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how about you actually ask a question here--that's what Y!A is for, right?
Thank's for the free two point's!!
What exactly do you want to know?
Sounds like you're too young for dating.
Stay in school.
Perhaps trying to get us to spam a friend or enemy?
Oh well...+2
Monday, August 23, 2010
Can I please get some serious and thoughtful advice? I have been dating a man for the past 6 months...?
but I don't know if I want to continue. When we met last year at work, we didn't hit it off at all. But this past February, after joking with each other, we ended up exchanging phone numbers. Our conversations led to a date...which led to an ';us';. At first, he was very attentive, considerate, sweet, kind...the whole nine yards. That was 6 months ago. Now, all that has changed. He is studying for an accounting examination, and I must admit that he needs to devote quite a bit of time to his studies. But it seems as if he finds time for everything else (outside of his studies and work) except me. Little things that he used to do, such as sending e-cards, love notes etc. have stopped. The only time he will do those things is when I get upset and talk to him about his complacency. I could expect this if we'd been together for more than a year, but so soon? Also, since late, I've stopped going by his home for sleepovers...only because I want him to miss me more. Thanks in advance.Can I please get some serious and thoughtful advice? I have been dating a man for the past 6 months...?
Well, from a guy's perspective, it's often difficult for us to be sweet, kind, and attentive while trying to be focused on something that requires a lot of attention. While I haven't personally been through the CPA exam, I've had two friends go through it and I wouldn't want to!!! The books and the dry information that seems to be endless are enough to suck every ounce of libido from anyone!
If you are looking for him to dote on you constantly, then perhaps you need to re-examine your expectations, especially during this point in his life. I'm guess his studing for his career is taking priority over sleep and eating, not just you. Be patient. He still has deep feelings for you, but is currently distracted by the overwhelming amount of information he is trying to absorb for his exams.Can I please get some serious and thoughtful advice? I have been dating a man for the past 6 months...?
It sounds like things have changed but were you really into him in the beginning? I'm currently reading ';Be honest - You're Not That Into Him Either'; by Ian Kerner. It's a book about standards and why women are settling now more then ever; it's kind of funny and informative , it's not a lot of psych babel bull s***. Good for you for knowing what you want and standing your ground.
Sorry to say this but the honeymoon phase of this relationship is over. This is the time where you get to know one another as real ppl. With the accounting exam I can understand his head being all over the place. This exam means alot to him...it's his lfe work all put into one huge test. Do you talk to him everyday??? Do you at least see him once a week or more??? If so he's into you... just a bit distracted. We all go through periods like this. I'm sorry to say my guy has never sent me a just because e-card or note or anything...but we share alot more, we talk and communicate. It's the big things thatmatter and the important little things like having fun together. You not staying over seems selfish...do you miss him??? If you do you're also punishing yourself.
If I you were I'd just take it as it comes and see how it pans out...that's best advice I can give.
True love is not found in a man. Mans love comes and goes like the very thoughts we have throughout the day.But God has such a perfect plan for your life. He even has the perfect mate for if you only trust him.
A mans love flows like the wind
But the love of our Lord Jesus can forgive any sin.
God Bless.
well I think he is feeling in safe I mean he thinks now he got everything and everything is ok U will accept as he is he thinks he won U!!!
U should talk to him straight face to face and tell him what U think! be aware : he might cheat on U!!!!!!!
Try to think that this is only a period in your relationship. We must be stressed with his problems and he cannot find for the moment that romantic resources.
I will fix soon!
Explain it to him and tell him if things don't change for good then you will have to break up. Because he isn't showing you that he loves you and you need to know that he loves you.
This sounds like an end of a relationship. Of course I can't be sure, you should talk about your feelings once more to your bf, and ask what is going on. Say him how you feel, and ask him how he feels. There's no use in going on, if one of you had have enough...
Sorry. Take care.
Sounds like the ';honeymoon'; phase is over. In most relationships there a period of time where you both still get that tingly feeling and you both want to be around eachother 24/7 and do sweet things for eachother all the time. Then after a while you don't need to because you're comfortable and happy and don't need to impress eachother anymore. Unfortunately after this honeymoon phase is over it feels like the relationship is just flat and that the ';spark'; is missing but I don't think you should give up. You're just in a different phase now. Try and be content with being a partner with him not just a romance interest. Just because he isn't doing the romantic things doesn't mean he still doesn't feel the same way as before.
personally wat i do in situations like this is jus to sit down and talk to them.... ik this may sound hard but start off wit a simple question like ';how do you think we are doing'; and hopefully that can spark a convo. wit him...... if that dosent work i usually try '; how do you think we can make the relationship better?'; good luck and ik this is hard but u can get through it... all relationships have thier ups and downs... .jus gotta fight through them.
it was probably good while it lasted, but if this was supposed to be a long term thing the sparks wouldnt have faded so quickly. i would probably call it quits, cause the man that your supposed to be with wont take this much work ( especially right off the bat). good luck!
I think you should dump him but gently say we just arent as close as we used to be. . .
end it, if ur not happy then theres no point to the relationship
Possibly time to trade him in for a newer model, especially as you have already talked to him about his complacency once or twice before.
Guys do settle in %26amp; quit with all of the little things that we ladies love! Once they've ';got us';, they don't feel the need to pursue anymore - thus, all of the special stuff they do that really hooks us into them goes by the wayside. Furthermore, guys are really pretty dense. They don't take hints well, they really dont' understand subtle hints at all - you have to practically smack them over the head to get what you want! So not going over for sleepovers won't make him miss you more - but it will leave the door open for someone else to waltz into his life. If you love him, be prepared for this to remain as it is. He's stopped with his ';date'; behavior %26amp; you are seeing the real him. If you aren't seriously involved or don't love him, then perhaps you should move along. Easier said than done, I know. But you've already talked to him about what you need/expect %26amp; it didn't work. And if he can find time for everything but you, then maybe he's begun to pull away. Getting upset at him isn't the answer %26amp; does nothing but mess you up, not him. Sit down %26amp; talk to him - one more time! - %26amp; ask him what he wants, where does he see the two of you going with your relationship, how he really feels about you. Be straightforward with him, don't play head games or be coy. He needs to explain to you what's going on with him. Then you decide if it's something you want, or not . . .
Good luck!! I hope this helps!
I think that it's kind of silly of you to stop going by his home ';for sleepovers,'; and then complain that he's changed because he has no time for you. Don't try to trick him into missing you, if you miss spending time with him, go to his house.
Hi, sorry to hear this, but I think you already know where this is going. BUT if you sincerely want to save this relationship you need to sit down with him and ask him up front where he is as far as you and he are concerned. And tell him everything you have mentioned here. You need at the very least some of the attention from him. If he can spare this time you mention for himself he can surely commit some time for you. If not just tell him C YA!
Communication is the only way to fix this. Go talk with him about this and let him know your very serious.
It is true that he should be more attentive to you. Of course it's understandable that he's under alot of pressure studying but that isn't a good enough reason for him to put you on hold without any consideration to your feelings.
Don't let him get away with this behavior, tell him that he must sort out his priorities and let you know where you stand.
sorry but you are asking the wrong people!!!
Ask him!!! Sit down and talk, don't waste another minute with silly games...Talk talk and more talk in relationships keep them strong
Good luck
It sounds as if this exam he's about to take is pretty much consuming most of his time. Those are tough exams. Be patient with him for a while. Once the exam is over, if he is still not as attentive, then have a talk as to whether he feels your relationship is going to make it. He worked hard to win your love, he just doesn't have the time right now to work so hard...you expect a lot....maybe too much.
seems like he doesnt appreciate how sexy and beautiful you are. thats not good. you took away the sugah and he still doesnt find time for you? he cant like you too much then......certainly not enough for you to waste your time on him..........
Well, from a guy's perspective, it's often difficult for us to be sweet, kind, and attentive while trying to be focused on something that requires a lot of attention. While I haven't personally been through the CPA exam, I've had two friends go through it and I wouldn't want to!!! The books and the dry information that seems to be endless are enough to suck every ounce of libido from anyone!
If you are looking for him to dote on you constantly, then perhaps you need to re-examine your expectations, especially during this point in his life. I'm guess his studing for his career is taking priority over sleep and eating, not just you. Be patient. He still has deep feelings for you, but is currently distracted by the overwhelming amount of information he is trying to absorb for his exams.Can I please get some serious and thoughtful advice? I have been dating a man for the past 6 months...?
It sounds like things have changed but were you really into him in the beginning? I'm currently reading ';Be honest - You're Not That Into Him Either'; by Ian Kerner. It's a book about standards and why women are settling now more then ever; it's kind of funny and informative , it's not a lot of psych babel bull s***. Good for you for knowing what you want and standing your ground.
Sorry to say this but the honeymoon phase of this relationship is over. This is the time where you get to know one another as real ppl. With the accounting exam I can understand his head being all over the place. This exam means alot to him...it's his lfe work all put into one huge test. Do you talk to him everyday??? Do you at least see him once a week or more??? If so he's into you... just a bit distracted. We all go through periods like this. I'm sorry to say my guy has never sent me a just because e-card or note or anything...but we share alot more, we talk and communicate. It's the big things thatmatter and the important little things like having fun together. You not staying over seems selfish...do you miss him??? If you do you're also punishing yourself.
If I you were I'd just take it as it comes and see how it pans out...that's best advice I can give.
True love is not found in a man. Mans love comes and goes like the very thoughts we have throughout the day.But God has such a perfect plan for your life. He even has the perfect mate for if you only trust him.
A mans love flows like the wind
But the love of our Lord Jesus can forgive any sin.
God Bless.
well I think he is feeling in safe I mean he thinks now he got everything and everything is ok U will accept as he is he thinks he won U!!!
U should talk to him straight face to face and tell him what U think! be aware : he might cheat on U!!!!!!!
Try to think that this is only a period in your relationship. We must be stressed with his problems and he cannot find for the moment that romantic resources.
I will fix soon!
Explain it to him and tell him if things don't change for good then you will have to break up. Because he isn't showing you that he loves you and you need to know that he loves you.
This sounds like an end of a relationship. Of course I can't be sure, you should talk about your feelings once more to your bf, and ask what is going on. Say him how you feel, and ask him how he feels. There's no use in going on, if one of you had have enough...
Sorry. Take care.
Sounds like the ';honeymoon'; phase is over. In most relationships there a period of time where you both still get that tingly feeling and you both want to be around eachother 24/7 and do sweet things for eachother all the time. Then after a while you don't need to because you're comfortable and happy and don't need to impress eachother anymore. Unfortunately after this honeymoon phase is over it feels like the relationship is just flat and that the ';spark'; is missing but I don't think you should give up. You're just in a different phase now. Try and be content with being a partner with him not just a romance interest. Just because he isn't doing the romantic things doesn't mean he still doesn't feel the same way as before.
personally wat i do in situations like this is jus to sit down and talk to them.... ik this may sound hard but start off wit a simple question like ';how do you think we are doing'; and hopefully that can spark a convo. wit him...... if that dosent work i usually try '; how do you think we can make the relationship better?'; good luck and ik this is hard but u can get through it... all relationships have thier ups and downs... .jus gotta fight through them.
it was probably good while it lasted, but if this was supposed to be a long term thing the sparks wouldnt have faded so quickly. i would probably call it quits, cause the man that your supposed to be with wont take this much work ( especially right off the bat). good luck!
I think you should dump him but gently say we just arent as close as we used to be. . .
end it, if ur not happy then theres no point to the relationship
Possibly time to trade him in for a newer model, especially as you have already talked to him about his complacency once or twice before.
Guys do settle in %26amp; quit with all of the little things that we ladies love! Once they've ';got us';, they don't feel the need to pursue anymore - thus, all of the special stuff they do that really hooks us into them goes by the wayside. Furthermore, guys are really pretty dense. They don't take hints well, they really dont' understand subtle hints at all - you have to practically smack them over the head to get what you want! So not going over for sleepovers won't make him miss you more - but it will leave the door open for someone else to waltz into his life. If you love him, be prepared for this to remain as it is. He's stopped with his ';date'; behavior %26amp; you are seeing the real him. If you aren't seriously involved or don't love him, then perhaps you should move along. Easier said than done, I know. But you've already talked to him about what you need/expect %26amp; it didn't work. And if he can find time for everything but you, then maybe he's begun to pull away. Getting upset at him isn't the answer %26amp; does nothing but mess you up, not him. Sit down %26amp; talk to him - one more time! - %26amp; ask him what he wants, where does he see the two of you going with your relationship, how he really feels about you. Be straightforward with him, don't play head games or be coy. He needs to explain to you what's going on with him. Then you decide if it's something you want, or not . . .
Good luck!! I hope this helps!
I think that it's kind of silly of you to stop going by his home ';for sleepovers,'; and then complain that he's changed because he has no time for you. Don't try to trick him into missing you, if you miss spending time with him, go to his house.
Hi, sorry to hear this, but I think you already know where this is going. BUT if you sincerely want to save this relationship you need to sit down with him and ask him up front where he is as far as you and he are concerned. And tell him everything you have mentioned here. You need at the very least some of the attention from him. If he can spare this time you mention for himself he can surely commit some time for you. If not just tell him C YA!
Communication is the only way to fix this. Go talk with him about this and let him know your very serious.
It is true that he should be more attentive to you. Of course it's understandable that he's under alot of pressure studying but that isn't a good enough reason for him to put you on hold without any consideration to your feelings.
Don't let him get away with this behavior, tell him that he must sort out his priorities and let you know where you stand.
sorry but you are asking the wrong people!!!
Ask him!!! Sit down and talk, don't waste another minute with silly games...Talk talk and more talk in relationships keep them strong
Good luck
It sounds as if this exam he's about to take is pretty much consuming most of his time. Those are tough exams. Be patient with him for a while. Once the exam is over, if he is still not as attentive, then have a talk as to whether he feels your relationship is going to make it. He worked hard to win your love, he just doesn't have the time right now to work so hard...you expect a lot....maybe too much.
seems like he doesnt appreciate how sexy and beautiful you are. thats not good. you took away the sugah and he still doesnt find time for you? he cant like you too much then......certainly not enough for you to waste your time on him..........
Advice, thoughts, pros, cons on dating with 20 yr difference?
The girl (23) is very mature for her age, a college grad, has a good job... has been through alot in life... always lived w/father so is def not seeking a parent, she wants to have a family one day and a loving man.
The guy (43) chose the career path after the military in hopes he'd find a wife somewhere along the way... women he'd been with cheated.. he took time to figure himself out and what he wanted and focused on work. now owns a house and has a good stable job and wants a family.
they both agree on many things, life, children, relationships, love, have some of the same friends... The girl is friends with his mother and two brothers, helped move him into his home and set up/organize it. There is a flirtation between them nothing more than friendship... the girl wants to wait till marriage or engagement for sex and the guy knows this... could this become a good relationship/marriage?Advice, thoughts, pros, cons on dating with 20 yr difference?
I think its great if they are in LOVE then they need to go for it what is age anyway but a number? Though they need to work everything out ahead of time such as having a family if the y both want that and all.Advice, thoughts, pros, cons on dating with 20 yr difference?
You never know. Age is a state of mind.
My hubby is nearly 12 years older than me....and we've been together 8 yrs.
Age gap may not show up right now but it may be source of friction as they advance in age. He may loose his vitality and sex urge with time. If one is willing to make the relationship work despite all odds, it will work.
it could b good. ur both adults and know what u want. go 4 it and see where it leads. good luck.
