, when i get to chat with him online, or on a webcam.. the phone.. or even reading his letters.
The feeling was so strong for him, and we had just hung out for a month before he left..... its not like we were dating for a year or whatever and then he left. Sometimes i just dont know if i was being a fool.
Does anyone have any advice? Been in the same situation?
Thanks to anyone who can help%26lt;3Dating a Marine %26amp; Needs advice/insight!!!!!!!?
if you love him that much get a plane ticket to japan and supprise him!
The feeling was so strong for him, and we had just hung out for a month before he left..... its not like we were dating for a year or whatever and then he left. Sometimes i just dont know if i was being a fool.
Does anyone have any advice? Been in the same situation?
Thanks to anyone who can help%26lt;3Dating a Marine %26amp; Needs advice/insight!!!!!!!?
if you love him that much get a plane ticket to japan and supprise him!
Dating a best friend....advice?!?
Dating one of your best friends sounds SO cliche and like half the romantic comedy movies out there. But this is serious question!
I met Chris when I was a sophomore in high school. We were in a college prep group where we spent 5 weeks out of the summer together taking classes to help us get ready for college.
We went to a VERY small high school and we became friends. We also worked at the same grocery store for almost three years.
About two and half years ago, word got out that he liked me. But we just continued to get close, as friends. He was too shy, and I made it clear that I wasn't interested in him THAT way.
Then the summer before I went away to college I decided I liked. him. Again that phase passed. Since then, we've gotten even closer.
I actually got married to someone his sister had dated, which turned out to be abusive. I'm almost legally divorced at the age of 21.
We've both been through several hardships in life, and we've remained friends. I have no intentions of rushing things along, but I'm wondering, if we were able to stay so close for so many years, and still to this day, if we would be able to make it work as a couple? He dosn't know how I feel, and I'm still trying to figure that out myself.
I'm sorry this is so long! I just had to fill everyone in on our history. I would appreciate any thoughts, stories, advice...anything.
We're both still working towards degrees, and it will be a few years before anything will change. He's about to start med school, and I have lots of work to catch up on to get my degree...so we'd have a long wayto go but I would just like any advice here! Thanks in advance.
Dating a best friend....advice?!?
You have to be friends before you can be anything else. If you have that then you have everything. Also remember this, once you have had a relationship with a best friend, if it doesn't work out you can never go back to being best friends. Don't rush things. Take it slow and give it time to work itself out. Dating a best friend....advice?!?
Be with him?
Wow. that story is so romantic.
if you ask me, i think you're meant to be. yes, its rather cliche as you said, but you've been so close for so long, i don't see how you're not meant to be with him.
i would tell him how you feel because if you don't, you could lose him to someone else. you'd regret not telling him in the future. if you begin dating, see where you go and maybe there's something more than friendship between you two. if it doesn't turn out so great, at least you tried, right? you wouldn't spend later years thinking 'what if?'
i'll be honest and tell you that i have no clue about relationships, but i just wanted to give you my input.
I met Chris when I was a sophomore in high school. We were in a college prep group where we spent 5 weeks out of the summer together taking classes to help us get ready for college.
We went to a VERY small high school and we became friends. We also worked at the same grocery store for almost three years.
About two and half years ago, word got out that he liked me. But we just continued to get close, as friends. He was too shy, and I made it clear that I wasn't interested in him THAT way.
Then the summer before I went away to college I decided I liked. him. Again that phase passed. Since then, we've gotten even closer.
I actually got married to someone his sister had dated, which turned out to be abusive. I'm almost legally divorced at the age of 21.
We've both been through several hardships in life, and we've remained friends. I have no intentions of rushing things along, but I'm wondering, if we were able to stay so close for so many years, and still to this day, if we would be able to make it work as a couple? He dosn't know how I feel, and I'm still trying to figure that out myself.
I'm sorry this is so long! I just had to fill everyone in on our history. I would appreciate any thoughts, stories, advice...anything.
We're both still working towards degrees, and it will be a few years before anything will change. He's about to start med school, and I have lots of work to catch up on to get my degree...so we'd have a long wayto go but I would just like any advice here! Thanks in advance.
Dating a best friend....advice?!?
You have to be friends before you can be anything else. If you have that then you have everything. Also remember this, once you have had a relationship with a best friend, if it doesn't work out you can never go back to being best friends. Don't rush things. Take it slow and give it time to work itself out. Dating a best friend....advice?!?
Be with him?
Wow. that story is so romantic.
if you ask me, i think you're meant to be. yes, its rather cliche as you said, but you've been so close for so long, i don't see how you're not meant to be with him.
i would tell him how you feel because if you don't, you could lose him to someone else. you'd regret not telling him in the future. if you begin dating, see where you go and maybe there's something more than friendship between you two. if it doesn't turn out so great, at least you tried, right? you wouldn't spend later years thinking 'what if?'
i'll be honest and tell you that i have no clue about relationships, but i just wanted to give you my input.
Dating/Relationship crisis need advice!!?
okay so it maybe a bit long but please i need your help.
i dated this guy back in high school we lost contact and den found each
other back and we started talking again everyday and nite texting constantly
and so well we happend to meet up at a part. And this guy that i didnt know huged me and the guy i like see so since after that day he havent talken to me. i try texting him and he reply but it seem like he didnt want to talk....den i ask him if he wanna hangout and he said when cool and he would let me know...but now when am hitting him up he isnt answering should i take this as a clue and forget about him...or what do you think is going on.Dating/Relationship crisis need advice!!?
forget him ?
i dated this guy back in high school we lost contact and den found each
other back and we started talking again everyday and nite texting constantly
and so well we happend to meet up at a part. And this guy that i didnt know huged me and the guy i like see so since after that day he havent talken to me. i try texting him and he reply but it seem like he didnt want to talk....den i ask him if he wanna hangout and he said when cool and he would let me know...but now when am hitting him up he isnt answering should i take this as a clue and forget about him...or what do you think is going on.Dating/Relationship crisis need advice!!?
forget him ?
Dating/guy problems, need advice plzzz!!!!!!!!!?
okk. this guy im dating is the sweetest thingg evr. i hav known him for 2 yrs now, but i was too nervous to talk to him, so 2 yrs passed since i first met him. finally, we started talking and on the third day we were hanging out, he french kissed me and told me that he had a huge crush on me all this time. for some reason, even though i enjoyed it, im nervous to hang out wit him, or even see him. also, my parents dont want me dating (they dont know him). i dont know how i truly feel about him, but its really awkward and i kind of dont feel that warm ';love feeling'; couples feel. u know what i mean? anyways, i dont know if i should tell him to slow down cause i feel like hes rushing, or leave him. honestly, im sooo lost here. for some reason, im also kind of ashamed to be with him in public and kissing there too. soo, yeahhh. plzzplzzplzz need helpful advicee! no jokes plzzzz kthnxxx! ;)
ohhhh anddd is dating the same thing as going out? is it close or far from it and y is it different?????Dating/guy problems, need advice plzzz!!!!!!!!!?
Kissing in public no one likes, its called PDA (Public Displays of Affection). No one wants to see that.
If you hang out with him more you will get the love feeling if you actually like him for who he is. You need to overcome any fears you have. If you do feel rushed let him know, he should understand.
You shouldn't be ashamed to be with him in public unless you think hes ugly or something or that hurts your image...Dating/guy problems, need advice plzzz!!!!!!!!!?
thanks, i try :)
ohhhh anddd is dating the same thing as going out? is it close or far from it and y is it different?????Dating/guy problems, need advice plzzz!!!!!!!!!?
Kissing in public no one likes, its called PDA (Public Displays of Affection). No one wants to see that.
If you hang out with him more you will get the love feeling if you actually like him for who he is. You need to overcome any fears you have. If you do feel rushed let him know, he should understand.
You shouldn't be ashamed to be with him in public unless you think hes ugly or something or that hurts your image...Dating/guy problems, need advice plzzz!!!!!!!!!?
thanks, i try :)
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Dating or Possible Kissing Advice???
Tomorow im going to a movie with this girl; i've known for a while but she lives farther away so this will be the first time i've seen her in some time. She knows i like her and i know she likes me too. Well anyway i was wondering what things i could do that a girl would prefer?
I allready told he i was paying for the movie, she argued but i will anyway...ill just get there first =D. So a kiss would be great, she wants to and i want to, but im gonna have to be the one to go for it.
So best ways to kiss? when? or what to do first??
Girls or guys answer,
*girl's answers are prefered* you know anything you would like?Dating or Possible Kissing Advice???
Here are some tips
Have good breath
For God's sake, don't blow your chance to kiss her because you ate ludicrous amounts of garlic at dinner and forgot to bring gum! A good way to avoid this is by thinking ahead and keeping spices and foods that tend to linger to a minimum at dinner. So, when you're ordering, hold the onions and stay away from garlic, curry, and other pungent spices, and opt for foods with lemon or mint instead.
Always keep a pack of gum or mints in your car or in your jacket pocket, and pop some in your mouth as soon as you finish your meal or glass of beer. If you even try to kiss her with horrible breath, you can be sure that that will spell the end.
Pick your moment
You have to know when the moment is right. Like if the conversation stops, your eyes meet and neither of you seems to be able to look away, that is the perfect moment to kiss her. So, you should take the opportunity to do so.
If she is trying to get something out of her eye, or is talking about something that she feels really strongly about, don't kiss her and think that you are being spontaneous. She'll probably wonder what possessed you to do so at such an awkward moment. After all, bad timing is not something that you want to be remembered for.
Don't ask
Never ask a woman for her permission to kiss her. Despite what you might think, women, in general, like it when their man takes charge, especially during a passionate moment. Asking for her permission will make you seem timid and unsure; not sweet and sensitive. So, be a man and kiss her.
Of course, before you do so, you must be sure that she wants you to. Check her body language: if her body is facing, leaning toward, or touching yours, and she is smiling, biting her lip, or playing with her hair, chances are that she's interested in you. So, pick your moment and go for it, boy.
Good Luck and enjoy!Dating or Possible Kissing Advice???
awww that's so cool. so if you want to kiss her it shouldn't be in the theater or before because the movie will be awkward how about after the movie when you are about to depart. try to make it as romantic as possible because a girls first kiss should be very special. and you have to make the first move. and the kiss should naturally come. i know that probably didn't help but good luck on the date hope it works out
well you see..
when shes reaching for popcorn touch her hand *accidentaly*
and then laugh a little like not burst out laughing or anything. but a chuckkle.
and then look at her. not stare at her.
thats freaky.
and then look in to her eyes.and IF the moment feels right then lean in to kiss her.
BUT.
you have to know that she thinks the moment is right.
otherwise.. :S
so it be like a blink or something, or shell be leaning in too for as a signal..
hope tihs helps :)
When you first see her, hold your arms wide open and hug her, then give her a simple kiss on the cheek, to let her know you like her more than just what has been said.
Before the movie starts just lean in and kiss her.
if there is a romantic kiss in the movie, hold her hand and she'll prolly look at you...
if she doesn't, then kiss her cheek and she will...
and then kiss her...
but don't eat her face! and don't be too aggressive...