Age is just a story. There are lots of successful marriages just like this one.
When the novelty wears off, you would resent the age difference. Think when you are 43 and he is 63. Someday you would most likely be left alone with the kids. (most likely he will pass away sooner.) Are you sure your not looking for a father? If its true love then its meant to be regardless.
It could but remember when your 40 he will be 60. If love a person age does not mean anything
im 19 and my husband is 34 and that age difference has never been a problem in our relationship,we even have a daughter together and im now pregnant again, ive found that age difference is never a problem unless the couple make it be
yes. True love stands no boundaries as long as you truly love each other and got happiness out of it.
It sounds like a good relationship and it sounds as if you both have the same priorities which could be a problem with the age difference. If the relationship is open to communication then talk about it.
PROS: The both know what they want in life, most guys our age nowadays still don't have their priorities on track and and still don't know what they want out of life. There is also the wisdom the guy has, like you said he's been through alot so with that said he has learned how he would like to be treated so he will most likely treat her with the respect he wants, he owns his own house and a good stable job, the guy is well off.
CONS: 20 years is a big age difference, in his situation being 43 years old he might not want to go out and have fun as much as your friend. She is still 23 years old, she is young! and what she needs right now is to enjoy her youth and not have a man 20 years her senior keep her locked down.
Basically it all depends on her heart, if she knows that she will love him and that he would make her happy, then age really doesn't matter. But if it's just a flirtation and nothing more, i suggest to keep it as friends.
Its all a relative thing. There are advantages and disadvantages of dating and eventually marrying a man 20 years older than you. If she should decide to go with the option of being with him, she should keep in mind and be ready to stand for your decision all through, regardless of the comments that people make (because believe me, they will talk). Make sure that its a decision that you'll be able to be happy with in 20 years time. Secondly, remember that the ageing process will be different for her and him. He's going to grow old long before she does. If she plans to have children together with him, she will be more agile than him with them because (especially if she decides to space them apart), because the more time she takes in having children, the older he'll be.On the other hand, since he's a lot older, he's wiser %26amp; he's already experienced most things that you'll go through together. He's more likely to be less petty %26amp; less immature than younger men. He's also a lot more likely to be more patient and gentle with her than he'd be if he was younger. So if she loves him very much and she knows that she won't be attracted to a younger man when he starts looking old, go for it because older men can be very charming, supportive and lovable. Oh and by the way, I respect her for her decision to wait to have sex
WHAT
She has a vowed before God to be totally His!!!Here's a poem which has been a refuge:
The only way to understand ourselves is by what God is and by what He does for us.
You are who you are for a reason
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're precious and perfect,unique design,
Called God's special woman or man.
You look you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake
He knit you together within the womb,
You're just what he wanted to make.
The parents you had were the once He chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.
No, the trauma you faced was not easy,
And God wept that it hurt you so:
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that in His likeness you'd grow.
You are who you are for a reason.
You've been formed by the Master's rod.
You are who you are,
Because there is GOD!!!!
He is my creator and I am accountable to Him and Him alone.I accept the way life treats me.Try to live it with his Grace.That is the way my LIFE is arranged.I do nothing outside His will.
It sounds like you have the makings of a great relationship, maybe you an become a little more flirty, possibly trying to get touchy with him. I do not see a problem with the age thing, its only a number. And besides, he is not 85 y/o. As long as you are not out after his money and thru love is in the air, than what you have could be really amazing. Waiting for sex, if he is a gentleman that will be a great thing, if he isn't, he will look elsewhere in the meantime.
Anything is possible. Just remember that after the new wears off you are going to be living in a 20 year time lapse with very different interests and there is no way to avoid that one. There is much life experience for you and for him that are very different and make a difference in the way you view your worlds.
Just be aware of that and think it through before you act. Remember too that in 7 to 10 more years his sexual tendencies will be hugely different to yours because our bodies change and wants change as we age.
This could be a good fit. Sometimes the age difference ends up being somewhat of a blessing to both the guy and the girl. It would be good to have children right away though--you want the kids to be able to relate to their ';old man'; if you know what I mean.
I hope it works out!
I believe it could work well. I was in a relationship with a man who was 20 years my senior, and both of us agreed that we did not feel the difference in age because it was a strong relationship. We were similar in personality and feelings, but had some different interests and some similar. It went very smoothly. You both sound like mature people, the relationship as it stands seems to be on a good foundation. I wish you well, should you decide to pursue it further.
It may....it may not. No-one could give you promises about how your future with this Guy could go.
I'm 50 %26amp; my Husband of 5 years (been together 7) is 26
I don't look anywhere near 50 %26amp; don't act it either. To be honest; I'm not sure what 50 yr olds should act like, I'm responsible when I need to be.....I've brought up 5 Children, my youngest Son (16) is at college studying media %26amp; critical thinking...hoping to take Law next year, My 19 yr old Son is training to be a firefighter.
My 2 eldest Children are older than my Husband,
It was tough at first with my Kids accepting him, but now? they all have a hell of a lot of respect for the Guy that everyone said was far too young for me.
I keep totally up to date with the latest music, modern clothes, watch my diet %26amp; workout 3 times a week, I also work out with weights, not, I may add to keep my Guy happy, that's me anyway. I have as much energy as I did when I was 25 %26amp; have no intention of slowing down.
We are as happy today (more actually) as we were when we first got married 5 yrs ago.
I think lots of relationships with an age difference have a good rate of success. One of the biggest problems a couple like that may face are the attitudes of other people that just have to give their tuppence worth instead of getting on with their own lives.
Couples of similar or same ages often don't survive together anyway, it doesn't just happen to age gap couples.
I think (certainly in our case) that whatever the ages of each partner in a relationship, they need to have common things that help to bind them together, I know I couldn't handle being with a Guy that was like an ';old fart'; But neither could I see myself with a ';boy racer'; I've always felt the same way.
My Husband is very mature for his age %26amp; I'm very young for mine, so we meet somewhere in the middle.
I have never made my Husband feel as though he were some silly little Boy...I have always treated him as equal, afterall, that's what he is.
We don't actually notice any age gap within our relationship.
My ex-husband was 11 yrs older than me %26amp; to be honest, he may as well have been 50 yrs older. He constantly refered to ';knowing more'; than me because he was ';older';
It's people that make relationships...not ages
Some are bothered by an age difference, but it doesn't seem to be something that will put you off,
So! If you feel you want to make a go of things with this Guy, then date him %26amp; see how things progress, you may feel he isn't for you after all, you may find it's a match made in heaven.
Remember this though! Every relationship has it's ups %26amp; downs, it's how you cope with these events within your relationship that determines the rate of success, it also takes 2 to make it work properly. What wouldn't work for one may be ideal for another. Don't rush into anything %26amp; don't be pushed either.
Be happy %26amp; lots of luck.
The guy (43) chose the career path after the military in hopes he'd find a wife somewhere along the way... women he'd been with cheated.. he took time to figure himself out and what he wanted and focused on work. now owns a house and has a good stable job and wants a family.
they both agree on many things, life, children, relationships, love, have some of the same friends... The girl is friends with his mother and two brothers, helped move him into his home and set up/organize it. There is a flirtation between them nothing more than friendship... the girl wants to wait till marriage or engagement for sex and the guy knows this... could this become a good relationship/marriage?Advice, thoughts, pros, cons on dating with 20 yr difference?
I think its great if they are in LOVE then they need to go for it what is age anyway but a number? Though they need to work everything out ahead of time such as having a family if the y both want that and all.Advice, thoughts, pros, cons on dating with 20 yr difference?
You never know. Age is a state of mind.
My hubby is nearly 12 years older than me....and we've been together 8 yrs.
Age gap may not show up right now but it may be source of friction as they advance in age. He may loose his vitality and sex urge with time. If one is willing to make the relationship work despite all odds, it will work.
it could b good. ur both adults and know what u want. go 4 it and see where it leads. good luck.
Age is just a story. There are lots of successful marriages just like this one.
When the novelty wears off, you would resent the age difference. Think when you are 43 and he is 63. Someday you would most likely be left alone with the kids. (most likely he will pass away sooner.) Are you sure your not looking for a father? If its true love then its meant to be regardless.
It could but remember when your 40 he will be 60. If love a person age does not mean anything
im 19 and my husband is 34 and that age difference has never been a problem in our relationship,we even have a daughter together and im now pregnant again, ive found that age difference is never a problem unless the couple make it be
yes. True love stands no boundaries as long as you truly love each other and got happiness out of it.
It sounds like a good relationship and it sounds as if you both have the same priorities which could be a problem with the age difference. If the relationship is open to communication then talk about it.
PROS: The both know what they want in life, most guys our age nowadays still don't have their priorities on track and and still don't know what they want out of life. There is also the wisdom the guy has, like you said he's been through alot so with that said he has learned how he would like to be treated so he will most likely treat her with the respect he wants, he owns his own house and a good stable job, the guy is well off.
CONS: 20 years is a big age difference, in his situation being 43 years old he might not want to go out and have fun as much as your friend. She is still 23 years old, she is young! and what she needs right now is to enjoy her youth and not have a man 20 years her senior keep her locked down.
Basically it all depends on her heart, if she knows that she will love him and that he would make her happy, then age really doesn't matter. But if it's just a flirtation and nothing more, i suggest to keep it as friends.
Its all a relative thing. There are advantages and disadvantages of dating and eventually marrying a man 20 years older than you. If she should decide to go with the option of being with him, she should keep in mind and be ready to stand for your decision all through, regardless of the comments that people make (because believe me, they will talk). Make sure that its a decision that you'll be able to be happy with in 20 years time. Secondly, remember that the ageing process will be different for her and him. He's going to grow old long before she does. If she plans to have children together with him, she will be more agile than him with them because (especially if she decides to space them apart), because the more time she takes in having children, the older he'll be.On the other hand, since he's a lot older, he's wiser %26amp; he's already experienced most things that you'll go through together. He's more likely to be less petty %26amp; less immature than younger men. He's also a lot more likely to be more patient and gentle with her than he'd be if he was younger. So if she loves him very much and she knows that she won't be attracted to a younger man when he starts looking old, go for it because older men can be very charming, supportive and lovable. Oh and by the way, I respect her for her decision to wait to have sex
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She has a vowed before God to be totally His!!!Here's a poem which has been a refuge:
The only way to understand ourselves is by what God is and by what He does for us.
You are who you are for a reason
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're precious and perfect,unique design,
Called God's special woman or man.
You look you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake
He knit you together within the womb,
You're just what he wanted to make.
The parents you had were the once He chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.
No, the trauma you faced was not easy,
And God wept that it hurt you so:
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that in His likeness you'd grow.
You are who you are for a reason.
You've been formed by the Master's rod.
You are who you are,
Because there is GOD!!!!
He is my creator and I am accountable to Him and Him alone.I accept the way life treats me.Try to live it with his Grace.That is the way my LIFE is arranged.I do nothing outside His will.
It sounds like you have the makings of a great relationship, maybe you an become a little more flirty, possibly trying to get touchy with him. I do not see a problem with the age thing, its only a number. And besides, he is not 85 y/o. As long as you are not out after his money and thru love is in the air, than what you have could be really amazing. Waiting for sex, if he is a gentleman that will be a great thing, if he isn't, he will look elsewhere in the meantime.
Anything is possible. Just remember that after the new wears off you are going to be living in a 20 year time lapse with very different interests and there is no way to avoid that one. There is much life experience for you and for him that are very different and make a difference in the way you view your worlds.
Just be aware of that and think it through before you act. Remember too that in 7 to 10 more years his sexual tendencies will be hugely different to yours because our bodies change and wants change as we age.
This could be a good fit. Sometimes the age difference ends up being somewhat of a blessing to both the guy and the girl. It would be good to have children right away though--you want the kids to be able to relate to their ';old man'; if you know what I mean.
I hope it works out!
I believe it could work well. I was in a relationship with a man who was 20 years my senior, and both of us agreed that we did not feel the difference in age because it was a strong relationship. We were similar in personality and feelings, but had some different interests and some similar. It went very smoothly. You both sound like mature people, the relationship as it stands seems to be on a good foundation. I wish you well, should you decide to pursue it further.
It may....it may not. No-one could give you promises about how your future with this Guy could go.
I'm 50 %26amp; my Husband of 5 years (been together 7) is 26
I don't look anywhere near 50 %26amp; don't act it either. To be honest; I'm not sure what 50 yr olds should act like, I'm responsible when I need to be.....I've brought up 5 Children, my youngest Son (16) is at college studying media %26amp; critical thinking...hoping to take Law next year, My 19 yr old Son is training to be a firefighter.
My 2 eldest Children are older than my Husband,
It was tough at first with my Kids accepting him, but now? they all have a hell of a lot of respect for the Guy that everyone said was far too young for me.
I keep totally up to date with the latest music, modern clothes, watch my diet %26amp; workout 3 times a week, I also work out with weights, not, I may add to keep my Guy happy, that's me anyway. I have as much energy as I did when I was 25 %26amp; have no intention of slowing down.
We are as happy today (more actually) as we were when we first got married 5 yrs ago.
I think lots of relationships with an age difference have a good rate of success. One of the biggest problems a couple like that may face are the attitudes of other people that just have to give their tuppence worth instead of getting on with their own lives.
Couples of similar or same ages often don't survive together anyway, it doesn't just happen to age gap couples.
I think (certainly in our case) that whatever the ages of each partner in a relationship, they need to have common things that help to bind them together, I know I couldn't handle being with a Guy that was like an ';old fart'; But neither could I see myself with a ';boy racer'; I've always felt the same way.
My Husband is very mature for his age %26amp; I'm very young for mine, so we meet somewhere in the middle.
I have never made my Husband feel as though he were some silly little Boy...I have always treated him as equal, afterall, that's what he is.
We don't actually notice any age gap within our relationship.
My ex-husband was 11 yrs older than me %26amp; to be honest, he may as well have been 50 yrs older. He constantly refered to ';knowing more'; than me because he was ';older';
It's people that make relationships...not ages
Some are bothered by an age difference, but it doesn't seem to be something that will put you off,
So! If you feel you want to make a go of things with this Guy, then date him %26amp; see how things progress, you may feel he isn't for you after all, you may find it's a match made in heaven.
Remember this though! Every relationship has it's ups %26amp; downs, it's how you cope with these events within your relationship that determines the rate of success, it also takes 2 to make it work properly. What wouldn't work for one may be ideal for another. Don't rush into anything %26amp; don't be pushed either.
Be happy %26amp; lots of luck.
I need a little advice about my current dating situation . . .?
Ok, here's the situation. A few days ago a someone I knew semi well came up to me and told me they liked me. Now usually this would be fine, I'd have no problem. The only thing that made this situation a little more awkward was the fact that it was a guy. Now don't get me wrong, I have no problem with homosexuality. My problem is whether or not to say back to him ';I like you too';. I know I could just say yes and give it a shot, experiment in life, but I don't really want to hurt him if I'm not bi. In my mind, I think I want to say yes to him, but something won't let me. Something in my mind keeps telling me not to say anything and wait. I'm not sure on what to do. If someone could give me some advice to my current situation, I would be most thankful.I need a little advice about my current dating situation . . .?
that ';something'; in your mind is social expectation. embrace the stigma and go for it, i say. just make it clear to him that you're still unsure about your sexuality, so as to not hurt him in the end if you decide you'd prefer suiting up for the hetero team.I need a little advice about my current dating situation . . .?
Well, kudos to you for being openminded enough not to find it offensive or to be threatened by it. That's more than a lot of men can do.