:] good luck!
hmm ok, well dont make it akward. be a gentlemen, play around. the movies well acidently touch hands in the popcorn buket and look at her in the eyes if the moment is good then kiss her. u no wat to do from then cowboy
You'll know when the moment comes. You should lean in, and she should fit in. If you feel comfortable you could use tongues.
play with her hair a bit and kiss her when she dosent think u r then take her out someplace like a park or something
kiss her on the girl then ask her out! happy loving hahahahaha
good move on insisting to pay (it makes me awkward when he does but it looks better if they do at least once) Make sure you get quiet seats like not wedged between two families or something. well the way it always happens when i go is well while you're watching the movie just steal a glance at her she'll look and look away real quick. She'll put her hand on the arm rest hold her hand. Don't rub her arm (i hate it when guys do that!)
eventually your eyes will lock on to each others (usually this happens at a kissing scene) slowly move in for the kiss,your hand thats unoccupied can move up to her cheek/ hair.
for the kiss, don't slobber all over her, don't try to shove your tongue down her throat. I know one of my friends hates tongue (i don't care as long as he's an expert kisser) so maybe avoid the tongue until she initiates, try not to smash her teeth. Do relax you don't want to make it seem like she's kissing a robot. Stop, for a second, by putting your forehead against hers (don't push on it just gently rest it there) stare into her eyes and whisper to her still staring into her eyes, she looks so beautiful tonight. then kiss her again.
(you'll blow her mind away)
You can kiss for the rest of the movie if you really want to. when the lights come on, it might ruin the moment, break the ice by saying something like, so what was the movie about.
On the way out keep holding her hand, don't let go unless you really have to. You could even put it around her waist but don't leave her hanging.
Hope it helps, let us know if you want more tips
be cute but not cheesy so if you wanna put your arm around her, just do it but not the stupid yawn thing. compliment her (but make sure its genuine). play with her hair. smile at her. a good time to kiss is when you just cant find the words to say to her. i love it when a guy kisses me spontaneously, so maybe do it when she leasts expects it...but nottt during the movie, that just seems like you wanna make out with her and be done with it. im sure you'll be fine, you seem so sweet!! good luck :)
I allready told he i was paying for the movie, she argued but i will anyway...ill just get there first =D. So a kiss would be great, she wants to and i want to, but im gonna have to be the one to go for it.
So best ways to kiss? when? or what to do first??
Girls or guys answer,
*girl's answers are prefered* you know anything you would like?Dating or Possible Kissing Advice???
Here are some tips
Have good breath
For God's sake, don't blow your chance to kiss her because you ate ludicrous amounts of garlic at dinner and forgot to bring gum! A good way to avoid this is by thinking ahead and keeping spices and foods that tend to linger to a minimum at dinner. So, when you're ordering, hold the onions and stay away from garlic, curry, and other pungent spices, and opt for foods with lemon or mint instead.
Always keep a pack of gum or mints in your car or in your jacket pocket, and pop some in your mouth as soon as you finish your meal or glass of beer. If you even try to kiss her with horrible breath, you can be sure that that will spell the end.
Pick your moment
You have to know when the moment is right. Like if the conversation stops, your eyes meet and neither of you seems to be able to look away, that is the perfect moment to kiss her. So, you should take the opportunity to do so.
If she is trying to get something out of her eye, or is talking about something that she feels really strongly about, don't kiss her and think that you are being spontaneous. She'll probably wonder what possessed you to do so at such an awkward moment. After all, bad timing is not something that you want to be remembered for.
Don't ask
Never ask a woman for her permission to kiss her. Despite what you might think, women, in general, like it when their man takes charge, especially during a passionate moment. Asking for her permission will make you seem timid and unsure; not sweet and sensitive. So, be a man and kiss her.
Of course, before you do so, you must be sure that she wants you to. Check her body language: if her body is facing, leaning toward, or touching yours, and she is smiling, biting her lip, or playing with her hair, chances are that she's interested in you. So, pick your moment and go for it, boy.
Good Luck and enjoy!Dating or Possible Kissing Advice???
awww that's so cool. so if you want to kiss her it shouldn't be in the theater or before because the movie will be awkward how about after the movie when you are about to depart. try to make it as romantic as possible because a girls first kiss should be very special. and you have to make the first move. and the kiss should naturally come. i know that probably didn't help but good luck on the date hope it works out
well you see..
when shes reaching for popcorn touch her hand *accidentaly*
and then laugh a little like not burst out laughing or anything. but a chuckkle.
and then look at her. not stare at her.
thats freaky.
and then look in to her eyes.and IF the moment feels right then lean in to kiss her.
BUT.
you have to know that she thinks the moment is right.
otherwise.. :S
so it be like a blink or something, or shell be leaning in too for as a signal..
hope tihs helps :)
When you first see her, hold your arms wide open and hug her, then give her a simple kiss on the cheek, to let her know you like her more than just what has been said.
Before the movie starts just lean in and kiss her.
if there is a romantic kiss in the movie, hold her hand and she'll prolly look at you...
if she doesn't, then kiss her cheek and she will...
and then kiss her...
but don't eat her face! and don't be too aggressive...
:] good luck!
hmm ok, well dont make it akward. be a gentlemen, play around. the movies well acidently touch hands in the popcorn buket and look at her in the eyes if the moment is good then kiss her. u no wat to do from then cowboy
You'll know when the moment comes. You should lean in, and she should fit in. If you feel comfortable you could use tongues.
play with her hair a bit and kiss her when she dosent think u r then take her out someplace like a park or something
kiss her on the girl then ask her out! happy loving hahahahaha
good move on insisting to pay (it makes me awkward when he does but it looks better if they do at least once) Make sure you get quiet seats like not wedged between two families or something. well the way it always happens when i go is well while you're watching the movie just steal a glance at her she'll look and look away real quick. She'll put her hand on the arm rest hold her hand. Don't rub her arm (i hate it when guys do that!)
eventually your eyes will lock on to each others (usually this happens at a kissing scene) slowly move in for the kiss,your hand thats unoccupied can move up to her cheek/ hair.
for the kiss, don't slobber all over her, don't try to shove your tongue down her throat. I know one of my friends hates tongue (i don't care as long as he's an expert kisser) so maybe avoid the tongue until she initiates, try not to smash her teeth. Do relax you don't want to make it seem like she's kissing a robot. Stop, for a second, by putting your forehead against hers (don't push on it just gently rest it there) stare into her eyes and whisper to her still staring into her eyes, she looks so beautiful tonight. then kiss her again.
(you'll blow her mind away)
You can kiss for the rest of the movie if you really want to. when the lights come on, it might ruin the moment, break the ice by saying something like, so what was the movie about.
On the way out keep holding her hand, don't let go unless you really have to. You could even put it around her waist but don't leave her hanging.
Hope it helps, let us know if you want more tips
be cute but not cheesy so if you wanna put your arm around her, just do it but not the stupid yawn thing. compliment her (but make sure its genuine). play with her hair. smile at her. a good time to kiss is when you just cant find the words to say to her. i love it when a guy kisses me spontaneously, so maybe do it when she leasts expects it...but nottt during the movie, that just seems like you wanna make out with her and be done with it. im sure you'll be fine, you seem so sweet!! good luck :)
Dating WHITE MEN? Any Advice?
I'm West-African and there is this guy who finally asked me out after staring at me for 6 months. I like him because just like me,he's smart, tall,polite and laid back. We are both junior in college.
My girlfriends(who are for the most part African-Americans) say that i should not take him seriously, that many white men in the US go out with black women out of curiosity and that he might just being curious to feel how it's like to be with an African Girl.
It Hurts me.... It really hurts me to hear that...
White Men... is it Really how you feel about African and Black girls in general? What do you have to say about this?Dating WHITE MEN? Any Advice?
Hey Im West African too.... Nigerian. Where are you from? To answer your question, I have dated pretty much a lot of white men and Ive had relationships with them.... Im currently in a relationship with a white guy.
Black America women arent open to relationships with white American men, because they have some insecurities which have racial ties and of course..... it always goes back to slavery. Just because THEY dont want to date white guys, doesnt mean you shouldnt. I think African women in general are more open to interracial relationships with white men, than black America women. Hey at least you wont be the single one if you go out with him and like him. The statistics say that close to 70% of black American women in the USA are single.......you dont want to be a statistic now, do you?
We as humans are free to date whoever we want, regardless of colour.... a trivial thing.Dating WHITE MEN? Any Advice?
This is a possibility. Some men are just curious. But, you should be able to tell from how he talks and treats u whether he likes u, or just wants to try something different. Like any relationship its a risk use ur judgement.
um no human relationship never I repeat never developed if there was no curiosity. and by the way i am black . the guy is just interested in you as a woman and a person he is interested give him some props. if he is a racist then he would see you as sub-human or lower than him but he is not
I do not like what honey said below but she was right about the race part why cant you just see him as a boy why dose being white matter
No, if he's dating you it's not just out of ';curiosity'; it's because he wants to date you.
god why do you people always make everything into a race issue, if a guy asks you out he asks you out because he finds something about u pretty amazing.
there are not that many good nice white men out there so be grateful you have found one. Its just another nice guy taken fro us.
go be happy
If he is everything you say he is then I wouldn't worry about what your friends say...The are stereo-typing white men...something they don't like done to them.
I've been with my husband since 1998 we have 2 boys, interracial marriage/dating is ok when you're in love and everything's fine and dandy, but when things start to fall apart
you come to realize how different you are and how society treats you differently. For example my husband started to become insanely jealous one time he grabbed me after coming home, he thought I was cheating on him. I called the police, they didn't even arrest him and one of them asked me if I did anything to cause him to be jealous. Yes some white men will marry a black woman , but if it we're my daughter I would advise her not to marry out of her race.
email me if you'd like to talk more.
Its YOUR CHOICE AS TO WHO YOU WANT TO DATE why do you listen to your friends for there are alot of white men out there that love black women!!!
the guy does not want to date you cuz hes curious its because he likes you!!!!!
=)dermalogica
My girlfriends(who are for the most part African-Americans) say that i should not take him seriously, that many white men in the US go out with black women out of curiosity and that he might just being curious to feel how it's like to be with an African Girl.
It Hurts me.... It really hurts me to hear that...
White Men... is it Really how you feel about African and Black girls in general? What do you have to say about this?Dating WHITE MEN? Any Advice?
Hey Im West African too.... Nigerian. Where are you from? To answer your question, I have dated pretty much a lot of white men and Ive had relationships with them.... Im currently in a relationship with a white guy.
Black America women arent open to relationships with white American men, because they have some insecurities which have racial ties and of course..... it always goes back to slavery. Just because THEY dont want to date white guys, doesnt mean you shouldnt. I think African women in general are more open to interracial relationships with white men, than black America women. Hey at least you wont be the single one if you go out with him and like him. The statistics say that close to 70% of black American women in the USA are single.......you dont want to be a statistic now, do you?
We as humans are free to date whoever we want, regardless of colour.... a trivial thing.Dating WHITE MEN? Any Advice?
This is a possibility. Some men are just curious. But, you should be able to tell from how he talks and treats u whether he likes u, or just wants to try something different. Like any relationship its a risk use ur judgement.
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um no human relationship never I repeat never developed if there was no curiosity. and by the way i am black . the guy is just interested in you as a woman and a person he is interested give him some props. if he is a racist then he would see you as sub-human or lower than him but he is not
I do not like what honey said below but she was right about the race part why cant you just see him as a boy why dose being white matter
No, if he's dating you it's not just out of ';curiosity'; it's because he wants to date you.
god why do you people always make everything into a race issue, if a guy asks you out he asks you out because he finds something about u pretty amazing.
there are not that many good nice white men out there so be grateful you have found one. Its just another nice guy taken fro us.
go be happy
If he is everything you say he is then I wouldn't worry about what your friends say...The are stereo-typing white men...something they don't like done to them.
I've been with my husband since 1998 we have 2 boys, interracial marriage/dating is ok when you're in love and everything's fine and dandy, but when things start to fall apart
you come to realize how different you are and how society treats you differently. For example my husband started to become insanely jealous one time he grabbed me after coming home, he thought I was cheating on him. I called the police, they didn't even arrest him and one of them asked me if I did anything to cause him to be jealous. Yes some white men will marry a black woman , but if it we're my daughter I would advise her not to marry out of her race.
email me if you'd like to talk more.
Its YOUR CHOICE AS TO WHO YOU WANT TO DATE why do you listen to your friends for there are alot of white men out there that love black women!!!
the guy does not want to date you cuz hes curious its because he likes you!!!!!
=)
Dating scan question - need advice on an early scan ? yolk sac?
hi im due next week but midwife is saying she would let me go 14 days over im very concerned at this as i had early scans
two part question
firstly the yolk sac was seen and sonographer said i was 5 plus weeks - ive researched the yolk sac and read its only seen at the earliest in the fifth week of pregnancy is this true??
secondly - i know he will come when ready, but if this is right about the yolk sac then they will be leaving me to go to far over and the placenta doesnt work aswell.
how accurate are scans early in pregnancy and if yolk sac seen i couldnt have been less than five weeks could i?
thanks - and yep i know he might come before then xxxDating scan question - need advice on an early scan ? yolk sac?
Every pregnancy is different but normally it's in the fifth week when you see the yolk sac. They saw mine at 5 1/2 weeks and a few days later at 6 weeks and 1 day they saw the baby with the heartbeat. According to my cycles my due date would be Oct. 30th and according to the yolk sac measurement it would be Nov. 1st, which is pretty darn accurate.
Did you never have any later ultrasounds to see how the baby was growing and to see if your due date had changed? I thought every woman had a 18-20 week ultrasound to measure different parts of the baby and check for birth defects. I'm getting ready to have mine in a week and 3 days. I've even heard of ladies having a 28-32 week ultrasound after that to keep an eye on the baby.
The majority of babies are not born on their due date only like 20% of them are. An on time delivery is one that can come either 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late. After being 2 weeks later than your due date then your baby is arriving a bit off schedule.
Good luck to you and Congrats!Dating scan question - need advice on an early scan ? yolk sac?
You will be fine! The scans are quite accurate in telling how far along you are. Even though the sac can't be seen before 5 weeks, on the scan the size of it would have suggested how long you were. Don't worry about it. Good luck!
two part question
firstly the yolk sac was seen and sonographer said i was 5 plus weeks - ive researched the yolk sac and read its only seen at the earliest in the fifth week of pregnancy is this true??
secondly - i know he will come when ready, but if this is right about the yolk sac then they will be leaving me to go to far over and the placenta doesnt work aswell.
how accurate are scans early in pregnancy and if yolk sac seen i couldnt have been less than five weeks could i?
thanks - and yep i know he might come before then xxxDating scan question - need advice on an early scan ? yolk sac?
Every pregnancy is different but normally it's in the fifth week when you see the yolk sac. They saw mine at 5 1/2 weeks and a few days later at 6 weeks and 1 day they saw the baby with the heartbeat. According to my cycles my due date would be Oct. 30th and according to the yolk sac measurement it would be Nov. 1st, which is pretty darn accurate.
Did you never have any later ultrasounds to see how the baby was growing and to see if your due date had changed? I thought every woman had a 18-20 week ultrasound to measure different parts of the baby and check for birth defects. I'm getting ready to have mine in a week and 3 days. I've even heard of ladies having a 28-32 week ultrasound after that to keep an eye on the baby.
The majority of babies are not born on their due date only like 20% of them are. An on time delivery is one that can come either 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late. After being 2 weeks later than your due date then your baby is arriving a bit off schedule.
Good luck to you and Congrats!Dating scan question - need advice on an early scan ? yolk sac?
You will be fine! The scans are quite accurate in telling how far along you are. Even though the sac can't be seen before 5 weeks, on the scan the size of it would have suggested how long you were. Don't worry about it. Good luck!
Dating problem? ex-bf advice ?
Here's the deal: There is this guy I really like and we went out a couple times, we kissed and stuff. Then I dumped him ( not thinking ) and he went out with another girl. Then they broke up, at the last day of school ( senior year) he got a new girlfriend, and he kept it from me because he knew I liked him still, at his and my other friend's graduation party he left early and then his gf who WAS my friend told me ';Oh me and Jake are going out'; and I got sooo madd so I texted him and he said he really cared what I thought so he dumped her. It's a month later, and yesterday I hung out with my friend Sarah and Jake came. Me and my friend where talking and she said that she will make him kiss me, but Jake overheard us from the other room. So he texted Sarah and he said he sorta likes me, I want him to ask me out!!!! Any advice what to do???Dating problem? ex-bf advice ?
You two are graduated? You're acting like you're in middle school! But if you want him to ask you out then start talking to him regularly and if he shows signs that he likes you, tell him how you feel. If he likes you it won't be very hard.Dating problem? ex-bf advice ?
Just be like ';hey i stil like you very much, and if you like me maybe we should be together.'; Try to Do it in person, if you cant build up enough nerve to do the next best thing,text him! Nothing is uncomfortable in text messages!
good luck :)
tell him you still like him
You two are graduated? You're acting like you're in middle school! But if you want him to ask you out then start talking to him regularly and if he shows signs that he likes you, tell him how you feel. If he likes you it won't be very hard.Dating problem? ex-bf advice ?
Just be like ';hey i stil like you very much, and if you like me maybe we should be together.'; Try to Do it in person, if you cant build up enough nerve to do the next best thing,text him! Nothing is uncomfortable in text messages!
good luck :)
tell him you still like him
Dating story that needs advice!?
it all starts when my bff tells me that peolpe came to her house because her daddy was a reatler and ';they'' wanted to buy a house in verrado. she said once she seen him see fell in love! so.... one school year later, he came to my school. when i seen him he was cute! but my bff dosen't like him anymore.( found someone new). but here is the thing, my school has a system, there is a red team and a black team. its to seperate the grade. my bff is on the red. me and ''cutie'' are on the black. me and bff both didn't get to see him cuz he wasn't i honnors. then 2 weeks later, he's in honnors. so he's in ever one of my classes. i got to know him each time i talk to him our ''thing'' gets stronger. so one day, me and him where walking together at the end of the school day and he said: are you sofia's friend? me: yea. why? he: nothing. me: what do you like her? he: don't tell anyone but i like sofia. and thats when i got mad, but, i didn't show it. while he said that he smile. what do you tikDating story that needs advice!?
i would be honest with him. especially if you are friends. put yourself in his shoes. if you were him, how would you feel if your friend knew that the person u liked wasnt into you, but didnt tell you.
hope this helps
i would be honest with him. especially if you are friends. put yourself in his shoes. if you were him, how would you feel if your friend knew that the person u liked wasnt into you, but didnt tell you.
hope this helps
Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
Well i've been dating this girl for about 3-4 weeks. The first week was mostly phone calls/ text / internet chatting 24/7 like literally. Then the 2nd week we met up, hooked up and act like gf/bf. But things are slowing down. (none the less good tho...) She tells me things are moving to fast... i agree but i think we have a special thing going and we should just ride the wave.
These past weeks, i've noticed we talk/ chat a lot less like its more level now? But its because she makes it that way.. and i really don't understand. We profess how much we like each other but she always comes voices her insecurities. (she was scared from a prior relationship) What am i suppose to do? I really like her, and dont want to lose her. So i try not to pry and initiate convo's. I've tried but i dont want to end up causing irreversible travesties.
Im ready and willing but she tells me things like... ';some days i feel like committing and some days i dont'; What am i suppose to do? Im also worried that since i need alot of attention and affection i might lose her during this hiatus. The 24/7 chatting was supplementing that need but since thats gone what else do i have left to stay?Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
i don麓t even care what you have to say about this girl... get away from unsure girls, been there done that, never going back.
insecurity leads to A LOT of problemsDating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
I think that best thing you can do is try to be her friend, then you can move forward from there. If shes worth your time then you shouldn't mind spending some time building up trust
IT's true what people said above me- unsure girls are bad bad news.
give her time
too much effort mate, you gotta decide if she's worth it
First give her some space and let her think real hard about this.
Like the other answer has said ';Unsure women leads to lots of confusing and heartache';.
It's true, i've been through the same **** too and all it did was hurt me. So best advice i can give you is let her be for a bit, give her a few weeks. Chill with her like you normally would. If she still feels strange about it, just tell her how you feel, make it seem like you mean the world to her and that you would do most anything for her and be by her side when she needs it most. Say it from the heart like you really mean it.
If she still feels unsure about you and acts in a strange way that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable....best thing you can do is just move on, it would be her lose if she lost the man that would give the world to her, not yours.
These past weeks, i've noticed we talk/ chat a lot less like its more level now? But its because she makes it that way.. and i really don't understand. We profess how much we like each other but she always comes voices her insecurities. (she was scared from a prior relationship) What am i suppose to do? I really like her, and dont want to lose her. So i try not to pry and initiate convo's. I've tried but i dont want to end up causing irreversible travesties.
Im ready and willing but she tells me things like... ';some days i feel like committing and some days i dont'; What am i suppose to do? Im also worried that since i need alot of attention and affection i might lose her during this hiatus. The 24/7 chatting was supplementing that need but since thats gone what else do i have left to stay?Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
i don麓t even care what you have to say about this girl... get away from unsure girls, been there done that, never going back.
insecurity leads to A LOT of problemsDating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
I think that best thing you can do is try to be her friend, then you can move forward from there. If shes worth your time then you shouldn't mind spending some time building up trust
IT's true what people said above me- unsure girls are bad bad news.
give her time
too much effort mate, you gotta decide if she's worth it
First give her some space and let her think real hard about this.
Like the other answer has said ';Unsure women leads to lots of confusing and heartache';.
It's true, i've been through the same **** too and all it did was hurt me. So best advice i can give you is let her be for a bit, give her a few weeks. Chill with her like you normally would. If she still feels strange about it, just tell her how you feel, make it seem like you mean the world to her and that you would do most anything for her and be by her side when she needs it most. Say it from the heart like you really mean it.
If she still feels unsure about you and acts in a strange way that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable....best thing you can do is just move on, it would be her lose if she lost the man that would give the world to her, not yours.
What advice would you give a non-Asian who is dating an Asian re customs etc he/she might encounter?
If you were to give advice to a non-Asian who was seriously dating an Asian person, what would be some customs and beliefs that you might tell them about that they might be surprised about down the line?What advice would you give a non-Asian who is dating an Asian re customs etc he/she might encounter?
um, take off your shoes before you go into the house? maybe, don't refuse food--at least try it (for some reason, refusing food is really bad--i suppose it's likened to refusing the culture if you refuse the food..).
but the best advice for the Non-asian would be to ask the Asian, ';are there any customs/traditions i don't know about that i should know so that i won't accidentally offend you, your family/friends?';What advice would you give a non-Asian who is dating an Asian re customs etc he/she might encounter?