I'm trying to put myself in this person's shoes, and I think that if you started anything with this person he might wonder whether you are really gay (or bi) and in the closet.
One thing you might do is make it very clear from the outset what your feelings are (that you might not be gay or bi), and make it his decision whether he wants to give it a shot.
If you want to--go for it. I doubt that you're going to break his heart after one night. If you wait nothing will happen. Your choice.
Go for it mate! You only live once so live everyday as if it was your last! Who knows, maybe you will have a blast with him on your night out and may discover new things about you that you did not know! Just go with the flow....Take care and be safe!
everybody is so hung up on love...lust... perversion... That you even have to think about it should be a good sign that you should say no. Is this the only subject you consume yourself with or do you consider morals... What if we had no sexual organs would there still be homosexuality?
Well, when starting any new relationship, it's best to be upfront and honest with the other person(s). Let him know that you are still questioning your sexuality and you are not completely sure if you are bi or not. Make it clear to him that you want to take things slow and see where you stand on the issue; if he respects/loves you enough (which I believe he does by the tone of your question) he'll be patient. If after a few weeks or months you still feel uncomfortable about dating him, sit him down and let him know how you feel. Basically, be honest with him from the beginning and make sure you keep him informed of how you're feeling throughout the relationship. Trust your instincts and him and you won't be led astray. Good luck!
Tell him that your not gay or bi if your not.Because if you say yes he may think that you are great and you might not and that could break his heart.But if you are gay or bi then follow YOUR heart.I hope i helped.
that ';something'; in your mind is social expectation. embrace the stigma and go for it, i say. just make it clear to him that you're still unsure about your sexuality, so as to not hurt him in the end if you decide you'd prefer suiting up for the hetero team.I need a little advice about my current dating situation . . .?
Well, kudos to you for being openminded enough not to find it offensive or to be threatened by it. That's more than a lot of men can do.
I'm trying to put myself in this person's shoes, and I think that if you started anything with this person he might wonder whether you are really gay (or bi) and in the closet.
One thing you might do is make it very clear from the outset what your feelings are (that you might not be gay or bi), and make it his decision whether he wants to give it a shot.
If you want to--go for it. I doubt that you're going to break his heart after one night. If you wait nothing will happen. Your choice.
Go for it mate! You only live once so live everyday as if it was your last! Who knows, maybe you will have a blast with him on your night out and may discover new things about you that you did not know! Just go with the flow....Take care and be safe!
everybody is so hung up on love...lust... perversion... That you even have to think about it should be a good sign that you should say no. Is this the only subject you consume yourself with or do you consider morals... What if we had no sexual organs would there still be homosexuality?
Well, when starting any new relationship, it's best to be upfront and honest with the other person(s). Let him know that you are still questioning your sexuality and you are not completely sure if you are bi or not. Make it clear to him that you want to take things slow and see where you stand on the issue; if he respects/loves you enough (which I believe he does by the tone of your question) he'll be patient. If after a few weeks or months you still feel uncomfortable about dating him, sit him down and let him know how you feel. Basically, be honest with him from the beginning and make sure you keep him informed of how you're feeling throughout the relationship. Trust your instincts and him and you won't be led astray. Good luck!
Tell him that your not gay or bi if your not.Because if you say yes he may think that you are great and you might not and that could break his heart.But if you are gay or bi then follow YOUR heart.I hope i helped.
Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
Country-Western wedding. We were originally going to make the invitatios as a WANTED poster with each persons pic on them, but that was when we were going for the bar-b-que menu, more ';down home'; style. We are having it in an anitque barn at a nice venue and the menu I like is called ';The Southern Belle'; menu which is still ';country'; but not ';Western.'; What would you think if you recieved a WANTED poster for a wedding invite? (Most everyone knows it will be a country-western wedding). Which save-the -dates and invites do you like the most? (I think my fave is the branded one) Oh and I will be wearing cowboy boots under my dress ;)
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Invitations
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Program, menu, thank you notes
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Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
Hi again:
I like:
Save the Dates - #2
Invitations - #2
I would try to coordinate the program, menu, thank you notes possibly with a different company. I like the horseshoe...not the Wanted poster.
Just my opinion......Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
I saw the exact same thing in Martha Stewart once! Hey if it passes the Martha Stewart test, thats enough for me.
I think they are a cute idea, and a good example of making your wedding unique, but not cheap or ugly.
Save the Dates....Second
Invitations...Second
Program, menu, thank you notes...kinda second one...idk
Save the dates: #2
Invitations: #2
I do not like neither opton son the TY cards, program or menus.
Good luck
I like the 1st save the date, 1st invitations and 1st program. They all seem to go together great.
I love the 2nd save the date, too cute, and the 3rd invitations, and the first menu cards.
I think that the wanted one for the save-the-date's would be really cute. The save-the-dates can be a little less formal - I think it's fun and portray's your style.
For the invitations I really like the second one with the horseshoes. It looks country, but classy at the same time.
Everything you picked was really cute. Don't be afraid to have fun with it. =)old lipstick
Save the Dates
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Program, menu, thank you notes
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http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/Product鈥?/a>
Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
Hi again:
I like:
Save the Dates - #2
Invitations - #2
I would try to coordinate the program, menu, thank you notes possibly with a different company. I like the horseshoe...not the Wanted poster.
Just my opinion......Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
I saw the exact same thing in Martha Stewart once! Hey if it passes the Martha Stewart test, thats enough for me.
I think they are a cute idea, and a good example of making your wedding unique, but not cheap or ugly.
Save the Dates....Second
Invitations...Second
Program, menu, thank you notes...kinda second one...idk
Save the dates: #2
Invitations: #2
I do not like neither opton son the TY cards, program or menus.
Good luck
I like the 1st save the date, 1st invitations and 1st program. They all seem to go together great.
I love the 2nd save the date, too cute, and the 3rd invitations, and the first menu cards.
I think that the wanted one for the save-the-date's would be really cute. The save-the-dates can be a little less formal - I think it's fun and portray's your style.
For the invitations I really like the second one with the horseshoes. It looks country, but classy at the same time.
Everything you picked was really cute. Don't be afraid to have fun with it. =)
Advice for a late dating bloomer?
Hi everyone,
So I'm 23 and I'm only getting into dating now... God knows why, but I've only recently started giving serious thought to asking a few girls out.
I guess I did too much drinking with the boys as a teen, and now I realize I've missed an important stage in my development - those early dating years - so I need some advice to get me caught up!
To give you a better idea, here's some examples of stuff I'm struggling with:
Girls like confidence, and I can't be confident in something I've never done. So do I just fake the confidence, or would it be better to causally let it slip that I've never dated in advance, so if I mess up a bit she knows why?
I know that it ruins the mood to ask to kiss, so when is it appropirate? Describe the atmosphere? And do you take offense if we don't kiss you the first night? Like do you expect a goodnight kiss, or what is good end-of-date habits?
is chivalry lame?
Thanks for your thoughts, I'll give more background below...Advice for a late dating bloomer?
1. Be open about yourself, so yes, tell her that you have never gone out with a girl before, it will help ALOT.
2. It dont ruin no mood to ask someone to kiss, but most of the time, it just happens, just think about her first, if you go and lean for a kiss and she pulls back, then go in for a deep embracing hug instead.
3. And you dont have to kiss the first night, lol. Just take it slow, read her signs, let her know how you feel (dont say you ';love'; her on the first date or the 10th date, its not worth it).
4. a hug is appropriate for a end of a date, or a kiss, or both.
Chivalry isnt lame at all, alot of girls like to have the man open the car door for them, its flattering.Advice for a late dating bloomer?
NO act confident smile at her and if she smiles back go to her. dont let her know uv neva dated just walk up and dont make it wierd dont say i think your hot be like hey my names (wutevayournameis) so anyways i saw you back there and i think you have the most amazing smile ever and id like to see more of it how about friday at 8 can i have your number?
You sound girl-friendly enough.Have confidence in yourself,but not over-confidence.Chivalry is cool.Dont make excuses for mistakes,nobody is perfect except me.Just be calm and be yourself.You'll be fine.Treat your girls with respect.
I am in a similar situation (age 22). The best advice I can give is go find girl you are comfortable with and see where that leads you. Find something you are confident in such as some sport, ie. golf or basketball and try to bring the girl into it with you. I'm sure go could go play mini golf somewhere.
As far as telling her about no dating experience; I wouldn't mention it if I were you. If she doesn't ask, don't tell her. There are plenty of women, who don't care if you have a lack of experience so that truly shouldn't be much of an issue.
I wouldn't advise kissing the first night; however, it depends on the occasion and the activity. If it is dinner and a movie go for it if you are comfortable, otherwise discretion is the better part of valor.
As far as chivalry goes it depends on the girl some like it other don't. Try to analyze the girl you're with to see for certain.
I'm not really an authority on this issue, but I am in a similar situation as you except for the reasons you mention.
So I'm 23 and I'm only getting into dating now... God knows why, but I've only recently started giving serious thought to asking a few girls out.
I guess I did too much drinking with the boys as a teen, and now I realize I've missed an important stage in my development - those early dating years - so I need some advice to get me caught up!
To give you a better idea, here's some examples of stuff I'm struggling with:
Girls like confidence, and I can't be confident in something I've never done. So do I just fake the confidence, or would it be better to causally let it slip that I've never dated in advance, so if I mess up a bit she knows why?
I know that it ruins the mood to ask to kiss, so when is it appropirate? Describe the atmosphere? And do you take offense if we don't kiss you the first night? Like do you expect a goodnight kiss, or what is good end-of-date habits?
is chivalry lame?
Thanks for your thoughts, I'll give more background below...Advice for a late dating bloomer?
1. Be open about yourself, so yes, tell her that you have never gone out with a girl before, it will help ALOT.
2. It dont ruin no mood to ask someone to kiss, but most of the time, it just happens, just think about her first, if you go and lean for a kiss and she pulls back, then go in for a deep embracing hug instead.
3. And you dont have to kiss the first night, lol. Just take it slow, read her signs, let her know how you feel (dont say you ';love'; her on the first date or the 10th date, its not worth it).
4. a hug is appropriate for a end of a date, or a kiss, or both.
Chivalry isnt lame at all, alot of girls like to have the man open the car door for them, its flattering.Advice for a late dating bloomer?
NO act confident smile at her and if she smiles back go to her. dont let her know uv neva dated just walk up and dont make it wierd dont say i think your hot be like hey my names (wutevayournameis) so anyways i saw you back there and i think you have the most amazing smile ever and id like to see more of it how about friday at 8 can i have your number?
You sound girl-friendly enough.Have confidence in yourself,but not over-confidence.Chivalry is cool.Dont make excuses for mistakes,nobody is perfect except me.Just be calm and be yourself.You'll be fine.Treat your girls with respect.
I am in a similar situation (age 22). The best advice I can give is go find girl you are comfortable with and see where that leads you. Find something you are confident in such as some sport, ie. golf or basketball and try to bring the girl into it with you. I'm sure go could go play mini golf somewhere.
As far as telling her about no dating experience; I wouldn't mention it if I were you. If she doesn't ask, don't tell her. There are plenty of women, who don't care if you have a lack of experience so that truly shouldn't be much of an issue.
I wouldn't advise kissing the first night; however, it depends on the occasion and the activity. If it is dinner and a movie go for it if you are comfortable, otherwise discretion is the better part of valor.
As far as chivalry goes it depends on the girl some like it other don't. Try to analyze the girl you're with to see for certain.
I'm not really an authority on this issue, but I am in a similar situation as you except for the reasons you mention.
What is the best advice you can give a young couple? (23 and 20 years old and have been dating for 8 months)?
AMEN!!! take your time. Ask the questions. Know each other. Make sure both of you are on the same page. Take it from an Old man like me.
1. Do you want kids? if so how many?
2. Sex? How Often? *ya think i'm jokin? not in the least*
3. Religion?
4. Vacations?
5. Politics?
Some of these to a lesser degree, but, I promise you, you need to get an idea.
If she says yes to kids wants 6 and you say yes and 2, you have a slight problem.
If she say Yes to kids and you say NO, you have a bigger problem.
Compromise is nice, but, I guarantee, resentment will raise it ugly head.
Sex: He says twice a week, she says twice a month. You have a problem
He says, as often as we can. She say ARE YOU NUTS? I'm not having sex. You have ROOMMATES
if you don't ask the question, you live with the consequences. I have a bud who had great sex with his fiance. Once they got married, BOOM, off went the faucet and its been dry ever since.What is the best advice you can give a young couple? (23 and 20 years old and have been dating for 8 months)?
You may love each other, but don't rush into marriage....FINISH SCHOOL and get a great job! Communicate with each other and talk about your goals as a couple and set reasonable time frames! Put off having a family for a couple years and spend time as a couple and save for your future! Have fun, but be frugal with your money!What is the best advice you can give a young couple? (23 and 20 years old and have been dating for 8 months)?
Don't move too fast. Wait to find out if you are serious about one another before shacking up or marrying. I will be 23 in October, and married for 5 months. My hubby is 20, but we have been together almost 6 years before we did anything drastic. Time together tells. Time will allow you to see if you are compatible. So just wait it out.
Well first of all I would say finish school. Make sure you both have carreers that you can both be financially comfortable. Life is hard enough as it is but if you have a good foundation refering to a good carreer then you will one less problem to deal with. Most people that are married fight over money, especially when the money flow is not fuent.
Also make sure to always keep a good line of communication. And remember to always respect each other. Because when you have crossed the like of respect you relationship is over! Everything else kind of falls into place as you go along.
Good luck.
Don't rush into marriage
Use protection..don't have babies right away
Make sure you schedule several weekend getaways every year. Slow down and enjoy your 20's. Most divorces accure in the 20's and most people are not mentally ready to handle a marriage until they are in their 20's anyways..
Be honest. Let each other know your expectations from life. Before you bring a child into this world, try to get some training with children. Love each other but know that this love does not make everything right. Make sure that he or she can handle stress with out any kind of substance abuse to follow. I have learned so much from my relationships. I wish I could go back and try to make things a little better.
The bad times never last forever, they may seem like they do, but the good will always come back around.
People give up on there relationships very easily.... it's sad to watch.
Enjoy what you've got. Live for the moment, and if you find that your relationship gets more serious as time goes on, maybe you can plan for a long-term future.
But, given your respective ages, just enjoy life and have fun with it.
If you have your own separate issues, work those out before you get married. Bringing individual issues into a marriage will only make the marriage more difficult.
Don't rush into anything. 8 months is really not that long. And use protection. And you both should really be able to take care of yourselves before taking the next step.
dont rush into marriage.. if you were meant to be together... hold out for a few years... you'll still be together if you were meant to be,
a little over 50% of all marriages end in divorce.
Trust is the main factor in a relationship. Love and trust each other.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now.. he was in a marriage before we met.. so we're not rushing it... we're living together... and we are raising our daughter together.
Good luck to you two!
You should know by now if you would want to get married if you don't know yet then move on.
Don't rush into marriage until you can support each other. Financially, emotionally and spiritually support each other. And bring no kids into the mix until you are sure that you want this relationship long term.
Don't rush into anything that the two of you do not agree on.
Take your time, don't rush the relationship. Continue working on personal growth, finish college, travel. Have safe sex. Be honest. Life ain't easy - help each other through it.
If either of you have a ';myspace'; account- delete it.
enjoy each other and make sure you take advantage of all the places you can go together. Have fun and make sure you are always on the same path. Don't try to hold on to a relationship that has already run it's course. Make sure you are really in love with each other and respect each other before you get married.