Run
it depends. First of all, what ';nationality'; is she/he? Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese etc... next thing is for you to research a little on her/he's customs and beliefs, third thing, get to know him/her above everything. Ask questions. Observe how/what her family does when she/he invites you over to family functions.
Asian starts at part of Russia all the way to Pacific ocean Asia... which part of Asia are we talking about here?
Ask th eperson you are dating what custom their family do. Most asian families are a bit the same but always have something different in it. Most asian families have proper greetings to use on the elder, you might have to take your shoes off before you go in inside their house. You will then be questioned by the dad or someone. Asian families are also very tight with families. If you don't like rice you better or else! Chopsticks you need to learn how to use and properly well-manner with them. Everything else is by asking how to act in front of everyone.
If you are worried about learning customs and beliefs, you need to be more specific which country this ';asian'; is from as we do not share the same customs and beliefs as asian altogether. just an overview... japanese slurp their food to symbolise their appreciation of good food where as we filipinos find it ill-mannered, get the picture?
maybe about how asian parents greatly affects marriage.
theres nothing really surprising.you just have to know her better,particularly her lifestyles..and how she treats other people...
Depends which part of Asia...
Japanese, Chinese. Korean, Philipino, Thai, Indian are all so different!
No difference inside , except all the things cover by skin . We are human being .
Most Asians tend to be more conserative, so they may be more shy about sexuality and stuffs.
If you are dating a Malay female and if you want to marry her, you will probably need a circumcise because that is their customs.
um, take off your shoes before you go into the house? maybe, don't refuse food--at least try it (for some reason, refusing food is really bad--i suppose it's likened to refusing the culture if you refuse the food..).
but the best advice for the Non-asian would be to ask the Asian, ';are there any customs/traditions i don't know about that i should know so that i won't accidentally offend you, your family/friends?';What advice would you give a non-Asian who is dating an Asian re customs etc he/she might encounter?
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it depends. First of all, what ';nationality'; is she/he? Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese etc... next thing is for you to research a little on her/he's customs and beliefs, third thing, get to know him/her above everything. Ask questions. Observe how/what her family does when she/he invites you over to family functions.
Asian starts at part of Russia all the way to Pacific ocean Asia... which part of Asia are we talking about here?
Ask th eperson you are dating what custom their family do. Most asian families are a bit the same but always have something different in it. Most asian families have proper greetings to use on the elder, you might have to take your shoes off before you go in inside their house. You will then be questioned by the dad or someone. Asian families are also very tight with families. If you don't like rice you better or else! Chopsticks you need to learn how to use and properly well-manner with them. Everything else is by asking how to act in front of everyone.
If you are worried about learning customs and beliefs, you need to be more specific which country this ';asian'; is from as we do not share the same customs and beliefs as asian altogether. just an overview... japanese slurp their food to symbolise their appreciation of good food where as we filipinos find it ill-mannered, get the picture?
maybe about how asian parents greatly affects marriage.
theres nothing really surprising.you just have to know her better,particularly her lifestyles..and how she treats other people...
Depends which part of Asia...
Japanese, Chinese. Korean, Philipino, Thai, Indian are all so different!
No difference inside , except all the things cover by skin . We are human being .
Most Asians tend to be more conserative, so they may be more shy about sexuality and stuffs.
If you are dating a Malay female and if you want to marry her, you will probably need a circumcise because that is their customs.
Is dating online successful? Click here! I need advice?
My sister has been talking to this guy online for 2 years. And they just got married over the internet and they are going to meet for the first time next month.
My Mom thinks its romantic.
I think its dangerous and creepy.
my sister is 23.Is dating online successful? Click here! I need advice?
I don't really have a problem with it.
As long as the person is who they say they really are it's totally fine. :)
Help?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>Is dating online successful? Click here! I need advice?
Well, She should definitely make sure to meet him in a public place or to have other people with him when she meets him first.
dating is ok if your young and not in a serious relationship online or in real life ... but never get married over the internet! Honestly your a complete loser if you marry some guy you've never freakin' met and no wedding ( to make matters worse). I think that is really creepy.dermalogica
My Mom thinks its romantic.
I think its dangerous and creepy.
my sister is 23.Is dating online successful? Click here! I need advice?
I don't really have a problem with it.
As long as the person is who they say they really are it's totally fine. :)
Help?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>Is dating online successful? Click here! I need advice?
Well, She should definitely make sure to meet him in a public place or to have other people with him when she meets him first.
dating is ok if your young and not in a serious relationship online or in real life ... but never get married over the internet! Honestly your a complete loser if you marry some guy you've never freakin' met and no wedding ( to make matters worse). I think that is really creepy.
Did i blew it again this time, need your advice in this dating situation.?
I saw this girl at a Subway restaurant last week. She was very beautiful so i waited outside for her and talked to her when she got out of subway. So i just made conversation with her and asked her for her number. She said she is shy and not used to this. So i offered to give mine and then she changed her mind because she liked me as well and gave me her number. So we text messaged back and forth and she said she loves to see me as well. For the next 2 days she had to fly to Mexico and said she wants to meet with me when back. We had a date yesterday and everything went fine. After coffee we walked a lot through the park and around the lake and she said she enjoyed everything. So there at the lake i thought if we dont do anything the we would have nothing going on. So i hugged her and kissed her which she said she is shy but she let me happily. On the way to drop her back to her car we talked about music and other things and there was this silent at the stop light which i wanted to kiss her again and this time she backed away and said you r fast . I felt embarrassed and think it messed up everything. When she was leaving she gave me hug again and i said i was sorry and she said we need to go slow. But today we were suppose to meet for running around the lake and she was suppose text and see me. She did not and called her a lot and texted once. Her cousin sent me a weird message saying '; Alex dont waist your time with her she is an airhead'; I called a lot from my cell and moms and her cousin having her phone did not answer all day. When i called from house phone she got tricked and answered and says she did not text me like that and she had the phone all day Was it simply that she forgot her cell or my kiss messed it up again.Did i blew it again this time, need your advice in this dating situation.?
dude! you blew it! she's shy! leave her be! you don't even KNOW her. why would you have kissed her?! twice! she kept saying she was shy because it's a NICE way to say, ';no, stop.';
dude! you blew it! she's shy! leave her be! you don't even KNOW her. why would you have kissed her?! twice! she kept saying she was shy because it's a NICE way to say, ';no, stop.';
Help!!!! I need advice!!!! How does one get back into the dating scene?
I have been in a ltr for 8 months and now that I am single, I need advice on how to get back in the dating scene and/or some tips on expanding my social circle.Help!!!! I need advice!!!! How does one get back into the dating scene?
get to know people see what people are like if they are interested in the type of person you are stay in touch.
get to know people see what people are like if they are interested in the type of person you are stay in touch.
Here we go again. Need help! GUYS AND GIRLS ADVICE?!?!?!?!!?!?!? Ok, im dating my ex again & i wanna...?
Okay, here we go.
Were together again, but our relationship feels a bit lonely.
We see each other everyday at the pool, but were quiet.
What can i do to make him speak?
Or hang out with me?
(I am really shy, REALLY shy)
Also, i wanna kiss him.
He calls everyday %26amp; we talk, i wanna kiss him, how should i do this.
PLEASE HELP! THANKS!Here we go again. Need help! GUYS AND GIRLS ADVICE?!?!?!?!!?!?!? Ok, im dating my ex again %26amp; i wanna...?
ok lol this is sort of lame but i promise it works. he sounds shy and you are shy too. this never works someone has to open up. so open up! nothing bad can happen i promise!now heres the lame part... when you are at the pool and its time to go either tell him you have a secret, or something to tell him. then give him a hug and act like your going to whisper it into his ear but give him a kiss instead. works everytime i PROMISE!!!! =)Here we go again. Need help! GUYS AND GIRLS ADVICE?!?!?!?!!?!?!? Ok, im dating my ex again %26amp; i wanna...?
OH MY GOODNESS ! i had the same prob i was dating this guy that was completely gorgeous and we all ways saw each other at the pool we had been dating for 3 months and all we did was hold hands and hug i always felt nervous around him and wanted to kiss him so bad but i did not have the guts he tried every time we hugged and i kinda messed it up it was horrible but one day when my dad was coming to pick me up from the pool i just leaned in and kissed it it was simple and after that the relationship was SO much more comfortable he talked way more and we lasted for 6 months
just do it like nike says :p
make small talk, ask how his day was or work or if he'd like to go get some lunch. go from there, whatever comes to mind. if you want to kiss him, try sitting close to him when your at the pool. look at him and when he looks at you back, wait a few seconds to see if he kisses you, if not, kiss him. go slow so you dont surprise him. Just be confident in yourself and dont feel ashamed for what you say or do. Guys like confidence, but not too cocky.
how did you give someone in the marriage section advice when you haven't even kissed your boyfriend. you gave very immature advice and i can see why you are to young.
Work on yur confidence ,, then be really outgoing with him!!
do it like you used to . just peck him hello when you see him and that opens the door to makeout kisses
Just do it! Smile at him and get really close!
just start a small talk and hell start opening up
just hang out with him more
do something really funny to break the ice....tell him pick up lines such as ';your feet must be tired! cause u been running through my mind ALL day!'; lol
do what roxxygrrl13 said, its what i do all the time [=
Were together again, but our relationship feels a bit lonely.
We see each other everyday at the pool, but were quiet.
What can i do to make him speak?
Or hang out with me?
(I am really shy, REALLY shy)
Also, i wanna kiss him.
He calls everyday %26amp; we talk, i wanna kiss him, how should i do this.
PLEASE HELP! THANKS!Here we go again. Need help! GUYS AND GIRLS ADVICE?!?!?!?!!?!?!? Ok, im dating my ex again %26amp; i wanna...?
ok lol this is sort of lame but i promise it works. he sounds shy and you are shy too. this never works someone has to open up. so open up! nothing bad can happen i promise!now heres the lame part... when you are at the pool and its time to go either tell him you have a secret, or something to tell him. then give him a hug and act like your going to whisper it into his ear but give him a kiss instead. works everytime i PROMISE!!!! =)Here we go again. Need help! GUYS AND GIRLS ADVICE?!?!?!?!!?!?!? Ok, im dating my ex again %26amp; i wanna...?
OH MY GOODNESS ! i had the same prob i was dating this guy that was completely gorgeous and we all ways saw each other at the pool we had been dating for 3 months and all we did was hold hands and hug i always felt nervous around him and wanted to kiss him so bad but i did not have the guts he tried every time we hugged and i kinda messed it up it was horrible but one day when my dad was coming to pick me up from the pool i just leaned in and kissed it it was simple and after that the relationship was SO much more comfortable he talked way more and we lasted for 6 months
just do it like nike says :p
make small talk, ask how his day was or work or if he'd like to go get some lunch. go from there, whatever comes to mind. if you want to kiss him, try sitting close to him when your at the pool. look at him and when he looks at you back, wait a few seconds to see if he kisses you, if not, kiss him. go slow so you dont surprise him. Just be confident in yourself and dont feel ashamed for what you say or do. Guys like confidence, but not too cocky.
how did you give someone in the marriage section advice when you haven't even kissed your boyfriend. you gave very immature advice and i can see why you are to young.