The most common problems you will face are communication problems and money problems, so expect it. My wife and I made a promise that no matter what happens we will work things out!
The opinions of friends don't matter when it comes to your relationship. Best advice I can give any young couple.
1. Do you want kids? if so how many?
2. Sex? How Often? *ya think i'm jokin? not in the least*
3. Religion?
4. Vacations?
5. Politics?
Some of these to a lesser degree, but, I promise you, you need to get an idea.
If she says yes to kids wants 6 and you say yes and 2, you have a slight problem.
If she say Yes to kids and you say NO, you have a bigger problem.
Compromise is nice, but, I guarantee, resentment will raise it ugly head.
Sex: He says twice a week, she says twice a month. You have a problem
He says, as often as we can. She say ARE YOU NUTS? I'm not having sex. You have ROOMMATES
if you don't ask the question, you live with the consequences. I have a bud who had great sex with his fiance. Once they got married, BOOM, off went the faucet and its been dry ever since.What is the best advice you can give a young couple? (23 and 20 years old and have been dating for 8 months)?
You may love each other, but don't rush into marriage....FINISH SCHOOL and get a great job! Communicate with each other and talk about your goals as a couple and set reasonable time frames! Put off having a family for a couple years and spend time as a couple and save for your future! Have fun, but be frugal with your money!What is the best advice you can give a young couple? (23 and 20 years old and have been dating for 8 months)?
Don't move too fast. Wait to find out if you are serious about one another before shacking up or marrying. I will be 23 in October, and married for 5 months. My hubby is 20, but we have been together almost 6 years before we did anything drastic. Time together tells. Time will allow you to see if you are compatible. So just wait it out.
Well first of all I would say finish school. Make sure you both have carreers that you can both be financially comfortable. Life is hard enough as it is but if you have a good foundation refering to a good carreer then you will one less problem to deal with. Most people that are married fight over money, especially when the money flow is not fuent.
Also make sure to always keep a good line of communication. And remember to always respect each other. Because when you have crossed the like of respect you relationship is over! Everything else kind of falls into place as you go along.
Good luck.
Don't rush into marriage
Use protection..don't have babies right away
Make sure you schedule several weekend getaways every year. Slow down and enjoy your 20's. Most divorces accure in the 20's and most people are not mentally ready to handle a marriage until they are in their 20's anyways..
Be honest. Let each other know your expectations from life. Before you bring a child into this world, try to get some training with children. Love each other but know that this love does not make everything right. Make sure that he or she can handle stress with out any kind of substance abuse to follow. I have learned so much from my relationships. I wish I could go back and try to make things a little better.
The bad times never last forever, they may seem like they do, but the good will always come back around.
People give up on there relationships very easily.... it's sad to watch.
Enjoy what you've got. Live for the moment, and if you find that your relationship gets more serious as time goes on, maybe you can plan for a long-term future.
But, given your respective ages, just enjoy life and have fun with it.
If you have your own separate issues, work those out before you get married. Bringing individual issues into a marriage will only make the marriage more difficult.
Don't rush into anything. 8 months is really not that long. And use protection. And you both should really be able to take care of yourselves before taking the next step.
dont rush into marriage.. if you were meant to be together... hold out for a few years... you'll still be together if you were meant to be,
a little over 50% of all marriages end in divorce.
Trust is the main factor in a relationship. Love and trust each other.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now.. he was in a marriage before we met.. so we're not rushing it... we're living together... and we are raising our daughter together.
Good luck to you two!
You should know by now if you would want to get married if you don't know yet then move on.
Don't rush into marriage until you can support each other. Financially, emotionally and spiritually support each other. And bring no kids into the mix until you are sure that you want this relationship long term.
Don't rush into anything that the two of you do not agree on.
Take your time, don't rush the relationship. Continue working on personal growth, finish college, travel. Have safe sex. Be honest. Life ain't easy - help each other through it.
If either of you have a ';myspace'; account- delete it.
enjoy each other and make sure you take advantage of all the places you can go together. Have fun and make sure you are always on the same path. Don't try to hold on to a relationship that has already run it's course. Make sure you are really in love with each other and respect each other before you get married.
The most common problems you will face are communication problems and money problems, so expect it. My wife and I made a promise that no matter what happens we will work things out!
The opinions of friends don't matter when it comes to your relationship. Best advice I can give any young couple.
Advice on breaking bad dating habbits?
i look for specific things in men, so when i ACTUALLY find a guy i like and he seems interested, i try to force the situation instead of just letting things happen. when i SHOULD be forming a friendship and getting to know the guy better, instead im already focused on winning him over. i have a date comming up and i think the guy is pretty cool....therefore instead of trying to just have a good time with him, i'll probably be analyzing him and deciding how i should behave in accordence to what i think he likes. i KNOW this i a horrible way to go about things, but i can't help it...it's my gut reaction. what can i do to overcome this behavior?Advice on breaking bad dating habbits?
Just do it, whenever you're gonna say something you think he will like just say what you really feel, thats the only way to break the habit and impress a guy.Advice on breaking bad dating habbits?
Call me.
But I have done this too. It's just that we are learning how to act with people (date). Yeah, just show your real side? You think he wont like it? Because if that you have self esteem problems. Just be yourself. They either like you for who are or they don't. Now, if you are like water, clay, and you con conform into anyone and you are going to be happy, then find someone who you really fit with. You are kinda saying that if you like him even if he is a ****** then you still do whatever to keep him. No? Just be yourself!
Just do it, whenever you're gonna say something you think he will like just say what you really feel, thats the only way to break the habit and impress a guy.Advice on breaking bad dating habbits?
Call me.
But I have done this too. It's just that we are learning how to act with people (date). Yeah, just show your real side? You think he wont like it? Because if that you have self esteem problems. Just be yourself. They either like you for who are or they don't. Now, if you are like water, clay, and you con conform into anyone and you are going to be happy, then find someone who you really fit with. You are kinda saying that if you like him even if he is a ****** then you still do whatever to keep him. No? Just be yourself!
Advice on boys and dating?
well, my boyfriend gave me a card that said i got a free date with him. I don't know what to do!! i'm usually shy and not around him too much. We talked alot in msn and i like him, so does he...
i dont knoe what to do if he asks me to kiss him or sumtin...
FYI i'm not sure i want to kiss a boy...not comfortable, besides i'm too young to do that!! =P
What am i supposed to do if i'm scared my friends would tease me if i'm with him and i really don't like crowds!!! i hate it when people look at me like i'm some kind of nut, crazy people.
I hang out with my best friend alot and he does too, we secretly talked with each other in classes but we rarely walked with each other...
WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO!!! HELP EMERGENCYAdvice on boys and dating?
If he is your boyfriend (as you clearly pointed out), then I don't understand why you fear going on a date with him. That's what you're supposed to do in a relationship.
He won't ask you to kiss him; it will just happen. If you aren't comfortable doing that, then simply don't kiss him.
NEVER be afraid of what your friends think, what crowds think, etc. Do what YOU think is right, not what they think is.
If your best friend talks to him, too, then he's probably an okay guy.
What are you supposed to do? Go on the date; enjoy yourself; be happy.Advice on boys and dating?
you dont need to do anything you dont want to do
if you feel you're too young then probably you are. if you dont want to kiss him dont. you can tell him that you're going out as friends only.
If a boy has to give you a free date with him he isn't worth it. He should be going out and buying all sorts of lavish gifts for you and stuff
Well, dating is always something to be a little bit nervous of, but it doesn't always have to be that way. It all depends on how old you are, and only do things if you feel really ready to do them. Don't jump stages in life, every age has its special time. Let things go naturally. Remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to, just enjoy life and meet a lot of people. If you don't like crowds, then don't be around them so much, just a little less, then you won't get fed up with that. And if people look at you in a weird way, ignore them, because real friends won't do that. Just try to separate your feelings from one person and the other, be patient and calm, and you will see which are your feelings towards every person.
Just a heads up most likely he won't ask to kiss u he will just try someday and its up to you with give him a kiss or just a lend back lol
Ps not trying to tell you what you should do but if u don't kiss him he will wonder why??? But its all up to you
Good luck!!!
i dont knoe what to do if he asks me to kiss him or sumtin...
FYI i'm not sure i want to kiss a boy...not comfortable, besides i'm too young to do that!! =P
What am i supposed to do if i'm scared my friends would tease me if i'm with him and i really don't like crowds!!! i hate it when people look at me like i'm some kind of nut, crazy people.
I hang out with my best friend alot and he does too, we secretly talked with each other in classes but we rarely walked with each other...
WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO!!! HELP EMERGENCYAdvice on boys and dating?
If he is your boyfriend (as you clearly pointed out), then I don't understand why you fear going on a date with him. That's what you're supposed to do in a relationship.
He won't ask you to kiss him; it will just happen. If you aren't comfortable doing that, then simply don't kiss him.
NEVER be afraid of what your friends think, what crowds think, etc. Do what YOU think is right, not what they think is.
If your best friend talks to him, too, then he's probably an okay guy.
What are you supposed to do? Go on the date; enjoy yourself; be happy.Advice on boys and dating?
you dont need to do anything you dont want to do
if you feel you're too young then probably you are. if you dont want to kiss him dont. you can tell him that you're going out as friends only.
If a boy has to give you a free date with him he isn't worth it. He should be going out and buying all sorts of lavish gifts for you and stuff
Well, dating is always something to be a little bit nervous of, but it doesn't always have to be that way. It all depends on how old you are, and only do things if you feel really ready to do them. Don't jump stages in life, every age has its special time. Let things go naturally. Remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to, just enjoy life and meet a lot of people. If you don't like crowds, then don't be around them so much, just a little less, then you won't get fed up with that. And if people look at you in a weird way, ignore them, because real friends won't do that. Just try to separate your feelings from one person and the other, be patient and calm, and you will see which are your feelings towards every person.
Just a heads up most likely he won't ask to kiss u he will just try someday and its up to you with give him a kiss or just a lend back lol
Ps not trying to tell you what you should do but if u don't kiss him he will wonder why??? But its all up to you
Good luck!!!
Advice needed..........first time dating interacially....?
I am an AA/Black woman and my loving sister has just hooked me up with a friend of a friend who happens to be white (I think he is Italian actually). I have never had a problem with interacial dating. However, I grew up in an all black suburb, went to an all black highschool, and a historically black university (HBCU). So I have never had an opportunity to meet to many other races of people until I got into the workforce.
I am nervous about talking to him. Neither of us have dated outside of our race. Ive learned from the past to just be yourself....and I know Im probably making a big deal out of this. But does anyone have any advice? Have any of you been in this situation? How did you handle the kinda awkward feelings? Did you feel like you could relax and be yourself?Advice needed..........first time dating interacially....?
sure ,just try ...too many people relax with that if there is real love ,
and if he has a Gid fearing.
I am nervous about talking to him. Neither of us have dated outside of our race. Ive learned from the past to just be yourself....and I know Im probably making a big deal out of this. But does anyone have any advice? Have any of you been in this situation? How did you handle the kinda awkward feelings? Did you feel like you could relax and be yourself?Advice needed..........first time dating interacially....?
sure ,just try ...too many people relax with that if there is real love ,
and if he has a Gid fearing.
Advice on Reverse Role Dating?
Ive been friends with this girl who I met through volunteering for a while. Recently she's coming on to me. She asked for my # and when we talk about something volunteer related she would ask me personal questions.
I guess it's going well so far. We hung out a few times, but it's usually with the entire volunteer group. She always tries to get me to stay after our volunteer meetings to grab something to eat or asks me to drive her home.
The only thing Im wondering about is she's like 7-8 yrs older than I am, and she has a stable fancy job, and Im still 20 y/o in college. Everytime we hang out, she always picks up the tab even though I offer to pay for us both or at least for my portion. She always says that it's okay b/c she knows I don't make much money at my job.
I feel like I don't want to be unfair. And Im not sure how it will go if it stays like this w/ the age and financial thing. Anyone have ideas/advice about dating older girls?Advice on Reverse Role Dating?
I wouldn't get too involved seriously with this woman if I was you. She's trying to experience being with a younger man and some women get a kick out of having the upper hand in the relationship and believe me, that if she's spending her money all the time, she thinks she has the upper hand and eventually she's going to lose respect for you because she's going to start questioning why she's with a man that can't do anything for her. I've been in her shoes before and it gets old after a while. I got tired of always picking up the check and I started feeling unappreciated as though I could do better. You start off trying to help the person out because you know that they are having financial difficulties but then you start wanting him to stand up and be a man. Your age difference isn't a lot but If I was you i would talk to her and tell her that you would feel better if you contributed to the relationship so she doesn't feel as though she is taking all of the burden. You want to at least feel as though you're the man in the relationship and that you are capable of treating her like a woman. She will appreciate your efforts and respect you for it.
I guess it's going well so far. We hung out a few times, but it's usually with the entire volunteer group. She always tries to get me to stay after our volunteer meetings to grab something to eat or asks me to drive her home.
The only thing Im wondering about is she's like 7-8 yrs older than I am, and she has a stable fancy job, and Im still 20 y/o in college. Everytime we hang out, she always picks up the tab even though I offer to pay for us both or at least for my portion. She always says that it's okay b/c she knows I don't make much money at my job.
I feel like I don't want to be unfair. And Im not sure how it will go if it stays like this w/ the age and financial thing. Anyone have ideas/advice about dating older girls?Advice on Reverse Role Dating?
I wouldn't get too involved seriously with this woman if I was you. She's trying to experience being with a younger man and some women get a kick out of having the upper hand in the relationship and believe me, that if she's spending her money all the time, she thinks she has the upper hand and eventually she's going to lose respect for you because she's going to start questioning why she's with a man that can't do anything for her. I've been in her shoes before and it gets old after a while. I got tired of always picking up the check and I started feeling unappreciated as though I could do better. You start off trying to help the person out because you know that they are having financial difficulties but then you start wanting him to stand up and be a man. Your age difference isn't a lot but If I was you i would talk to her and tell her that you would feel better if you contributed to the relationship so she doesn't feel as though she is taking all of the burden. You want to at least feel as though you're the man in the relationship and that you are capable of treating her like a woman. She will appreciate your efforts and respect you for it.
What kind of advice do you expect from the singles and dating section?
I would expect some mature advice, but what I get is childish responses. (The marriage and divorce section will usually give you better answers...post there!)What kind of advice do you expect from the singles and dating section?
i don't need it, 40 years of experience...!!!What kind of advice do you expect from the singles and dating section?
Well if it's coming from me, honest good advice. I always try to be honest with people in that section. I know how hard things are and what it was like when I was younger. So, I always try to give the ones I answer the best advice I know. =) Why you have a question? Would you like a date!! (Oh, please, pick me, pick me!!) =)
bad,and stupid.
I checked it out a couple of times it is always little kids talking about crushes at school. Does he like me and how can I get him to notice me.
bad advice
good advice from actual experiences fro people
good ones
13 year old kid looking for a laugh advice
Your question has an excellent undercurrent. I am appalled when I read questions in that section. They are either children or just unfit in most ways. The solution to most of those questions are: The only way to make anybody happy is to be certain that you are happy with yourself. Agree?
advice that would just make one paranoid about whatever it is they asked
You can get some good advice and some wackos. It's interesting to read different people's views.
The kind of advice and questions asked there makes me feels like I'm in highschool again.
Jokes.
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i don't need it, 40 years of experience...!!!What kind of advice do you expect from the singles and dating section?
Well if it's coming from me, honest good advice. I always try to be honest with people in that section. I know how hard things are and what it was like when I was younger. So, I always try to give the ones I answer the best advice I know. =) Why you have a question? Would you like a date!! (Oh, please, pick me, pick me!!) =)
bad,and stupid.
I checked it out a couple of times it is always little kids talking about crushes at school. Does he like me and how can I get him to notice me.
bad advice
good advice from actual experiences fro people
good ones
13 year old kid looking for a laugh advice
Your question has an excellent undercurrent. I am appalled when I read questions in that section. They are either children or just unfit in most ways. The solution to most of those questions are: The only way to make anybody happy is to be certain that you are happy with yourself. Agree?
advice that would just make one paranoid about whatever it is they asked
You can get some good advice and some wackos. It's interesting to read different people's views.
The kind of advice and questions asked there makes me feels like I'm in highschool again.
Jokes.
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Advice? This summer I dated a guy who lives in DC. I live in NY. There was great chemistry but didn't work out?
I felt there was someone else in his life there and ended it, he said he accepted because he didn't believe long distance relationships could work. Now he contacts me and says he still loves me, but confesses he always had a relationship there (that was starting around the same time as we met). He says they are together but without much chemistry.
At this point I don't want this person because he is a cheater. But I am not sure if I am justified in my anger towards him. Can his explanation be true? Would one go for what is close by as opposed to what his heart truly prefers but far away? I think if he really loved me the distance was not too far and he couldn't have been with another woman.
Please share your thoughts on this, thanks..Advice? This summer I dated a guy who lives in DC. I live in NY. There was great chemistry but didn't work out?
If it were me I would be so damned mad at him my eyes would be crossed!!! The tenacity of him calling me with a gf at side. This validates his thinking. Long dist relationships don't work.Advice? This summer I dated a guy who lives in DC. I live in NY. There was great chemistry but didn't work out?
What else do you want? He confessed and he also expressed his deepest concerns about long distance relationship.
Yes, his explanation is reasonable given the vast info. And,
Yes, if he is truly blind in relationship not to have any worry of long distance relationship...Then long distance really doesn't matter and he couldn't have been with other woman.
But, I guess He wasn't blind when he saw you and the distance between you and him and those long and lonely nights without you by his side to comfort him and warm him up with intimacy...So he has to have some side action....It's just natural.
You said it yourself, you don't want him. So why waste your time on him or even on the thought of ';taking him back';? Happily move on!
At this point I don't want this person because he is a cheater. But I am not sure if I am justified in my anger towards him. Can his explanation be true? Would one go for what is close by as opposed to what his heart truly prefers but far away? I think if he really loved me the distance was not too far and he couldn't have been with another woman.
Please share your thoughts on this, thanks..Advice? This summer I dated a guy who lives in DC. I live in NY. There was great chemistry but didn't work out?
If it were me I would be so damned mad at him my eyes would be crossed!!! The tenacity of him calling me with a gf at side. This validates his thinking. Long dist relationships don't work.Advice? This summer I dated a guy who lives in DC. I live in NY. There was great chemistry but didn't work out?
What else do you want? He confessed and he also expressed his deepest concerns about long distance relationship.
Yes, his explanation is reasonable given the vast info. And,
Yes, if he is truly blind in relationship not to have any worry of long distance relationship...Then long distance really doesn't matter and he couldn't have been with other woman.
But, I guess He wasn't blind when he saw you and the distance between you and him and those long and lonely nights without you by his side to comfort him and warm him up with intimacy...So he has to have some side action....It's just natural.
You said it yourself, you don't want him. So why waste your time on him or even on the thought of ';taking him back';? Happily move on!
Advice!! Guy I鈥檓 dating is obsessed with football?
Hi,
I never thought I would have this dilemma but I am!! I鈥檓 28 yrs old and I have started to date a really great guy. I mean he is lovely and sweet etc etc and I always knew that he liked football but didn鈥檛 realise how much till just now!!! I鈥檝e been trying to book a wknd and told him to give me a few wknds that he is free. I鈥檓 trying to be a little casual because I don鈥檛 want to be too much- we鈥檝e only just started a 鈥榬elationship鈥?He tells me okay this wknd will work and then later on said oh sorry, there might be a game on let me get back to you鈥? I didn鈥檛 realise he meant football!!! I mean I was even trying to be all good and suggest meeting up in the evening as I KNOW that he plays footy with his local friends on a Saturday morning and I鈥檝e always been okay with that but I didn鈥檛 know that evenings would be out too. I suddenly had a moment of complete realisation when I thought, oh dear so this is what鈥檚 it going to be like. Football season will dictate all our wknds of when we can do stuff or whether he will come out with me to parties/birthdays/wknds away. It might sound really silly I know!! Just it all fits. Him suggesting mid week meets up sometimes Friday maybe even a Sunday but he never said abt a Saturday before till I asked just now. We started our relationships over summer whilst footy was on a break so I didn鈥檛 get 鈥榠t鈥? I don鈥檛 know if he gets tickets for every game so physically goes on wknds or he just goes to the pub with his friends to watch it.
I think I even know what most of you are going to say- it depends how much I like him and want to be with him鈥? Then I have to suck up the footy aspect and live with it. But we鈥檝e only just started seeing one another and I just had this really funny picture of me fuming because every wknd he will be his friends for footy and I never get to plan anything unless he isn鈥檛 watching football!
Anyone else in a similar situation??
Advice!! Guy I鈥檓 dating is obsessed with football?
I read your story and it sounds like the story of my life! I have been with my man for almost three years and I'm fed up with it. At first I didn't mind but now and I despise it and the lifestyle that goes with it. If you're already fed up with it after such a short time you should just end it because I think footy will always come before you.Advice!! Guy I鈥檓 dating is obsessed with football?
Talk to him about it, like Katsum said, he will have to be willing to compromise otherwise he clearly isn't worth it
The point to realise now is that he will never change - or at least you have to assume that - can you put up with it or not?
tell him how you feel and thro a football at his head make a bet with him see if he can give football up for a week or summet.. compremise?
suggest him watching the highlights on match of the day instead.
So break up with him if it's that big of a deal.
Oh, and don't call it ';footy.'; That's annoying.
I never thought I would have this dilemma but I am!! I鈥檓 28 yrs old and I have started to date a really great guy. I mean he is lovely and sweet etc etc and I always knew that he liked football but didn鈥檛 realise how much till just now!!! I鈥檝e been trying to book a wknd and told him to give me a few wknds that he is free. I鈥檓 trying to be a little casual because I don鈥檛 want to be too much- we鈥檝e only just started a 鈥榬elationship鈥?He tells me okay this wknd will work and then later on said oh sorry, there might be a game on let me get back to you鈥? I didn鈥檛 realise he meant football!!! I mean I was even trying to be all good and suggest meeting up in the evening as I KNOW that he plays footy with his local friends on a Saturday morning and I鈥檝e always been okay with that but I didn鈥檛 know that evenings would be out too. I suddenly had a moment of complete realisation when I thought, oh dear so this is what鈥檚 it going to be like. Football season will dictate all our wknds of when we can do stuff or whether he will come out with me to parties/birthdays/wknds away. It might sound really silly I know!! Just it all fits. Him suggesting mid week meets up sometimes Friday maybe even a Sunday but he never said abt a Saturday before till I asked just now. We started our relationships over summer whilst footy was on a break so I didn鈥檛 get 鈥榠t鈥? I don鈥檛 know if he gets tickets for every game so physically goes on wknds or he just goes to the pub with his friends to watch it.
I think I even know what most of you are going to say- it depends how much I like him and want to be with him鈥? Then I have to suck up the footy aspect and live with it. But we鈥檝e only just started seeing one another and I just had this really funny picture of me fuming because every wknd he will be his friends for footy and I never get to plan anything unless he isn鈥檛 watching football!
Anyone else in a similar situation??
Advice!! Guy I鈥檓 dating is obsessed with football?
I read your story and it sounds like the story of my life! I have been with my man for almost three years and I'm fed up with it. At first I didn't mind but now and I despise it and the lifestyle that goes with it. If you're already fed up with it after such a short time you should just end it because I think footy will always come before you.Advice!! Guy I鈥檓 dating is obsessed with football?
Talk to him about it, like Katsum said, he will have to be willing to compromise otherwise he clearly isn't worth it
The point to realise now is that he will never change - or at least you have to assume that - can you put up with it or not?
tell him how you feel and thro a football at his head make a bet with him see if he can give football up for a week or summet.. compremise?
suggest him watching the highlights on match of the day instead.
So break up with him if it's that big of a deal.
Oh, and don't call it ';footy.'; That's annoying.
I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
I have been a single parent for about 6 months now. After graduated from college I move back to my parents place because I needed help on raising my baby. Now I'm start to date again, but I don't know how to open up to my parents about it. I would really want them to know about it, I'm just having the difficulty on the open up thing.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Just sit down at dinner with them one night, and calmly tell them that you think that you're interested in meeting new people, and you just met this really nice guy. It doens't help to brag a little about the man that you're dating, maybe that'll score a few points for your parents.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Are you honest with the relationship you are building? If yes! Go ahead and tell your parents.
you'd think they'd notice by having to look after your child while you go out to get pregnant again!!!! :D
You've graduated college and have a kid? When you going to grow up? Hello,you are an adult now, you don't have to be afraid of your parents anymore!
Being a single parent, with a baby, and a new college degree, you have far more important things to focus on, than dating.
Get your life together, and on solid, independent ground, first and foremost.
Everything else takes a backseat to that. No matter what; you have an example to set.
Next time you leave the house, tell them you have a date (if you do).
your an adult so just tell them that your dating again. simple as that
The easiest way is to just ask them if they would mind watching the baby because you have a date. Your an adult and I am sure they would want you to get out and date. After all, they would rather see their grandchild raised by 2 loving parents rather than a single parent.
tell them ur having xxx
I was a single mom who lived with my parents also. After being single and not dating anyone for about 5 months, I found someone. I dated him for about a month before I introduced him to them but I told them about him after 2 weeks. We are now engaged and going to have a baby.
Just sit down at dinner with them one night, and calmly tell them that you think that you're interested in meeting new people, and you just met this really nice guy. It doens't help to brag a little about the man that you're dating, maybe that'll score a few points for your parents.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Are you honest with the relationship you are building? If yes! Go ahead and tell your parents.
you'd think they'd notice by having to look after your child while you go out to get pregnant again!!!! :D
You've graduated college and have a kid? When you going to grow up? Hello,you are an adult now, you don't have to be afraid of your parents anymore!
Being a single parent, with a baby, and a new college degree, you have far more important things to focus on, than dating.
Get your life together, and on solid, independent ground, first and foremost.
Everything else takes a backseat to that. No matter what; you have an example to set.
Next time you leave the house, tell them you have a date (if you do).
your an adult so just tell them that your dating again. simple as that
The easiest way is to just ask them if they would mind watching the baby because you have a date. Your an adult and I am sure they would want you to get out and date. After all, they would rather see their grandchild raised by 2 loving parents rather than a single parent.
tell them ur having xxx
I was a single mom who lived with my parents also. After being single and not dating anyone for about 5 months, I found someone. I dated him for about a month before I introduced him to them but I told them about him after 2 weeks. We are now engaged and going to have a baby.
HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a ';gf'; material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask ';how I was doing';, through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
WOW..You are like the first guy in the past decade I know that still believe in what you believe in. This is great. Why don't you just dump the girl and come hang out with me. :)HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
you gave to girl a complex, you need to talk to her and let her know that it wasn't her it was you who wanted to stop.
no!! just *** down...ok.you should right here a poem but not just any poem write her a poem about intimacy(MAKING LOVE)make love too her mind and then see how she responses
Well it really depends on if your rounded third base or not. Did you lead off of third base while the pitcher was pitching to the next batter? You need to either stop being a little puss and give it to her or let her find someone who will.
well it sounds liek your making it wierd. if shes contacting yout hen shes probably ok with everything. just make it known that your not ready to get physical with her. girls tend to understand because they usually wants stability. but also... why are you dating her if you feel liek shes NOT gf material?? think about that before you call her back
if she really likes you, she'll respect your decision and wait for the right time. tell her how you feel and she what she says. if she leaves, she's not worth your time
1. How do we know if you pissed her off? If you were THERE and didn't know, what makes you think WE would know?
2. Answer her damned phonecall unless you don't want to see her again. Explain your position, and see how she feels about it. You know, pretend you're an actual adult. It's fun.
3. If it's going to be weird from now on, it's because you're behaving like an adolescent.
You need to talk to her and reiterate that if she wants a relationship with you that she needs to respect your point of view on sleeping with someone. If she can't do that then you should move on. It says she doesn't repect you.
Your fine...Just talk to her again. If she wants it but you dont then shes not the right girl for you. Just tell her that...But you gotta call her again.
Sounds like you are not into her. If your not just break it off now.
In the future if you want to take it slow stick to that and you won't have this problem. If you still want to see her then explain to her that you would like to start over. But be very clear to her about how you feel about sex.
its only going to get weirder the longer you wait.
call her and tell her how you really feel.
if she is any women at all she should respect what you have to say.
I respect guys so much more when they like to take it slow.
hope this helps
well maybe u should consider not going out with her bc clearly she doesnt want the same things as u form a relationship --- u need to talk to her
Anytime you don't call a girl for four days, she wonders. And any time that you turn a girl down for sex, she panics. So doing them both means you have some serious grovelling to do. She needs to understand how big a deal intimacy is to you, then if she doesn't respect that: move on. If she does, than you can try again and find out how you feel about her from there. First off though, apologize profusely for not getting into contact with her and tell her how horribly sorry you were for just disappearing after that night.
Do you think i pissed her off?
I dunno, maybe the incidnt just humiliated her. Stick to your guns, though, don't sleep with someone just because they want it. Wait until you want it.
what should I do now?
Well, if you don't see her as GF material, you should call her back once and tell her that. Then leave her alone for a while. Why did you keep going out with her and go to 3rd base with her if you didn't see her as GF material? It could have led her on.
Is it going to be weird from now on?
Ya, most likely.
Wow!!! That's really cool....dump her and find someone else that has just as much respect for you as you would for her.....Stick to your guns!!! She's obviously a slut!!old lipstick
Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a ';gf'; material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask ';how I was doing';, through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
WOW..You are like the first guy in the past decade I know that still believe in what you believe in. This is great. Why don't you just dump the girl and come hang out with me. :)HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
you gave to girl a complex, you need to talk to her and let her know that it wasn't her it was you who wanted to stop.
no!! just *** down...ok.you should right here a poem but not just any poem write her a poem about intimacy(MAKING LOVE)make love too her mind and then see how she responses
Well it really depends on if your rounded third base or not. Did you lead off of third base while the pitcher was pitching to the next batter? You need to either stop being a little puss and give it to her or let her find someone who will.
well it sounds liek your making it wierd. if shes contacting yout hen shes probably ok with everything. just make it known that your not ready to get physical with her. girls tend to understand because they usually wants stability. but also... why are you dating her if you feel liek shes NOT gf material?? think about that before you call her back
if she really likes you, she'll respect your decision and wait for the right time. tell her how you feel and she what she says. if she leaves, she's not worth your time
1. How do we know if you pissed her off? If you were THERE and didn't know, what makes you think WE would know?
2. Answer her damned phonecall unless you don't want to see her again. Explain your position, and see how she feels about it. You know, pretend you're an actual adult. It's fun.