Work on yur confidence ,, then be really outgoing with him!!
do it like you used to . just peck him hello when you see him and that opens the door to makeout kisses
Just do it! Smile at him and get really close!
just start a small talk and hell start opening up
just hang out with him more
do something really funny to break the ice....tell him pick up lines such as ';your feet must be tired! cause u been running through my mind ALL day!'; lol
do what roxxygrrl13 said, its what i do all the time [=
I just found out my fiance has had a threesome before dating me. Need your advice.?
(with 2 girls) It was over 5 years ago. But how do I get over it? Everytime I look at him thats all I can picture.I just found out my fiance has had a threesome before dating me. Need your advice.?
It is unfortunate that he told you this or that you found out elsewhere. Just like you, he has a past with good and bad things in it. In a healthy relationship, people recognise the difference between privacy and secrecy. This information is private and really not something you should know about him. What you need to know is that he had sex with people before you (it doesn't matter how many because once someone has had sex, the risk of disease is there, 1 or 100 partners, they could have something) so you can take precautions. A secret is something he intentionally keeps from you that has to do with you and the duration of your relationship. This is not a secret. It happened before you were his partner. This falls under the category of private.
I know that this may be difficult to truly accept. If you cannot, then you need to move on because obviously it is that important to you. Remember, he didn't do this to you. It had nothing to do with you. It doesn't make him a cheater unless he did it while you were together behind your back, which he didn't.
If you think that this act in the past makes him the sort of person whose character you cannot abide with, and you think that he would make the same decision today without regrets (and is therefore unchanged) then you really need to move on. But one of the most loving acts any of us can do is to accept that the person we are with is the person they are today because of the good and bad choices they made yesterday and the lessons they learned from that formed the person we love and cherish now.I just found out my fiance has had a threesome before dating me. Need your advice.?
Well as a man, we really love being punished for being honest with you. Yea think about it, DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS THAT YOU REALLY DON';T WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER!!!! So you are holding his being honest with you against him. And you wonder if next time you ask a question that he knows he should not tell you the real answer, I'm guessing from now on you will only get the answer you want to hear. If not he needs to start to just tell you, '; Of course not honey, you are the first person I ever did anything with.';
You sound more jealous than anything.
Maybe You should find out who they are and try some yourself.
It's in his past. Shouldn't be an issue. If it is, that's not your REAL issue...lol. Trust is trust. We all have pasts. Do you trust him enough to marry him or not?
Listen carefully! ......BEFORE dating you. Get over it already.
You need to get yourself together. now that was years ago, you need to be concentrating on how he is now, has he ever given you any ounce of worry? Then why do all of a sudden you feel so insecure? This is your problem. The only thing I could suggest is for you to talk to him about it, and get it off your chest, once and for all. Now if this does not work, and the relationship is worth saving, you need counseling. Remember this all happened before you, and therefore, you was not in the picture, and your fiance, has matured since then!
The operative words here are '; before he met me'; I dont understand what there is for you to get over.. It doesnt concern you it is in his past. If it bothers you maybe you should reevaluate the relationship.
Don't let his past interfer with yall future,because that is not what attracted you to him and you love him alot he did it in the past so when you two get married he should not be expecting for you to be having one with him or somebody else.He had his fantasy,he don't need another one.And if you don't get past it,it's going to interfer with yall love life,hope you 2 can get through this and work this out.
you have to forget it because if you don't it will ruin your relationship
Seeing is believing.Someone told you. And the news is five years old.Forget it.At least he never repeated the 3some during these long long five years.Stop picturing him perform the 3some act.Boys will be Boys. Keep him attracted towards you, always.
Girl just be glad he got his fantasy already. If that is or was his fantasy. Well he shouldn't ask you to do it. Besides you never know what to expect from someones past if they aren't a virgin.
Maybe you won't be able to get over it. Maybe it's so horrible to you, it goes against everything you believe in. Maybe you've lost respect and feel disgust toward your fiance. Maybe you should end it with him, and look to meet someone who values sexual intimacy more.
Why is it bothering you? Do you really think that you are the only one he's ever slept with, that's very childish and immature! There's nothing for you to get over his past doesn't involve you unless he is still in contact with these women!! Get a Grip!! I hate to be mean or sound unsympathetic, but I don't think that should bother you!! My fiance told me the same thing and he did this on a regular basis with a woman he was dating and her friend!! It doesn't bother me because this happened way before me and he hasn't talk to her in 6-7 years!!
So what? It is past tense. He had it b4 he started dating you. Why does it matter now?
I won't be silly enough to suggest you have a 3-some as well ( 2 guys or 2 gals, depends on your choice) , but hey he is one lucky chap. 3-some!!! Hmmm. it is one of my fantasies.
Reminds me of that episode in Coupling, where the guy thinks that his girl friend is bringing a girlfriend for a 3-some, but she actually brings a guy!
Think of it this way, the past is the past, and alot of people say that their past is what made them who they are today. You should feel greatful that he told you about it in the first place. Things like that can be hard to admit. He is with you now, and obviously wants to marry YOU, not anyone else. I wouldnt let it bother you, although, i know thats easier said than done. Try not to make a big deal out of it though, as it could possibly cause some problems.
The past is called that for a reason. Let it lay in the past, and start new, and make him his own memories of YOU.
Try to stop thinking about it and think about the present.
Let the past be just that the past. Unless he is trying to get you into a threesome then why worry about it. Certainly there are areas of your past that concerning also. We all have ghosts in the closet, just leave them there and trust that this stage of his life is over now that he has found you.
It was before you. Let it go.
Why is it bothering you? it was five years ago, how do you think he feels when he thinks of your screwing somebody else? You just sound jealous, theres really nothing to get over.
That was 5 yrs ago.It's one thing if he did it now, but come on. Why does that bother you now? Are you going to let something like that get in the way of a shot at true love and happiness? If you are, then your getting married for all the wrong reasons.
If you can't get over it, then there is a problem with the relationship.
One, maybe you just knew that he had a threesome but never talked about it. Two, he never did anything to assure you it was a one time thing and would never ever happen again. Three, though the you two are not yet together then you feel that it is something that he has done to you, and you can't forgive him for it.
Well, if this will always be an issue it is better to call the relationship of you won't have a peaceful mind if you can't go over it. Or the both of you should talk about it. Or give him this chance with you and in doing so it is to accept everything in his past, but SHOULD never be something of the present.
Hey,
that is his past, now just think of those you have dated before,
i bet they have done things that you do not even know of, or for that matter even unwilling to tell you for fear of your reaction.
Not everyone around you is innocent, not even your friends or best friend.
if you can not accept that someone performed an act that is un acceptable to you. Then one must ask what is it that you base your boundries of acceptance on.
are you really that perfect that you can point to what you consider the faults of others and base your decisions on that.
Seems like you may not really want to be with him, if you are concerned about something five years ago.
were you even with him and did you even know him then.
the guy is just being honest with you, is it realy that hard for you to understand honesty.
i think there is more going on here that what is being said, possibly on both sides.
here's the deal when we marry someone. we have to forgive them for their pasts. you need to quit thinking about him in a three-some and he needs to promise you he won't think about you on prom night in the back of that mustang with the taffeta dress hiked around your ears. unless of course, I totally mis-read the question and you want to be invited to his next three-some.
He probably had montezuma's revenge (dysentery, food poisoning...like what you get after eating fish tacos froma street vendor in tiajuana) before he met you also.... why dont you put that picture in your head instead? What if you marry him and he develops a disease in 5 years that will lead you to holding his vomitous head and cleaning the chunks out of his hair.
You can dwell in the past or worry about messy events in the future or you can live in the present. Up to you!
Your in a pretty bad situation. I think if he's had a threesome that I didn't know about till' later I would dump the guy. Because, if he wanted you to know he would've told you sooner but he didn't. And it's not like he forgot.
If it is bothering you this much and you can't get past it, it may split you up. You need to think about how important it is really. If he liked it that much he wouldn't want to married to just one women. I am sure it is just something he wanted to try and not significant now. I expect you have done stuff in the past that you regret, and you wouldn't want him to hold it against you.
It is unfortunate that he told you this or that you found out elsewhere. Just like you, he has a past with good and bad things in it. In a healthy relationship, people recognise the difference between privacy and secrecy. This information is private and really not something you should know about him. What you need to know is that he had sex with people before you (it doesn't matter how many because once someone has had sex, the risk of disease is there, 1 or 100 partners, they could have something) so you can take precautions. A secret is something he intentionally keeps from you that has to do with you and the duration of your relationship. This is not a secret. It happened before you were his partner. This falls under the category of private.
I know that this may be difficult to truly accept. If you cannot, then you need to move on because obviously it is that important to you. Remember, he didn't do this to you. It had nothing to do with you. It doesn't make him a cheater unless he did it while you were together behind your back, which he didn't.
If you think that this act in the past makes him the sort of person whose character you cannot abide with, and you think that he would make the same decision today without regrets (and is therefore unchanged) then you really need to move on. But one of the most loving acts any of us can do is to accept that the person we are with is the person they are today because of the good and bad choices they made yesterday and the lessons they learned from that formed the person we love and cherish now.I just found out my fiance has had a threesome before dating me. Need your advice.?
Well as a man, we really love being punished for being honest with you. Yea think about it, DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS THAT YOU REALLY DON';T WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER!!!! So you are holding his being honest with you against him. And you wonder if next time you ask a question that he knows he should not tell you the real answer, I'm guessing from now on you will only get the answer you want to hear. If not he needs to start to just tell you, '; Of course not honey, you are the first person I ever did anything with.';
You sound more jealous than anything.
Maybe You should find out who they are and try some yourself.
It's in his past. Shouldn't be an issue. If it is, that's not your REAL issue...lol. Trust is trust. We all have pasts. Do you trust him enough to marry him or not?
Listen carefully! ......BEFORE dating you. Get over it already.
You need to get yourself together. now that was years ago, you need to be concentrating on how he is now, has he ever given you any ounce of worry? Then why do all of a sudden you feel so insecure? This is your problem. The only thing I could suggest is for you to talk to him about it, and get it off your chest, once and for all. Now if this does not work, and the relationship is worth saving, you need counseling. Remember this all happened before you, and therefore, you was not in the picture, and your fiance, has matured since then!
The operative words here are '; before he met me'; I dont understand what there is for you to get over.. It doesnt concern you it is in his past. If it bothers you maybe you should reevaluate the relationship.
Don't let his past interfer with yall future,because that is not what attracted you to him and you love him alot he did it in the past so when you two get married he should not be expecting for you to be having one with him or somebody else.He had his fantasy,he don't need another one.And if you don't get past it,it's going to interfer with yall love life,hope you 2 can get through this and work this out.
you have to forget it because if you don't it will ruin your relationship
Seeing is believing.Someone told you. And the news is five years old.Forget it.At least he never repeated the 3some during these long long five years.Stop picturing him perform the 3some act.Boys will be Boys. Keep him attracted towards you, always.
Girl just be glad he got his fantasy already. If that is or was his fantasy. Well he shouldn't ask you to do it. Besides you never know what to expect from someones past if they aren't a virgin.