3. If it's going to be weird from now on, it's because you're behaving like an adolescent.
You need to talk to her and reiterate that if she wants a relationship with you that she needs to respect your point of view on sleeping with someone. If she can't do that then you should move on. It says she doesn't repect you.
Your fine...Just talk to her again. If she wants it but you dont then shes not the right girl for you. Just tell her that...But you gotta call her again.
Sounds like you are not into her. If your not just break it off now.
In the future if you want to take it slow stick to that and you won't have this problem. If you still want to see her then explain to her that you would like to start over. But be very clear to her about how you feel about sex.
its only going to get weirder the longer you wait.
call her and tell her how you really feel.
if she is any women at all she should respect what you have to say.
I respect guys so much more when they like to take it slow.
hope this helps
well maybe u should consider not going out with her bc clearly she doesnt want the same things as u form a relationship --- u need to talk to her
Anytime you don't call a girl for four days, she wonders. And any time that you turn a girl down for sex, she panics. So doing them both means you have some serious grovelling to do. She needs to understand how big a deal intimacy is to you, then if she doesn't respect that: move on. If she does, than you can try again and find out how you feel about her from there. First off though, apologize profusely for not getting into contact with her and tell her how horribly sorry you were for just disappearing after that night.
Do you think i pissed her off?
I dunno, maybe the incidnt just humiliated her. Stick to your guns, though, don't sleep with someone just because they want it. Wait until you want it.
what should I do now?
Well, if you don't see her as GF material, you should call her back once and tell her that. Then leave her alone for a while. Why did you keep going out with her and go to 3rd base with her if you didn't see her as GF material? It could have led her on.
Is it going to be weird from now on?
Ya, most likely.
Wow!!! That's really cool....dump her and find someone else that has just as much respect for you as you would for her.....Stick to your guns!!! She's obviously a slut!!
How do i make the boy i like that probably likes me back go on a date with me?! HELP! NEED GoOoOoD ADVICES!!?
If he does like you and he is ready for a relationship, it will happen. Be patient and be nice. xoxHow do i make the boy i like that probably likes me back go on a date with me?! HELP! NEED GoOoOoD ADVICES!!?
Lol... i'm guessing your really desperate if your asking us for help.
Right... see if you can arrange to walk home with him. Or meet up accidentally. Then go with him for about a week. Then like on the 8th day of you walking home with him ask him if he has some time on Saturday or Sunday to go to lunch with you. If he likes you he will make time for you no matter what.
Well unless something really important is planned... Anyways if he says no keep walking with him and ask him again a week later. Except this time say your dad or someone wanted to take you to the movies or something and that they bailed... then ask if he wants to come.How do i make the boy i like that probably likes me back go on a date with me?! HELP! NEED GoOoOoD ADVICES!!?
You cant make some one go out on a date with you.
If you like him and you think he likes you too, tell him i know it may seem hard but you'll feel better in the end! :)
Flash him some skin and see if that draws him in.
Lol... i'm guessing your really desperate if your asking us for help.
Right... see if you can arrange to walk home with him. Or meet up accidentally. Then go with him for about a week. Then like on the 8th day of you walking home with him ask him if he has some time on Saturday or Sunday to go to lunch with you. If he likes you he will make time for you no matter what.
Well unless something really important is planned... Anyways if he says no keep walking with him and ask him again a week later. Except this time say your dad or someone wanted to take you to the movies or something and that they bailed... then ask if he wants to come.How do i make the boy i like that probably likes me back go on a date with me?! HELP! NEED GoOoOoD ADVICES!!?
You cant make some one go out on a date with you.
If you like him and you think he likes you too, tell him i know it may seem hard but you'll feel better in the end! :)
Flash him some skin and see if that draws him in.
I need smart advice. How do you go about contacting someone on a dating site when you dont have the money?
Never believed in dating sites but I read an interesting profile of a guy I would like to know. Unfortunately there is no way to contact him than to pay like 拢10 a month. That is money I dont have. How do I get him to contact meI need smart advice. How do you go about contacting someone on a dating site when you dont have the money?
Ask him to pay. If you are on millionairecupid.com, you can get free membership easily.I need smart advice. How do you go about contacting someone on a dating site when you dont have the money?
try this one..
www.hatebeingsingle.com its totally free.. i met my new fella on there an we are getting on great!! and it cost us nothing at all!!
If you're living that tight, now may not be the right time to be dating. That said, most dating sites have a free three or seven day trial. The catch is that you have to cancel during that brief window or they can charge you...
there would be no way without u paying and dropping him a line. its a long shot but maybe try looking on the freedating websites you never know he may have signed up to those too and if not you may see someone you like better. i met my partner on www.freedating.co.uk.
Hi,
Well nothing you can do really unless pay the 10 pound to speak to him.
The dating agency isn't going to pass on his details to you unless you pay the fee.
So it either you pay up or forget the guy
Lx
Ask him to pay. If you are on millionairecupid.com, you can get free membership easily.I need smart advice. How do you go about contacting someone on a dating site when you dont have the money?
try this one..
www.hatebeingsingle.com its totally free.. i met my new fella on there an we are getting on great!! and it cost us nothing at all!!
If you're living that tight, now may not be the right time to be dating. That said, most dating sites have a free three or seven day trial. The catch is that you have to cancel during that brief window or they can charge you...
there would be no way without u paying and dropping him a line. its a long shot but maybe try looking on the freedating websites you never know he may have signed up to those too and if not you may see someone you like better. i met my partner on www.freedating.co.uk.
Hi,
Well nothing you can do really unless pay the 10 pound to speak to him.
The dating agency isn't going to pass on his details to you unless you pay the fee.
So it either you pay up or forget the guy
Lx
Guys, I need some advice about a good Russian online dating site?
They are pretty much the same, only don鈥檛 get into agencies stuff. Try www.anastasiaweb.comGuys, I need some advice about a good Russian online dating site?
Well I know this site where they have a russian lady. They're all desperately trying to move out of Russia and will grab any foreign man that come in their sight. They will be your slave and do whatever you tell them to.....
HAHAHA!!!!!!! You have fell for old trick!
Seriously, dude STAY AWAY from that thing! It's either a scam to drain your moneys or girls are heavily covered with make up and pics are heavily photoshopped to make them look better. In realistic most are over 40 and not the type of girls you want (they tend to be a former prostitute, have drug problems, etc...) If you really want a Russian girl, learn Russian and move there. Most won't even move out of their country because they're close to their family. If you don't want to move there then forget it!
Well I know this site where they have a russian lady. They're all desperately trying to move out of Russia and will grab any foreign man that come in their sight. They will be your slave and do whatever you tell them to.....
HAHAHA!!!!!!! You have fell for old trick!
Seriously, dude STAY AWAY from that thing! It's either a scam to drain your moneys or girls are heavily covered with make up and pics are heavily photoshopped to make them look better. In realistic most are over 40 and not the type of girls you want (they tend to be a former prostitute, have drug problems, etc...) If you really want a Russian girl, learn Russian and move there. Most won't even move out of their country because they're close to their family. If you don't want to move there then forget it!
Since the singles and dating area is being quite slow right now.........?! (advice!)?
I'm gonna post my question here :)
Okay so this guy is being a total jerk to me. He takes my stuff and thinks its funny and tries to get me to chase after him to get it. Then he calls me a nickname he gave me. It annoys me so much! I've told him to stop too. Help? Advice?Since the singles and dating area is being quite slow right now.........?! (advice!)?
lol.... The answer is simple. He probably likes you... Some guys out thier don't know what to do or how to express themselves when they like a girl so they do mean things to her like that.... When guys are mean to girls that means they like her. My advice is to not give in to what he wants. He wants attention and by doing that your doing exactly what he wants you too. Nextime just ignore him and show him that you don't care what he has to say through body language, eye contact, and other means. Take control of the situation and if he wants to get with you he has to step it up and be a man, not act up like some child.Since the singles and dating area is being quite slow right now.........?! (advice!)?
I would drop him like a bad habit seriously. If you talk to him and tell him that you don't like the stuff that he does and he keeps on doing it then let him go, he isn't worth your time. Sure a little humor is good every now and then but if he is taking it too far then just drop him.
Are you sure he doesn't like you?
I had this guy do that to me too. Except the nickname.
GLARE at him and ignore him. Or cause him great humiliation. That's mean but that usually works.
awww he's flirting with you :P
obviously this guy likes you!
but if you don't like him back
and he's just annoying
don't chase him
just ignore them
then he will get tired of trying to get your attention all the time
I think he may like you!
answer mine plz?
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he might not be trying to be a jerk i think he might me trying to hard to get your attention though!
he likes you, its obvious.
Oh you should make the biggest seen,and make it look like he is harassing you! lol
Okay so this guy is being a total jerk to me. He takes my stuff and thinks its funny and tries to get me to chase after him to get it. Then he calls me a nickname he gave me. It annoys me so much! I've told him to stop too. Help? Advice?Since the singles and dating area is being quite slow right now.........?! (advice!)?
lol.... The answer is simple. He probably likes you... Some guys out thier don't know what to do or how to express themselves when they like a girl so they do mean things to her like that.... When guys are mean to girls that means they like her. My advice is to not give in to what he wants. He wants attention and by doing that your doing exactly what he wants you too. Nextime just ignore him and show him that you don't care what he has to say through body language, eye contact, and other means. Take control of the situation and if he wants to get with you he has to step it up and be a man, not act up like some child.Since the singles and dating area is being quite slow right now.........?! (advice!)?
I would drop him like a bad habit seriously. If you talk to him and tell him that you don't like the stuff that he does and he keeps on doing it then let him go, he isn't worth your time. Sure a little humor is good every now and then but if he is taking it too far then just drop him.
Are you sure he doesn't like you?
I had this guy do that to me too. Except the nickname.
GLARE at him and ignore him. Or cause him great humiliation. That's mean but that usually works.
awww he's flirting with you :P
obviously this guy likes you!
but if you don't like him back
and he's just annoying
don't chase him
just ignore them
then he will get tired of trying to get your attention all the time
I think he may like you!
answer mine plz?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
he might not be trying to be a jerk i think he might me trying to hard to get your attention though!
he likes you, its obvious.
Oh you should make the biggest seen,and make it look like he is harassing you! lol
What kind of advice can I give my 24 old bro. who has never dated yet wants to? He wants a decent girl!!!!!!!?
He loves to joke around and he loves video games. He works at a smoothy shop and if pretty dependable. He thinks no girl will want some one that is hairy. I think that is untrue. Please help. I just dont know how to help him.What kind of advice can I give my 24 old bro. who has never dated yet wants to? He wants a decent girl!!!!!!!?
When I was that age and very lonely, I went on Match.com and actually posted nice photos of myself and started e-mailing different guys in my area. I got asked out by a few, and examples of dates we went on were:
1. a local art show
2. mini-golf and a movie
3. karaoke night at the local casino
My advice is to always meet in a public place and don't give out information regarding where you live. Then you never have to see them again, if you don't want to. Don't give out your phone number unless you've written them a lot of emails and feel that you know enough about them to be interested in talking to them more. Your brother will be able to sift through literally thousands of people and find ones he likes. Then he can send them a wink (a neat feature that requires no first questions but lets girls know he thinks they're interesting) and then email them and get to know them a little. Then he can work on getting his nerve up enough to ask one out. If she doesn't want to go out again, there will still be others who are still emailing him and who knows? He might find the perfect one.
You can search for certain ages, religions, hobbies, whatever!
I'm only recommending it because I was a shy person, and I met my husband on Match.com. We had one date and I knew I wanted to stay with him the rest of my life. We were married a year later, and have a wonderful life now!
Try to get your brother to be off-hand about asking someone out. It's just an experiment thing, and it can be a girl he doesn't really think will fit the bill...he just needs to go with her, then go with someone else...get used to it. Good luck!What kind of advice can I give my 24 old bro. who has never dated yet wants to? He wants a decent girl!!!!!!!?
Leave him alone. He will date when he is ready. There are plenty of chicks that like hairy guys. There is a chick out there for everyone. He would have better luck if he got a decent job. No chick likes a dude working at a smoothy shop. Hairy or not.
He has confidence issues and needs to have his ego blown up a little, then go and hit on girls he likes.
When I was that age and very lonely, I went on Match.com and actually posted nice photos of myself and started e-mailing different guys in my area. I got asked out by a few, and examples of dates we went on were:
1. a local art show
2. mini-golf and a movie
3. karaoke night at the local casino
My advice is to always meet in a public place and don't give out information regarding where you live. Then you never have to see them again, if you don't want to. Don't give out your phone number unless you've written them a lot of emails and feel that you know enough about them to be interested in talking to them more. Your brother will be able to sift through literally thousands of people and find ones he likes. Then he can send them a wink (a neat feature that requires no first questions but lets girls know he thinks they're interesting) and then email them and get to know them a little. Then he can work on getting his nerve up enough to ask one out. If she doesn't want to go out again, there will still be others who are still emailing him and who knows? He might find the perfect one.
You can search for certain ages, religions, hobbies, whatever!
I'm only recommending it because I was a shy person, and I met my husband on Match.com. We had one date and I knew I wanted to stay with him the rest of my life. We were married a year later, and have a wonderful life now!
Try to get your brother to be off-hand about asking someone out. It's just an experiment thing, and it can be a girl he doesn't really think will fit the bill...he just needs to go with her, then go with someone else...get used to it. Good luck!What kind of advice can I give my 24 old bro. who has never dated yet wants to? He wants a decent girl!!!!!!!?
Leave him alone. He will date when he is ready. There are plenty of chicks that like hairy guys. There is a chick out there for everyone. He would have better luck if he got a decent job. No chick likes a dude working at a smoothy shop. Hairy or not.
He has confidence issues and needs to have his ego blown up a little, then go and hit on girls he likes.
Advice about a guy I'm dating?
I just started dating a guy a couple of weeks ago. He is very sweet and I like him a lot. However, he started referring to me as his girlfriend to his friends. I really like him, but I'm not sure if I want to take things to that level yet. How can I explain that to him without losing him?Advice about a guy I'm dating?
I would just explain to him, there is nothing more helpful than the truth but i did that once to a guy that i was dating for a while and then i found out he was going to ask me out so i approached him and told him i was not ready and he freaked out and called me names and got drunk and insulted me in front of all my friends. BUT a couple weeks later he realized that he was being a jerk and we ended up going out, then he cheated on me with my best friend haha . Not in this problem but what i am trying to say is that if he is a good guy he will understand it just takes longer for men to process things through their brains . You won't lose him, just explain that you like him alot, if you do...and just say i really like you i don't want to lose you but i am looking to take this slower and getting to know you more before putting a more serious title on our relationship.
Please understand and i don't want to go backwards, i want to move forward but i am not ready to be called your girlfriend yet. I like to keep things private in the beginning .
Simple and he will understand, if he doesn't appreciate your honesty and doesn't like what you will say then he is just feeling insecure about the fact that you want to take it slower. Men like to rush into things way too quickly.
Take your time and just be honest ! it's the key ingredient in a relationship =)Advice about a guy I'm dating?
maybe he just means you are his girl......friend, I understand what you are saying, you are ';seeing'; him and going out on dates but not going steady yet. Just tell him that you aren't ready for an exclusive relationship yet but you really like him and want to continue seeing each other. Make sure he understands though that he is also free to see other people.
These youngsters don't understand how ';dating'; people works so this is just for them:
You can be ';dating'; more than one person at a time, you shouldn't be sleeping with them though. You are basically just friends with all of these guys but you go out and do things with them. When you find one you REALLY like, then you stop seeing the others and you see that one exclusively.........then he becomes your ';boyfriend';
I hope they understand this
If not then they can ask their moms to explain.