Maybe you won't be able to get over it. Maybe it's so horrible to you, it goes against everything you believe in. Maybe you've lost respect and feel disgust toward your fiance. Maybe you should end it with him, and look to meet someone who values sexual intimacy more.
Why is it bothering you? Do you really think that you are the only one he's ever slept with, that's very childish and immature! There's nothing for you to get over his past doesn't involve you unless he is still in contact with these women!! Get a Grip!! I hate to be mean or sound unsympathetic, but I don't think that should bother you!! My fiance told me the same thing and he did this on a regular basis with a woman he was dating and her friend!! It doesn't bother me because this happened way before me and he hasn't talk to her in 6-7 years!!
So what? It is past tense. He had it b4 he started dating you. Why does it matter now?
I won't be silly enough to suggest you have a 3-some as well ( 2 guys or 2 gals, depends on your choice) , but hey he is one lucky chap. 3-some!!! Hmmm. it is one of my fantasies.
Reminds me of that episode in Coupling, where the guy thinks that his girl friend is bringing a girlfriend for a 3-some, but she actually brings a guy!
Think of it this way, the past is the past, and alot of people say that their past is what made them who they are today. You should feel greatful that he told you about it in the first place. Things like that can be hard to admit. He is with you now, and obviously wants to marry YOU, not anyone else. I wouldnt let it bother you, although, i know thats easier said than done. Try not to make a big deal out of it though, as it could possibly cause some problems.
The past is called that for a reason. Let it lay in the past, and start new, and make him his own memories of YOU.
Try to stop thinking about it and think about the present.
Let the past be just that the past. Unless he is trying to get you into a threesome then why worry about it. Certainly there are areas of your past that concerning also. We all have ghosts in the closet, just leave them there and trust that this stage of his life is over now that he has found you.
It was before you. Let it go.
Why is it bothering you? it was five years ago, how do you think he feels when he thinks of your screwing somebody else? You just sound jealous, theres really nothing to get over.
That was 5 yrs ago.It's one thing if he did it now, but come on. Why does that bother you now? Are you going to let something like that get in the way of a shot at true love and happiness? If you are, then your getting married for all the wrong reasons.
If you can't get over it, then there is a problem with the relationship.
One, maybe you just knew that he had a threesome but never talked about it. Two, he never did anything to assure you it was a one time thing and would never ever happen again. Three, though the you two are not yet together then you feel that it is something that he has done to you, and you can't forgive him for it.
Well, if this will always be an issue it is better to call the relationship of you won't have a peaceful mind if you can't go over it. Or the both of you should talk about it. Or give him this chance with you and in doing so it is to accept everything in his past, but SHOULD never be something of the present.
Hey,
that is his past, now just think of those you have dated before,
i bet they have done things that you do not even know of, or for that matter even unwilling to tell you for fear of your reaction.
Not everyone around you is innocent, not even your friends or best friend.
if you can not accept that someone performed an act that is un acceptable to you. Then one must ask what is it that you base your boundries of acceptance on.
are you really that perfect that you can point to what you consider the faults of others and base your decisions on that.
Seems like you may not really want to be with him, if you are concerned about something five years ago.
were you even with him and did you even know him then.
the guy is just being honest with you, is it realy that hard for you to understand honesty.
i think there is more going on here that what is being said, possibly on both sides.
here's the deal when we marry someone. we have to forgive them for their pasts. you need to quit thinking about him in a three-some and he needs to promise you he won't think about you on prom night in the back of that mustang with the taffeta dress hiked around your ears. unless of course, I totally mis-read the question and you want to be invited to his next three-some.
He probably had montezuma's revenge (dysentery, food poisoning...like what you get after eating fish tacos froma street vendor in tiajuana) before he met you also.... why dont you put that picture in your head instead? What if you marry him and he develops a disease in 5 years that will lead you to holding his vomitous head and cleaning the chunks out of his hair.
You can dwell in the past or worry about messy events in the future or you can live in the present. Up to you!
Your in a pretty bad situation. I think if he's had a threesome that I didn't know about till' later I would dump the guy. Because, if he wanted you to know he would've told you sooner but he didn't. And it's not like he forgot.
If it is bothering you this much and you can't get past it, it may split you up. You need to think about how important it is really. If he liked it that much he wouldn't want to married to just one women. I am sure it is just something he wanted to try and not significant now. I expect you have done stuff in the past that you regret, and you wouldn't want him to hold it against you.
My boyfriend & I have been dating almost 6 years now -- advice on how to spice up sex like it used to be?
At the beginning of our relationship, like most relationships the sex was hott and frequent, and he couldn't keep his hands off me.. I loved that I could turn him on that easily. Now its less frequent, and I realize that people grow up but I would like to have that part of our relationship back.. Guys and girls, any ideas or stories on how to turn him on and drive him crazy? Thank you!My boyfriend %26amp; I have been dating almost 6 years now -- advice on how to spice up sex like it used to be?
Make sex unpredictable.
Don't go thru the same motions everytime. Don't say ';lets go have sex'; Change it up.
Surprise him with sex.
Make sex unpredictable.
Don't go thru the same motions everytime. Don't say ';lets go have sex'; Change it up.
Surprise him with sex.
My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
her first real boyfriend...few years older than her. she is easily influenced and is starting to go against everything i sayMy 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
you have a MAJOR problem...My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
Forbid her to see him anymore.
Who is the adult in your house?
u should tell her she dont need him and beet HIM with a bar thats what i do
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a ';gang'; member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
so this is a real problem n needs a real solution!
she is too young to date huh, well anyway just be firm and this time u'll need ur hubby's help... good luck
Meet the dude, and stand uncomfortably close to him, Look him up and down like you're a guard dog. Give her a curfew.
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
Your mom and dad should set boundries for her. If I had a daughter I would not even allow her to date at that age. When she gets into trouble she needs to be grounded for a long time. He will get tired of it and find another girl. I would do anything to get her away from that lifestyle.
Well, I'd have to say that if you are letting your 15 year old daughter date, you have already lost the battle. Don't think that's too young? It is, as evidenced by her choice of a ';boyfriend.';
Lock her in her room. Who is the adult in your family???
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
YOU are the problem!
Why are YOU letting YOUR 15 year-old daughter date?
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
You NEED to take CONTROL then! Before it gets real bad! Think about this, drugs, sex, illegal activity, etc. Parents now a days seriously NEED to remember that they are the parents, and the kids are just that KIDS. If you feel your kids are being influenced, do something about it.
Move! Move now! Put her in a private school. Move now!
#1 you made a mistake in letting her date at this age.
#2 you need to step up as a parent
#3 I would talk to the boy...tell him your rules about dating your daughter and your fears about his lifestyle and what that means to your daughter and your family
#4 Make sure your daughter is aware of the rules and that you expect HER to make the right choice in how much she gets involved with this boy.
#5 at this point, most of what you are going to have to is problem solve. earlier in her life if you parented her, you would only be dealing with prevention now...but...good luck...this is a difficult thing at this point.
Grab her and move far away
There's a million reasons why you couldn't....But you could!
intervention
Umm... give me his number and I can take care of that. (;
jk. Talk to her, even if she doesn't seem to be listening or argues back, she WILL remember what you tell her.
oh boy.
I wasnt allowed to date when I was 15!
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
I guess it is the time to send her away to live with other family and friends, you can even try to get her to sign in international students where she moves to a different country to keep up with school, believe me if you offer her a better adventure over a wild gasta, she would take it. Check with your school district to see what are your options. Once she gets in with him there are two ways out, jail or death. I speak for experience since I have known many friends and family going trough that way and guess what, I had to stop going to funerals and visitations to jail because, I couldn't keep up.
oh, good luck with that.
send her to a boot camp or move to another state or plant drugs on him somehow n get him arrested for it,, get him capped off
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
I think they say '; if by age 12 you havent instilled high moral values. forget it you've lost.';
Hey ! you only got 2+ years to wait to kick her out.
kill her
You are the parent. Lay down the rules. This could ruin her life. She is a minor and it sounds like he is not. Very bad situation all the way around.
stoppp them from dateing and tell her to find her a real man!
Sounds like she's running the show at your place. Gee, that's tough.
Especially the part about you missing out on the PARENTING experience during these wonder years.
You ought to try it.
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?dermalogica
you have a MAJOR problem...My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
Forbid her to see him anymore.
Who is the adult in your house?
u should tell her she dont need him and beet HIM with a bar thats what i do
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a ';gang'; member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
so this is a real problem n needs a real solution!
she is too young to date huh, well anyway just be firm and this time u'll need ur hubby's help... good luck
Meet the dude, and stand uncomfortably close to him, Look him up and down like you're a guard dog. Give her a curfew.
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
Your mom and dad should set boundries for her. If I had a daughter I would not even allow her to date at that age. When she gets into trouble she needs to be grounded for a long time. He will get tired of it and find another girl. I would do anything to get her away from that lifestyle.
Well, I'd have to say that if you are letting your 15 year old daughter date, you have already lost the battle. Don't think that's too young? It is, as evidenced by her choice of a ';boyfriend.';
Lock her in her room. Who is the adult in your family???
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
YOU are the problem!
Why are YOU letting YOUR 15 year-old daughter date?
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
You NEED to take CONTROL then! Before it gets real bad! Think about this, drugs, sex, illegal activity, etc. Parents now a days seriously NEED to remember that they are the parents, and the kids are just that KIDS. If you feel your kids are being influenced, do something about it.
Move! Move now! Put her in a private school. Move now!
#1 you made a mistake in letting her date at this age.
#2 you need to step up as a parent
#3 I would talk to the boy...tell him your rules about dating your daughter and your fears about his lifestyle and what that means to your daughter and your family
#4 Make sure your daughter is aware of the rules and that you expect HER to make the right choice in how much she gets involved with this boy.
#5 at this point, most of what you are going to have to is problem solve. earlier in her life if you parented her, you would only be dealing with prevention now...but...good luck...this is a difficult thing at this point.
Grab her and move far away
There's a million reasons why you couldn't....But you could!
intervention
Umm... give me his number and I can take care of that. (;
jk. Talk to her, even if she doesn't seem to be listening or argues back, she WILL remember what you tell her.
oh boy.
I wasnt allowed to date when I was 15!
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
I guess it is the time to send her away to live with other family and friends, you can even try to get her to sign in international students where she moves to a different country to keep up with school, believe me if you offer her a better adventure over a wild gasta, she would take it. Check with your school district to see what are your options. Once she gets in with him there are two ways out, jail or death. I speak for experience since I have known many friends and family going trough that way and guess what, I had to stop going to funerals and visitations to jail because, I couldn't keep up.
oh, good luck with that.
send her to a boot camp or move to another state or plant drugs on him somehow n get him arrested for it,, get him capped off
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
I think they say '; if by age 12 you havent instilled high moral values. forget it you've lost.';
Hey ! you only got 2+ years to wait to kick her out.
kill her
You are the parent. Lay down the rules. This could ruin her life. She is a minor and it sounds like he is not. Very bad situation all the way around.
stoppp them from dateing and tell her to find her a real man!
Sounds like she's running the show at your place. Gee, that's tough.
Especially the part about you missing out on the PARENTING experience during these wonder years.
You ought to try it.
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?
Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Whoo..I'm so hurt right now..but anyhow I met this guy at my gym he was a personal trainer, and basically he asked me out when I intially met him, but I didn't take him up on his offer, so a few months past, and I asked him to join me at starbucks, he told me he was busy, then we put it off and he told me he was too broke, so thogught to myself, okay I'm not messing with tim because he['s flaky, so i see him at the gym about three weeks ago and he asks me out again...and he calls me a few days later and tells me his uncle and close friend died, and that when he sees me at the gym, he'll let me know when we can hang out again..so a few days laster I see him, and he text messages me, asking me ';How come i didn't speak to him? And I'm thinking Huh...but you were training? So today,.I just ask him flat out if there is anyone at the current moment that he likes more than a friend'; and he tells me that there is and she's his top myspace friend..so i ask him if he likes me more than a frie
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and he tells me that ';He can't say that he do'; and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?
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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?Dating confusion..I need advice!?
He is definetly is a good catch don't you think?
Was that a joke or a question?
Move on said the swan.Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Look, it doesn't matter if he's a good catch or not -- it's whether he a) likes you enough to go out with you, and b) makes time for you.
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and he tells me that ';He can't say that he do'; and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?
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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?Dating confusion..I need advice!?
He is definetly is a good catch don't you think?
Was that a joke or a question?
Move on said the swan.Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Look, it doesn't matter if he's a good catch or not -- it's whether he a) likes you enough to go out with you, and b) makes time for you.
Dating a guy in the army? advice?
I am 17 and alot more mature for my age (i have been thru alot) he is just turned 23.
And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.
i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.
Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..
well just make sure you're ready for a very
serious relationship him not being there all the time
and the possibility of him getting shipped off..
the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009
and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that
i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)
If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?
listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.
My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)
My advice to you:
1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.
2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.
3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)
Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)
And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.
i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.
Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..
well just make sure you're ready for a very
serious relationship him not being there all the time
and the possibility of him getting shipped off..
the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009
and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that
i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)
If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?
listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.
My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)
My advice to you:
1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.
2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.
3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)
Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)
My boyfriend & I have been dating almost 6 years now -- advice on how to spice up sex like it used to be?
At the beginning of our relationship, like most relationships the sex was hott and frequent, and he couldn't keep his hands off me.. I loved that I could turn him on that easily. Now its less frequent, and I realize that people grow up but I would like to have that part of our relationship back.. Guys and girls, any ideas or stories on how to turn him on and drive him crazy? Thank you!My boyfriend %26amp; I have been dating almost 6 years now -- advice on how to spice up sex like it used to be?
Make sex unpredictable.
Don't go thru the same motions everytime. Don't say ';lets go have sex'; Change it up.
Surprise him with sex.
Make sex unpredictable.
Don't go thru the same motions everytime. Don't say ';lets go have sex'; Change it up.
Surprise him with sex.
My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
her first real boyfriend...few years older than her. she is easily influenced and is starting to go against everything i sayMy 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
you have a MAJOR problem...My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
Forbid her to see him anymore.
Who is the adult in your house?
u should tell her she dont need him and beet HIM with a bar thats what i do
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a ';gang'; member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
so this is a real problem n needs a real solution!
she is too young to date huh, well anyway just be firm and this time u'll need ur hubby's help... good luck
Meet the dude, and stand uncomfortably close to him, Look him up and down like you're a guard dog. Give her a curfew.
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
Your mom and dad should set boundries for her. If I had a daughter I would not even allow her to date at that age. When she gets into trouble she needs to be grounded for a long time. He will get tired of it and find another girl. I would do anything to get her away from that lifestyle.
Well, I'd have to say that if you are letting your 15 year old daughter date, you have already lost the battle. Don't think that's too young? It is, as evidenced by her choice of a ';boyfriend.';
Lock her in her room. Who is the adult in your family???
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
YOU are the problem!
Why are YOU letting YOUR 15 year-old daughter date?
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
You NEED to take CONTROL then! Before it gets real bad! Think about this, drugs, sex, illegal activity, etc. Parents now a days seriously NEED to remember that they are the parents, and the kids are just that KIDS. If you feel your kids are being influenced, do something about it.
Move! Move now! Put her in a private school. Move now!
#1 you made a mistake in letting her date at this age.
#2 you need to step up as a parent
#3 I would talk to the boy...tell him your rules about dating your daughter and your fears about his lifestyle and what that means to your daughter and your family
#4 Make sure your daughter is aware of the rules and that you expect HER to make the right choice in how much she gets involved with this boy.
#5 at this point, most of what you are going to have to is problem solve. earlier in her life if you parented her, you would only be dealing with prevention now...but...good luck...this is a difficult thing at this point.
Grab her and move far away
There's a million reasons why you couldn't....But you could!
intervention
Umm... give me his number and I can take care of that. (;
jk. Talk to her, even if she doesn't seem to be listening or argues back, she WILL remember what you tell her.
oh boy.
I wasnt allowed to date when I was 15!
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
I guess it is the time to send her away to live with other family and friends, you can even try to get her to sign in international students where she moves to a different country to keep up with school, believe me if you offer her a better adventure over a wild gasta, she would take it. Check with your school district to see what are your options. Once she gets in with him there are two ways out, jail or death. I speak for experience since I have known many friends and family going trough that way and guess what, I had to stop going to funerals and visitations to jail because, I couldn't keep up.
oh, good luck with that.
send her to a boot camp or move to another state or plant drugs on him somehow n get him arrested for it,, get him capped off
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
I think they say '; if by age 12 you havent instilled high moral values. forget it you've lost.';
Hey ! you only got 2+ years to wait to kick her out.
kill her
You are the parent. Lay down the rules. This could ruin her life. She is a minor and it sounds like he is not. Very bad situation all the way around.
stoppp them from dateing and tell her to find her a real man!
Sounds like she's running the show at your place. Gee, that's tough.
Especially the part about you missing out on the PARENTING experience during these wonder years.
You ought to try it.
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?
you have a MAJOR problem...My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
Forbid her to see him anymore.
Who is the adult in your house?
u should tell her she dont need him and beet HIM with a bar thats what i do
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a ';gang'; member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
so this is a real problem n needs a real solution!
she is too young to date huh, well anyway just be firm and this time u'll need ur hubby's help... good luck
Meet the dude, and stand uncomfortably close to him, Look him up and down like you're a guard dog. Give her a curfew.
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
Your mom and dad should set boundries for her. If I had a daughter I would not even allow her to date at that age. When she gets into trouble she needs to be grounded for a long time. He will get tired of it and find another girl. I would do anything to get her away from that lifestyle.
Well, I'd have to say that if you are letting your 15 year old daughter date, you have already lost the battle. Don't think that's too young? It is, as evidenced by her choice of a ';boyfriend.';
Lock her in her room. Who is the adult in your family???
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
YOU are the problem!
Why are YOU letting YOUR 15 year-old daughter date?
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
You NEED to take CONTROL then! Before it gets real bad! Think about this, drugs, sex, illegal activity, etc. Parents now a days seriously NEED to remember that they are the parents, and the kids are just that KIDS. If you feel your kids are being influenced, do something about it.
Move! Move now! Put her in a private school. Move now!
#1 you made a mistake in letting her date at this age.
#2 you need to step up as a parent
#3 I would talk to the boy...tell him your rules about dating your daughter and your fears about his lifestyle and what that means to your daughter and your family
#4 Make sure your daughter is aware of the rules and that you expect HER to make the right choice in how much she gets involved with this boy.
#5 at this point, most of what you are going to have to is problem solve. earlier in her life if you parented her, you would only be dealing with prevention now...but...good luck...this is a difficult thing at this point.
Grab her and move far away
There's a million reasons why you couldn't....But you could!
intervention
Umm... give me his number and I can take care of that. (;
jk. Talk to her, even if she doesn't seem to be listening or argues back, she WILL remember what you tell her.
oh boy.
I wasnt allowed to date when I was 15!
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
I guess it is the time to send her away to live with other family and friends, you can even try to get her to sign in international students where she moves to a different country to keep up with school, believe me if you offer her a better adventure over a wild gasta, she would take it. Check with your school district to see what are your options. Once she gets in with him there are two ways out, jail or death. I speak for experience since I have known many friends and family going trough that way and guess what, I had to stop going to funerals and visitations to jail because, I couldn't keep up.
oh, good luck with that.
send her to a boot camp or move to another state or plant drugs on him somehow n get him arrested for it,, get him capped off
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
I think they say '; if by age 12 you havent instilled high moral values. forget it you've lost.';
Hey ! you only got 2+ years to wait to kick her out.
kill her
You are the parent. Lay down the rules. This could ruin her life. She is a minor and it sounds like he is not. Very bad situation all the way around.
stoppp them from dateing and tell her to find her a real man!
Sounds like she's running the show at your place. Gee, that's tough.
Especially the part about you missing out on the PARENTING experience during these wonder years.
You ought to try it.
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?
Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Whoo..I'm so hurt right now..but anyhow I met this guy at my gym he was a personal trainer, and basically he asked me out when I intially met him, but I didn't take him up on his offer, so a few months past, and I asked him to join me at starbucks, he told me he was busy, then we put it off and he told me he was too broke, so thogught to myself, okay I'm not messing with tim because he['s flaky, so i see him at the gym about three weeks ago and he asks me out again...and he calls me a few days later and tells me his uncle and close friend died, and that when he sees me at the gym, he'll let me know when we can hang out again..so a few days laster I see him, and he text messages me, asking me ';How come i didn't speak to him? And I'm thinking Huh...but you were training? So today,.I just ask him flat out if there is anyone at the current moment that he likes more than a friend'; and he tells me that there is and she's his top myspace friend..so i ask him if he likes me more than a frie
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and he tells me that ';He can't say that he do'; and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?
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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?Dating confusion..I need advice!?
He is definetly is a good catch don't you think?
Was that a joke or a question?
Move on said the swan.Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Look, it doesn't matter if he's a good catch or not -- it's whether he a) likes you enough to go out with you, and b) makes time for you.
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and he tells me that ';He can't say that he do'; and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?
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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?Dating confusion..I need advice!?
He is definetly is a good catch don't you think?
Was that a joke or a question?
Move on said the swan.Dating confusion..I need advice!?
Look, it doesn't matter if he's a good catch or not -- it's whether he a) likes you enough to go out with you, and b) makes time for you.
Dating a guy in the army? advice?
I am 17 and alot more mature for my age (i have been thru alot) he is just turned 23.
And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.
i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.
Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..
well just make sure you're ready for a very
serious relationship him not being there all the time
and the possibility of him getting shipped off..
the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009
and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that
i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)
If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?
listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.
My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)
My advice to you:
1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.
2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.
3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)
Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)apply eyeshadow
And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.
i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.
Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..
well just make sure you're ready for a very
serious relationship him not being there all the time
and the possibility of him getting shipped off..
the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009
and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that
i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)
If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?
listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.
My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)
My advice to you:
1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.
2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.
3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)
Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)
Am I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous & Dating )?
Hey, This is my first question ever so enjoy it while you can 83
I'm basically in my first 'REAL' relation [lets just say] The only problem now is I know that I have low-self-esteem and attend to get Jealous easy. I really don't react and get over it but sometimes it attends to get annoying.