I would just tell him, that you really enjoy dating him, but you're not sure if you're ready to take it to the boyfriend/girlfriend level.
Another thing you need to mutually decide is if you both are able to date other people, because if you're not, then you're already boyfriend/girlfriend.
well i kinda think ur leading him on because if your always talking and hanging out what is he suppose to think. wouldnt you think the same thing. and when u dont say no im not your girlfriend he will just think its even more official:)
but i think you shuold tell him to slow down and maybe hes taking things to fast and you want to be friends for now. and if he really is a sweet guy he'll understand
Just be straight forward with him.
Tell him like what you told Yahoo Answers.
If he is reasonable, he should understand.
If you lose him on this ground, he is not worth it anyway.
Good luck.
If you love him just follow the desire of your heart but you have to set some limitation
if you're dating him, then obviously you two are bf and gf, i'd think lol
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I would just explain to him, there is nothing more helpful than the truth but i did that once to a guy that i was dating for a while and then i found out he was going to ask me out so i approached him and told him i was not ready and he freaked out and called me names and got drunk and insulted me in front of all my friends. BUT a couple weeks later he realized that he was being a jerk and we ended up going out, then he cheated on me with my best friend haha . Not in this problem but what i am trying to say is that if he is a good guy he will understand it just takes longer for men to process things through their brains . You won't lose him, just explain that you like him alot, if you do...and just say i really like you i don't want to lose you but i am looking to take this slower and getting to know you more before putting a more serious title on our relationship.
Please understand and i don't want to go backwards, i want to move forward but i am not ready to be called your girlfriend yet. I like to keep things private in the beginning .
Simple and he will understand, if he doesn't appreciate your honesty and doesn't like what you will say then he is just feeling insecure about the fact that you want to take it slower. Men like to rush into things way too quickly.
Take your time and just be honest ! it's the key ingredient in a relationship =)Advice about a guy I'm dating?
maybe he just means you are his girl......friend, I understand what you are saying, you are ';seeing'; him and going out on dates but not going steady yet. Just tell him that you aren't ready for an exclusive relationship yet but you really like him and want to continue seeing each other. Make sure he understands though that he is also free to see other people.
These youngsters don't understand how ';dating'; people works so this is just for them:
You can be ';dating'; more than one person at a time, you shouldn't be sleeping with them though. You are basically just friends with all of these guys but you go out and do things with them. When you find one you REALLY like, then you stop seeing the others and you see that one exclusively.........then he becomes your ';boyfriend';
I hope they understand this
If not then they can ask their moms to explain.
I would just tell him, that you really enjoy dating him, but you're not sure if you're ready to take it to the boyfriend/girlfriend level.
Another thing you need to mutually decide is if you both are able to date other people, because if you're not, then you're already boyfriend/girlfriend.
well i kinda think ur leading him on because if your always talking and hanging out what is he suppose to think. wouldnt you think the same thing. and when u dont say no im not your girlfriend he will just think its even more official:)
but i think you shuold tell him to slow down and maybe hes taking things to fast and you want to be friends for now. and if he really is a sweet guy he'll understand
Just be straight forward with him.
Tell him like what you told Yahoo Answers.
If he is reasonable, he should understand.
If you lose him on this ground, he is not worth it anyway.
Good luck.
If you love him just follow the desire of your heart but you have to set some limitation
if you're dating him, then obviously you two are bf and gf, i'd think lol
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I need advice..I have been dating this man for 10 months....?
and we have had our share of ups and downs, he has been divorced 2x and has 2 wonderful boys. He works as a corrections officer, and is a full time student as I am. We try very hard to spend what time we can together. But its hard. Friends as everyone knows, tell me that I can do much better. That he does not deserve me. I ignore them of course, because they are on the outside looking in, and only see what they want to see. Well, needless to say, he does find time for his ';friends'; = ladies, well, I have been approached by another man, that has been interested in me, but out of respect to my present man, has kept his distance, but he can't keep his distance anymore because he sees the toll it is taking on me. He wants to show me what a real ';man'; can do. We have had coffee and the conversation was really good. I don't want to hurt either man, but my heart has been hurting for a while, wondering about the present man, and I am tired of the ';drama'; that surrounds him.I need advice..I have been dating this man for 10 months....?
You're just dating the guy - you are perfectly free to do as you please.
I say go see what the other guy is about. Sounds like the first guy has WAY TOO MUCH baggage.I need advice..I have been dating this man for 10 months....?
You're right to be tred of the drama. Consider that the 1st guy has been divorced twice and consider that there is probably a reason for that. And consider that the friends telling you that you can do better are seeing something that you don't see.
Break up with guy #1, THEN begin something with guy #2.
I was married to a corrections officer, He was horrible! Anyway that's besides the point. LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS! They see all and they know all. They see your two's relationship from the outside and they can pick up on things that lovers are blind to. If most of them say let him go, then let him go.
You are the only one that can decide what to do on this. Here is the thing I want you to think about. You are not married to the present man in your life and like you said you are tired of the drama. What would be the harm in taking a break from this present man of yours and seeing what this new man is all about.
If your friends are telling you that you can do better...they're probably right. If you were TRUELY happy, this ';new'; guy, wouldn't even be a consideration. Plus, seeing from the outside looking in, is ALWAYS the best view girlfriend! Do what your heart tells you to do...
Sometimes, it makes sense to listen to what people ';outside looking in'; have to say. They might see something you don't. If you're not sure about the man you're presently dating - keep your options open. You don't have to commit and swear your undying love for him. Explore other options. If there is drama now - it will only get worse in the future; perhaps it would be wise to give this relationship another thought. I would give the other guy a try.
Your friends aren't on the outside looking in, and they don't just see what they want to see. They see your man for who he is, without the clouded judgment that comes from having feelings for him. Thats my theory anyway.
I don't mean to sound flip, but, there's no ring on your finger. And if you want to see other people, break it off with your bf and test the waters with guy #2. Apparently your bf has enough shoulders to cry on, if he does cry, which I doubt.
Good luck
Relationships are best between people who have like interests, like education, like goals, like races, like religions, like politics, and like backgrounds.... and your present gentleman appears not to be very committed to you with other women in the picture.... In your shoes, I'd tell him you two need a break from each other, and seek out the new guy...... In 10 months, you can pretty much figure out how the rest of it might go, and by your statement, it isn't going welll
Isn't life hard? It can be. However, you can make it a lot easier.
Your question can be answered easily.
Invest some time into looking at my website.
There free stuff that can help and if you are serious about making the right decision (not emotional based) the answers are there too.
Good Luck Babe
A cosmic smile
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www.astrotimes.net.au
If you are ';tired of the ';drama'; that surrounds him'; then go deal with it. And if this new guy turns you on then go and sleep with him. What is the problem here. You are obviously not happy with man #1 one look at what you wrote about him. And although man #2 may not be the best for you it is your choice to do what makes you happy. Don't get me wrong man #1 doesn't sound like a winner either.
You're a single girl- you can date both and make a decision when you have more info. It sounds like your present man is dating around?
If he's been divorced 2X and has kids...that's probably not the ideal relationship for you! You deserve more, go out and find it!
Be up front and honest with your current man. Let him know exactly how you feel, and what will fix this for you. If you do want to see what else is out there. You aren't married, do it. Just let your current man know that you feel that maybe it would be better for you both to see other people. If you take this route, make sure you see more than just this other man, really see what is out there. See who can really shine a ray of light on you and brighten your whole world. To be honest with you, every relationship has ';drama';. It is the unnecessary dama that you can do without.
If the one man has lady friends then its not that serious to him and I would go ahead and persue the other man. There is nothing wrong with dating, how else are you going to find the one who is right for you?
if he has time for the friends and not u that should bring up a big red flag and show u what his priorities really are, also if he has been divorced twice it is something u need to look at also. we always believe he will not treat us as he did the others, but sooner or later it always happens, and when the relationship does end, we seem to hear the same old reasons as we heard about his past relationships. i would tell the present man u need some time to think it all over, and than break up with him, and give the new guy a chance. maybe u need to believe what your friends are saying to u, as it is so hard when we are involved and in love to see anything wrong. as we are so in love we can't see the faults or think about his past relationships, we think we are so different from his ex's but in reality we aren't so different than them.
LADY YOU NEED TO STAR LOVE YOUR SELF AND THAT WAY YOU WILL ATRACCT PEOPLE WHOS REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU AND RESPECT EACH OTHER, AND GIVES LOVE EACH OTHER YOU NEED TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION
HOW MUCH I LOVE MY SELF?
AND HOW MUCH DO I THINK THAT I DESERVE ?
BECAUSE YOU ARE GIVING POWER TO THIS GAY AND THATS WHY HE THINKS THAT HE CAN DO WEREVER HE WANTS
I BEALIVE THAT YOU DESERVE SOMEONE WHO REALLY HAVE THAT SAME OR MORE THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR....GOOD LUCK...
the truth.
If I was your friend, I would advise you to cut your losses and find the ';right'; man which is not either of these.
best wishes
If he has more time for his friends than you... well, that should tell you alot! ANd if those friends are women, then there is no wonder he has been married 2x already... even if he isn't cheating, the wandering eye is obvious, and will lead to problems if the relationship continues. He isn't considering your feelings as much as you are considering his, so i say leave it as friends and check out the other guy who does want to spent time with you.
Run, don't walk from the divorced man. Trust me, ex's aren't very fun to deal with.
You should give the other guy a chance. It sounds as though you already know what you want to do when you say ';I am tired of the drama that surrounds him.';
Good luck
You're just dating the guy - you are perfectly free to do as you please.
I say go see what the other guy is about. Sounds like the first guy has WAY TOO MUCH baggage.I need advice..I have been dating this man for 10 months....?
You're right to be tred of the drama. Consider that the 1st guy has been divorced twice and consider that there is probably a reason for that. And consider that the friends telling you that you can do better are seeing something that you don't see.
Break up with guy #1, THEN begin something with guy #2.
I was married to a corrections officer, He was horrible! Anyway that's besides the point. LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS! They see all and they know all. They see your two's relationship from the outside and they can pick up on things that lovers are blind to. If most of them say let him go, then let him go.
You are the only one that can decide what to do on this. Here is the thing I want you to think about. You are not married to the present man in your life and like you said you are tired of the drama. What would be the harm in taking a break from this present man of yours and seeing what this new man is all about.
If your friends are telling you that you can do better...they're probably right. If you were TRUELY happy, this ';new'; guy, wouldn't even be a consideration. Plus, seeing from the outside looking in, is ALWAYS the best view girlfriend! Do what your heart tells you to do...
Sometimes, it makes sense to listen to what people ';outside looking in'; have to say. They might see something you don't. If you're not sure about the man you're presently dating - keep your options open. You don't have to commit and swear your undying love for him. Explore other options. If there is drama now - it will only get worse in the future; perhaps it would be wise to give this relationship another thought. I would give the other guy a try.
Your friends aren't on the outside looking in, and they don't just see what they want to see. They see your man for who he is, without the clouded judgment that comes from having feelings for him. Thats my theory anyway.
I don't mean to sound flip, but, there's no ring on your finger. And if you want to see other people, break it off with your bf and test the waters with guy #2. Apparently your bf has enough shoulders to cry on, if he does cry, which I doubt.
Good luck
Relationships are best between people who have like interests, like education, like goals, like races, like religions, like politics, and like backgrounds.... and your present gentleman appears not to be very committed to you with other women in the picture.... In your shoes, I'd tell him you two need a break from each other, and seek out the new guy...... In 10 months, you can pretty much figure out how the rest of it might go, and by your statement, it isn't going welll
Isn't life hard? It can be. However, you can make it a lot easier.
Your question can be answered easily.
Invest some time into looking at my website.
There free stuff that can help and if you are serious about making the right decision (not emotional based) the answers are there too.
Good Luck Babe
A cosmic smile
akbaby
www.astrotimes.net.au
If you are ';tired of the ';drama'; that surrounds him'; then go deal with it. And if this new guy turns you on then go and sleep with him. What is the problem here. You are obviously not happy with man #1 one look at what you wrote about him. And although man #2 may not be the best for you it is your choice to do what makes you happy. Don't get me wrong man #1 doesn't sound like a winner either.
You're a single girl- you can date both and make a decision when you have more info. It sounds like your present man is dating around?
If he's been divorced 2X and has kids...that's probably not the ideal relationship for you! You deserve more, go out and find it!
Be up front and honest with your current man. Let him know exactly how you feel, and what will fix this for you. If you do want to see what else is out there. You aren't married, do it. Just let your current man know that you feel that maybe it would be better for you both to see other people. If you take this route, make sure you see more than just this other man, really see what is out there. See who can really shine a ray of light on you and brighten your whole world. To be honest with you, every relationship has ';drama';. It is the unnecessary dama that you can do without.
If the one man has lady friends then its not that serious to him and I would go ahead and persue the other man. There is nothing wrong with dating, how else are you going to find the one who is right for you?
if he has time for the friends and not u that should bring up a big red flag and show u what his priorities really are, also if he has been divorced twice it is something u need to look at also. we always believe he will not treat us as he did the others, but sooner or later it always happens, and when the relationship does end, we seem to hear the same old reasons as we heard about his past relationships. i would tell the present man u need some time to think it all over, and than break up with him, and give the new guy a chance. maybe u need to believe what your friends are saying to u, as it is so hard when we are involved and in love to see anything wrong. as we are so in love we can't see the faults or think about his past relationships, we think we are so different from his ex's but in reality we aren't so different than them.
LADY YOU NEED TO STAR LOVE YOUR SELF AND THAT WAY YOU WILL ATRACCT PEOPLE WHOS REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU AND RESPECT EACH OTHER, AND GIVES LOVE EACH OTHER YOU NEED TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION
HOW MUCH I LOVE MY SELF?
AND HOW MUCH DO I THINK THAT I DESERVE ?
BECAUSE YOU ARE GIVING POWER TO THIS GAY AND THATS WHY HE THINKS THAT HE CAN DO WEREVER HE WANTS
I BEALIVE THAT YOU DESERVE SOMEONE WHO REALLY HAVE THAT SAME OR MORE THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR....GOOD LUCK...
the truth.
If I was your friend, I would advise you to cut your losses and find the ';right'; man which is not either of these.
best wishes
If he has more time for his friends than you... well, that should tell you alot! ANd if those friends are women, then there is no wonder he has been married 2x already... even if he isn't cheating, the wandering eye is obvious, and will lead to problems if the relationship continues. He isn't considering your feelings as much as you are considering his, so i say leave it as friends and check out the other guy who does want to spent time with you.
Run, don't walk from the divorced man. Trust me, ex's aren't very fun to deal with.
You should give the other guy a chance. It sounds as though you already know what you want to do when you say ';I am tired of the drama that surrounds him.';
Good luck
3 best advices how to make good impression on a first date?
give your best advices on how to make the best impression on the first date. would your advices be different if it was blind date?3 best advices how to make good impression on a first date?
3 best advice
1. Looks which include good grooming and latest fashion
2. Body language -- keep it gentle and the eyes shining
3. Communication and personality
This advice is same for blind date, but don't react sharply if your date is not what u imagined. Make the most of what u have.3 best advices how to make good impression on a first date?
1-be clean and smell good but not overpowering
2-be courteous and kind--act like you really have class
3-ask lots of questions about the other person--act like you care about them and their life
same answer for a blind date.