The guy I'm dating is friends with some chic and they've been friends for about 8+ years; And its not just that they've been friends its that they've 'done' things together in the past and she always attends to 'touch' him alot. I know I'm alittle paranoid but I'm not sure what to do, I've gone to online help for a last resort.
P.S; I looked at other questions and this isn't just because their friends, Its that there close and have done things. I mainly want to know if I'm over-reacting or if he is going to far?
Thanks,
~ NucozihAm I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
You said she is Touchy with him, you did not say he acts the same way. It may be that they have been around each other so long, she does it out of habit with out even realizing she is doing it, Unless of course she does it then looks at you to see if you are reacting to it. If that is the case she may feel her friendship is threaten by you, Showing you she has rights with your boyfriend, And there is nothing you can do about it. But My dear yes there is , first if you %26amp; your boyfriend are getting serious, you need to tell him you know they are just friends, but her always touching him, Makes you feel she is still wanting more than friendship, %26amp; would he please ask her out of respect for you to stop it, that he is with you now %26amp; it is not right for another woman, friend or not to always be putting her hands on him. If he won't do it then you need to right in front of him when she does it.If you don't this relationship will not last, because you will develop trust issues, %26amp; then it isn't worth being in anyway. BE STRONG You can do it, %26amp; will gain self esteem by doing so!Am I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
well it depends what have they done?
I'm basically in my first 'REAL' relation [lets just say] The only problem now is I know that I have low-self-esteem and attend to get Jealous easy. I really don't react and get over it but sometimes it attends to get annoying.
The guy I'm dating is friends with some chic and they've been friends for about 8+ years; And its not just that they've been friends its that they've 'done' things together in the past and she always attends to 'touch' him alot. I know I'm alittle paranoid but I'm not sure what to do, I've gone to online help for a last resort.
P.S; I looked at other questions and this isn't just because their friends, Its that there close and have done things. I mainly want to know if I'm over-reacting or if he is going to far?
Thanks,
~ NucozihAm I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
You said she is Touchy with him, you did not say he acts the same way. It may be that they have been around each other so long, she does it out of habit with out even realizing she is doing it, Unless of course she does it then looks at you to see if you are reacting to it. If that is the case she may feel her friendship is threaten by you, Showing you she has rights with your boyfriend, And there is nothing you can do about it. But My dear yes there is , first if you %26amp; your boyfriend are getting serious, you need to tell him you know they are just friends, but her always touching him, Makes you feel she is still wanting more than friendship, %26amp; would he please ask her out of respect for you to stop it, that he is with you now %26amp; it is not right for another woman, friend or not to always be putting her hands on him. If he won't do it then you need to right in front of him when she does it.If you don't this relationship will not last, because you will develop trust issues, %26amp; then it isn't worth being in anyway. BE STRONG You can do it, %26amp; will gain self esteem by doing so!Am I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
well it depends what have they done?
Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
I texted my friend Mark about how i liked his brother nick's and wanted Nick to ask me out and call me. 30 min later i get a phone call. and Nick is calling from Mark's cell phone. He said that he read the text and liked me and wanted to date me. He also said that he wanted a long term relationship and was ready to meet my parents. I said ok i want a long term realtionship too. he said that he had to go but hed call me tommrow. and said Bye Sweety....are we dating? are we going out?Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
DUH!!! Do you need abig light bulb to go over your head for you to read between the damn lines?!?! Are you sooo shallow???
On a nicer note, yes sweetie, you guys would be officially together.Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
Woah that's hella fast for you two to be going out already and already meeting the family. I think that you two should go out on a couple of dates first then you can see if you're really really interested in this guy first just don't rush into things toooo FAST
Honey take it from a guy that has been around awhile....He doesn't want a long term relationship on the first date. As soon as he gets you in bed he will be gone. Don't fall for his ';polite'; act. Give it a few dates first and see if he is really sincere. I doubt it though. good luck!
DUH!!! Do you need abig light bulb to go over your head for you to read between the damn lines?!?! Are you sooo shallow???
On a nicer note, yes sweetie, you guys would be officially together.Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
Woah that's hella fast for you two to be going out already and already meeting the family. I think that you two should go out on a couple of dates first then you can see if you're really really interested in this guy first just don't rush into things toooo FAST
Honey take it from a guy that has been around awhile....He doesn't want a long term relationship on the first date. As soon as he gets you in bed he will be gone. Don't fall for his ';polite'; act. Give it a few dates first and see if he is really sincere. I doubt it though. good luck!
Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
I can see men checking me out and won't get asked out. I have tried 'safe' online dating where I have met creeps asking for money. I have even questioned a good friends about this and I was told that men probably think I am not available and that I look like the kind of woman who doesn't tolerate games. Help!Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
HEY, BUTTERFLY....
IF YOU'RE RECENTLY DIVORCED (AFTER 25-YEARS
OF BEING MARRIED).... TAKE MY ADVICE AND STAY
SINGLE !!! TAKE IT FROM AN EXPERT AT THE OLE
';LOVED-AND-LOST'; THANG.... YOU'LL NEVER BE
MORE HAPPY THAN YOU ARE TODAY. BY THE WAY.... THE ONLY THING THAT'S CHANGED IN THE LAST 25-YEARS.... IS YOU, SUGAR!!! JUST MAKE-UP
YOUR MIND TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.... AND LOVE IT !!!!Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
The main thing is not to so much look everywhere for men, but sort of enjoy your life and the opportunities will come. If you do see a cute guy you want to talk to, say, in the grocery store. Just make small talk. It's not much or anything at all. But it'll get the butterflies out of your stomach. Being able to have a conversation with a complete stranger is a good thing to pick up. The best way to think of it is this. What do you have to lose? So a guy doesn't turn out to have an interest in you? F him. Move on. There will be more, better guys out there. I'm sure there are some low key bars where you can find some men. Not every bar is crazy insane party or a dump. Look for the in between.
HEY, BUTTERFLY....
IF YOU'RE RECENTLY DIVORCED (AFTER 25-YEARS
OF BEING MARRIED).... TAKE MY ADVICE AND STAY
SINGLE !!! TAKE IT FROM AN EXPERT AT THE OLE
';LOVED-AND-LOST'; THANG.... YOU'LL NEVER BE
MORE HAPPY THAN YOU ARE TODAY. BY THE WAY.... THE ONLY THING THAT'S CHANGED IN THE LAST 25-YEARS.... IS YOU, SUGAR!!! JUST MAKE-UP
YOUR MIND TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.... AND LOVE IT !!!!Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
The main thing is not to so much look everywhere for men, but sort of enjoy your life and the opportunities will come. If you do see a cute guy you want to talk to, say, in the grocery store. Just make small talk. It's not much or anything at all. But it'll get the butterflies out of your stomach. Being able to have a conversation with a complete stranger is a good thing to pick up. The best way to think of it is this. What do you have to lose? So a guy doesn't turn out to have an interest in you? F him. Move on. There will be more, better guys out there. I'm sure there are some low key bars where you can find some men. Not every bar is crazy insane party or a dump. Look for the in between.
43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
I have to say that I never expected to date a 18yr younger woman! Do relationships like this ever work? It feels right! She has 2 children and so do I from prior marriages! She is independent so I don't suppect a gold digger! Need some advice!43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
You're only seventeen years older, what's the problem. I've known couples with age differences a lot more that yours and they worked out just fine. Just make sure she is right for you. Don't jump into anything to quickly, especially if she starts pushing you into one. A year or longer would be a good time to really and truly get to know her inside and out. If she doesn't want to wait, say thanks and so long. Good luck to you sir.43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
I date older guys. I am 25.
Usually I stay in the late 30's range.
I would not put her in the ';gold digger'; category this soon. Many women just prefer men that are older than them because they feel like they can respect them. Every girl wants a man that she can look up to and have true respect for. Maturity is also an added bonus.
Frankly I would rather see a man or woman stick closer to their own age group. Do you have lot in common other than sex. Also if you married her you would be raising 2 young children, guess you have thought of that. It's your life and it is hers so I am not judging...really up to you two after all.
no reason why it cant, ive seen it work before and if it feels right then keep going. your just dating right now so keep it there for now and take it slow. if you really look at your relationship with her from all angles and it seems bullet proof then theres no reason why cant work ';til death does you apart'; haha good luck bro!
Thats kool man i feel for ya but not like i would dump my wife for a younger chick its just how the strings unravel but no man just be your self she'll love you for who you are just be more supportive thats all i think if your asking whats changed in the passed years
Answer Number Two.- hahahaha.
Question- Wow.
Kinda wierd. but its yer life.
Have Fun %26amp;%26amp; Enjoy it.
Man my fiance is 40 and I am 19 dont worry about it if you two are happy then good nothing more to worry about
Richard?
I'm currently dating a girl that is 23 and I'm 39. She hasn't ever been married and doesn't have any baggage (children), so I've got you beat my man! LOL...
If it feels right, then it's all good bro. Go for it.
Sort of wierd but if you love her and it works thna good luck/
you dont need us --- its up to the both of you -- if you dont see the age then enjoy what you have ---- best wishes
hell yea son get em ur doing a good job.they mostly do my mom is 30 he bf is 50 been together 12 years
John?
Follow your heart. It will never lie and from what you say, will lead you into her arms.
if u love her go for it.
get her pregnant and wear a seat belt.
You're only seventeen years older, what's the problem. I've known couples with age differences a lot more that yours and they worked out just fine. Just make sure she is right for you. Don't jump into anything to quickly, especially if she starts pushing you into one. A year or longer would be a good time to really and truly get to know her inside and out. If she doesn't want to wait, say thanks and so long. Good luck to you sir.43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
I date older guys. I am 25.
Usually I stay in the late 30's range.
I would not put her in the ';gold digger'; category this soon. Many women just prefer men that are older than them because they feel like they can respect them. Every girl wants a man that she can look up to and have true respect for. Maturity is also an added bonus.
Frankly I would rather see a man or woman stick closer to their own age group. Do you have lot in common other than sex. Also if you married her you would be raising 2 young children, guess you have thought of that. It's your life and it is hers so I am not judging...really up to you two after all.
no reason why it cant, ive seen it work before and if it feels right then keep going. your just dating right now so keep it there for now and take it slow. if you really look at your relationship with her from all angles and it seems bullet proof then theres no reason why cant work ';til death does you apart'; haha good luck bro!
Thats kool man i feel for ya but not like i would dump my wife for a younger chick its just how the strings unravel but no man just be your self she'll love you for who you are just be more supportive thats all i think if your asking whats changed in the passed years
Answer Number Two.- hahahaha.
Question- Wow.
Kinda wierd. but its yer life.
Have Fun %26amp;%26amp; Enjoy it.
Man my fiance is 40 and I am 19 dont worry about it if you two are happy then good nothing more to worry about
Richard?
I'm currently dating a girl that is 23 and I'm 39. She hasn't ever been married and doesn't have any baggage (children), so I've got you beat my man! LOL...
If it feels right, then it's all good bro. Go for it.
Sort of wierd but if you love her and it works thna good luck/
you dont need us --- its up to the both of you -- if you dont see the age then enjoy what you have ---- best wishes
hell yea son get em ur doing a good job.they mostly do my mom is 30 he bf is 50 been together 12 years
John?
Follow your heart. It will never lie and from what you say, will lead you into her arms.
if u love her go for it.
get her pregnant and wear a seat belt.
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