Do the same 3 important things as you would for ALL dates, not just the first.
1. Be yourself, be relaxed and be confident.
2. Dress appropriately and groom well. Looking good does not mean making a fashion statement. You want him to talk with you, not about you.
3. Be interesting. To be interesting you do not need any special tallents. It means that YOU show a lot of interest in HIM. Ask open ended questions that get him to talk about his life, loves and culture.
1. Wear good smelling perfume/cologne
2. Dress semi-formal (not a dress, but not jeans either)
3. Be open to discussion, be a good listener
Smile
Be yourself
Talk sense
Talk less and listen
And don't try hard to be someone else
And pls don't sleep with him.
3 best advice
1. Looks which include good grooming and latest fashion
2. Body language -- keep it gentle and the eyes shining
3. Communication and personality
This advice is same for blind date, but don't react sharply if your date is not what u imagined. Make the most of what u have.3 best advices how to make good impression on a first date?
1-be clean and smell good but not overpowering
2-be courteous and kind--act like you really have class
3-ask lots of questions about the other person--act like you care about them and their life
same answer for a blind date.
Do the same 3 important things as you would for ALL dates, not just the first.
1. Be yourself, be relaxed and be confident.
2. Dress appropriately and groom well. Looking good does not mean making a fashion statement. You want him to talk with you, not about you.
3. Be interesting. To be interesting you do not need any special tallents. It means that YOU show a lot of interest in HIM. Ask open ended questions that get him to talk about his life, loves and culture.
1. Wear good smelling perfume/cologne
2. Dress semi-formal (not a dress, but not jeans either)
3. Be open to discussion, be a good listener
Smile
Be yourself
Talk sense
Talk less and listen
And don't try hard to be someone else
And pls don't sleep with him.
Dating problems, Help I need advice?
Okay, so I like this girl and this girl likes me, but she is scared to date me because she doesn't know what her friends will think, what should I do? any adviceDating problems, Help I need advice?
she won't date you cause of what her friends will think?
that's kinda lamee! :\ if they don't like you, prove to them you're worthy. if she likes you, and you like her, her friends' opinions shouldn't matter, but if they do, just convince them that you're good for her and they don't need to worry (:
good luck palll!Dating problems, Help I need advice?
if her friends are stopping her from dating you, that is retarded. i say you try to get over this girl cuz i think the worst thing is dating someone and that someone is hiding you. i think that you should confront her and tell her what is up and if she wants to date or not.
tell her to rent ';Valley Girl';. Same story line. If she's that superficial and only cares about how she looks to her friends, find someone else. Someone who likes you for you and doesn't care what others think.
Im in the same thing with my best friend, who is also a girl, whenever a boy comes around usually I act like that too. take my advice and follow YOUR heart. Her current boy friend later became one of my best guy friends!
she won't date you cause of what her friends will think?
that's kinda lamee! :\ if they don't like you, prove to them you're worthy. if she likes you, and you like her, her friends' opinions shouldn't matter, but if they do, just convince them that you're good for her and they don't need to worry (:
good luck palll!Dating problems, Help I need advice?
if her friends are stopping her from dating you, that is retarded. i say you try to get over this girl cuz i think the worst thing is dating someone and that someone is hiding you. i think that you should confront her and tell her what is up and if she wants to date or not.
tell her to rent ';Valley Girl';. Same story line. If she's that superficial and only cares about how she looks to her friends, find someone else. Someone who likes you for you and doesn't care what others think.
Im in the same thing with my best friend, who is also a girl, whenever a boy comes around usually I act like that too. take my advice and follow YOUR heart. Her current boy friend later became one of my best guy friends!
Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
I'm 22 and there's a guy thats interested in taking me out, problem is he's 31 with 2 kids and baby mama drama, and i not that experienced when it comes to dating. He's a nice a guy but could this be just too much baggage?Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
I am 22 and dated a 24 year old with two kids. Yes it was too much baggage. I loved her and was willing to dedicate myself to her and her children, but in the end there was too much drama with her ex's hanging around. You will be caught in the middle of everything, regardless of wether its your fault or not. You will always be second best to the kids. Personally, many times I felt like I was a spectator and would never truly be a part of the family. Its up to you wether you want to live like that.Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
My cousin is 25 and dating a man who is 40 years old. He has four children and a very very hateful ex wife (she made him switch churches so she could go to church with the guy she was sleeping with while still married). They are taking things VERY slow. They have been together for 8 months and still don't say ';I love you'; or sleep together. She is very happy and so is he and his children. But it takes time and a lot of effort. If you aren't willing to put in the effort for him AND his children then move on.
I've been the guy in this situation. The girl I was dating split pretty soon because I put my kids before her (no great loss to me. My kids come first.) If you cant stand being put behind the kids, then do everyone a favor and get out now.
I am 22 and dated a 24 year old with two kids. Yes it was too much baggage. I loved her and was willing to dedicate myself to her and her children, but in the end there was too much drama with her ex's hanging around. You will be caught in the middle of everything, regardless of wether its your fault or not. You will always be second best to the kids. Personally, many times I felt like I was a spectator and would never truly be a part of the family. Its up to you wether you want to live like that.Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
My cousin is 25 and dating a man who is 40 years old. He has four children and a very very hateful ex wife (she made him switch churches so she could go to church with the guy she was sleeping with while still married). They are taking things VERY slow. They have been together for 8 months and still don't say ';I love you'; or sleep together. She is very happy and so is he and his children. But it takes time and a lot of effort. If you aren't willing to put in the effort for him AND his children then move on.
I've been the guy in this situation. The girl I was dating split pretty soon because I put my kids before her (no great loss to me. My kids come first.) If you cant stand being put behind the kids, then do everyone a favor and get out now.
PLEASE ANSWER ! I need some advice from some wise dating people!?
Well , there was this guy that asked me out twice and the second time he asked me out I said let me think about it , but this one girl pounced on him before I could answer him. And just a few days ago I started really liking him. My friend told me she would try to get us together, but I'm afraid my crush had lost feelings for me. Either I take a chance and risk humiliation or I just forget about him and move on. WHAT DO I DO?!PLEASE ANSWER ! I need some advice from some wise dating people!?
Trust me, when a guy likes a girl he doesn't just get over her over night, and just by the fact that he asked you out twice means he does think about you. Sometimes a guy can be liking a girl for months before asking her out, other times at the spur of the moment. What do you got to lose? If you don't try he will definitely be taken. I don't know what you situation is, if you have his number etc. depends on how you are, if you're confident talk to him in person, if not give him your number, get a friend to bring him over, send him a note; whatever you feel comfortable with.PLEASE ANSWER ! I need some advice from some wise dating people!?
Take a chance! You'll regret it if you don't. Don't think about humiliation as the outcome, think about it as - the outcome.
Life goes on. It's better to hear ';no'; than to agonize over ';what if'; for the rest of your life...
if u really hav feelings 4 him go out w/ him, he had feelings 4 u before, it won't fade away that ez! so go for it! i hope evrything works out 4 the best!:)
Well ask are you going to get married some day then say go at the movies or at the restaurants something like that and say kiss there . and then his or hers boyfriend ,girlfriend try to make him or her mad and then make both mad.
dont do that guys like to go out with girls right when they get to ask her out
the way i see it you blew ypur chance like everyother girl in the world you dont want it till someone else has it
Let's try to skip the embarrassing part all together. Don't have your friend go up to him and say,';OMG!!!(What Ever Your Name Is) likes you and wants to know if you like her back!!!!'; No, no, no, have her have causul conversation then turn the subject to you and slip the question to him like nothings really going on.
How about you don't just like him because he found someone else?!!??!?!
I think it's your green-eyed monster coming out! You're just jealous because he isn't interested in you anymore. You had your chance, you passed. Don't sabotage his relationship with this other girl. How would you feel if someone were doing that to you???!?!?!
Believe it or not, there are other guys out there!
simply ask him ';do u still feel the same about me?'; if he asks why? Tell him u was just wondering because u made a decision. make him answer u first!. gl
You could have the same problem that I have: you want him once he is taken. It depends how you broke up the first time. If it was something stupid and you really liked him then go for it, but if you lost interest in him... maybe you should look for someone new.
go for it! dont rely on ur friends to do ur things 4 u, he seems sweet, and just go for no 1 not even ur best friend would know what hes goin to say. if u do get humiliated then dont worry about it it will all blow over the next couple days
Hey! He liked you from the beginning and I say its worth a shot. And if you want to be sure have a friend ask about you. Not ask him out yet just see how he feels for you now. He probley still does! Good luck!
It sounds like he's the kind of guy who just wants a relationship. Either you took too long to answer, or he found someone who was in just as big of a hurry as he was. Either way, if he's dating someone else, then it's bad juju to interfere. Just remain the unattainable girl until he's not involved with anyone, and then start to give him attention.
Take a chance I remember I kept quiet once so i let him be he got a girl and we just talked he said that he always had feeling for me but he thought i didnt like him because i never told him but it is to late now because he is in love so take the chance you will regret not telling more then telling him and him saying no trust me.
Just answer him (u still haven't answered him, right)
Just tell him u haven't got time to tell him lately because you never saw him or something
And he will probably still like u
no one can forget someone so fast
They just slowly start to loose interest
If ur lucky he just began to loose interest
Tell Him U Like Him
Trust me, when a guy likes a girl he doesn't just get over her over night, and just by the fact that he asked you out twice means he does think about you. Sometimes a guy can be liking a girl for months before asking her out, other times at the spur of the moment. What do you got to lose? If you don't try he will definitely be taken. I don't know what you situation is, if you have his number etc. depends on how you are, if you're confident talk to him in person, if not give him your number, get a friend to bring him over, send him a note; whatever you feel comfortable with.PLEASE ANSWER ! I need some advice from some wise dating people!?
Take a chance! You'll regret it if you don't. Don't think about humiliation as the outcome, think about it as - the outcome.
Life goes on. It's better to hear ';no'; than to agonize over ';what if'; for the rest of your life...
if u really hav feelings 4 him go out w/ him, he had feelings 4 u before, it won't fade away that ez! so go for it! i hope evrything works out 4 the best!:)
Well ask are you going to get married some day then say go at the movies or at the restaurants something like that and say kiss there . and then his or hers boyfriend ,girlfriend try to make him or her mad and then make both mad.
dont do that guys like to go out with girls right when they get to ask her out
the way i see it you blew ypur chance like everyother girl in the world you dont want it till someone else has it
Let's try to skip the embarrassing part all together. Don't have your friend go up to him and say,';OMG!!!(What Ever Your Name Is) likes you and wants to know if you like her back!!!!'; No, no, no, have her have causul conversation then turn the subject to you and slip the question to him like nothings really going on.
How about you don't just like him because he found someone else?!!??!?!
I think it's your green-eyed monster coming out! You're just jealous because he isn't interested in you anymore. You had your chance, you passed. Don't sabotage his relationship with this other girl. How would you feel if someone were doing that to you???!?!?!
Believe it or not, there are other guys out there!
simply ask him ';do u still feel the same about me?'; if he asks why? Tell him u was just wondering because u made a decision. make him answer u first!. gl
You could have the same problem that I have: you want him once he is taken. It depends how you broke up the first time. If it was something stupid and you really liked him then go for it, but if you lost interest in him... maybe you should look for someone new.
go for it! dont rely on ur friends to do ur things 4 u, he seems sweet, and just go for no 1 not even ur best friend would know what hes goin to say. if u do get humiliated then dont worry about it it will all blow over the next couple days
Hey! He liked you from the beginning and I say its worth a shot. And if you want to be sure have a friend ask about you. Not ask him out yet just see how he feels for you now. He probley still does! Good luck!
It sounds like he's the kind of guy who just wants a relationship. Either you took too long to answer, or he found someone who was in just as big of a hurry as he was. Either way, if he's dating someone else, then it's bad juju to interfere. Just remain the unattainable girl until he's not involved with anyone, and then start to give him attention.
Take a chance I remember I kept quiet once so i let him be he got a girl and we just talked he said that he always had feeling for me but he thought i didnt like him because i never told him but it is to late now because he is in love so take the chance you will regret not telling more then telling him and him saying no trust me.
Just answer him (u still haven't answered him, right)
Just tell him u haven't got time to tell him lately because you never saw him or something
And he will probably still like u
no one can forget someone so fast
They just slowly start to loose interest
If ur lucky he just began to loose interest
Tell Him U Like Him
Some advice for women on the dating and married scene...?
I see so many questions about what to do about certain guys that women may be dating / just broken up with / considering dating / married to, that I've decided to post some advice which seems to fit every situation:
-You know in your heart what needs to be done, whether you're going to break up, get back together, or start dating a guy. You know that if he cheated with you (or your friend or someone you know) on his previous girlfriend, he will do it to you.
-If he's willing to sleep with you on the first date or soon after, and has no problems or hesitations with it, he may well have done that with other women, no matter what he says.
-If he insists on going out with guys all the time, and ignoring you except when you insist upon seeing him, he's probably not interested in you.
-If you husband or boyfriend is abusive, especially physically, first get out! Nobody deserves it, and you are better than that. If he wants you back, demand counseling before moving back.
-j.Some advice for women on the dating and married scene...?
Good advice....it's just something that a lot of us don't want to admit to or come to terms with. When the heart gets involved, ahhh...that's another story indeed. I wish more guys could be as sure of themselves and strong as you apparently are....it's so sad because relationships just shouldn't be this hard...and in all reality...WE are the ones who make them that way.
Thanks Again!!Some advice for women on the dating and married scene...?
well done....!! THANKS for posting some sense onto this site... i can't believe how many women on here ask for trouble and then wonder why they got into such a mess.... and on top of it, they say, this happened that happened.. but i wanna stay with him!!! its like.... duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhh wake up!!!
Great advice!
I applaud you, my friend! I wish every woman on here would read, and then follow, this advice! I could not have said it better! Thank you!!old lipstick
-You know in your heart what needs to be done, whether you're going to break up, get back together, or start dating a guy. You know that if he cheated with you (or your friend or someone you know) on his previous girlfriend, he will do it to you.
-If he's willing to sleep with you on the first date or soon after, and has no problems or hesitations with it, he may well have done that with other women, no matter what he says.
-If he insists on going out with guys all the time, and ignoring you except when you insist upon seeing him, he's probably not interested in you.
-If you husband or boyfriend is abusive, especially physically, first get out! Nobody deserves it, and you are better than that. If he wants you back, demand counseling before moving back.
-j.Some advice for women on the dating and married scene...?
Good advice....it's just something that a lot of us don't want to admit to or come to terms with. When the heart gets involved, ahhh...that's another story indeed. I wish more guys could be as sure of themselves and strong as you apparently are....it's so sad because relationships just shouldn't be this hard...and in all reality...WE are the ones who make them that way.
Thanks Again!!Some advice for women on the dating and married scene...?
well done....!! THANKS for posting some sense onto this site... i can't believe how many women on here ask for trouble and then wonder why they got into such a mess.... and on top of it, they say, this happened that happened.. but i wanna stay with him!!! its like.... duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhh wake up!!!
Great advice!
I applaud you, my friend! I wish every woman on here would read, and then follow, this advice! I could not have said it better! Thank you!!
HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a ';gf'; material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask ';how I was doing';, through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
you should call her and tell her that you just want to take it slow and if she can't deal with that kick her *** out of your gf positition.HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
Just dont sweat alright.
Tell her that you think it鈥檚 going to fast for you and if she doesn鈥檛 slow down dump her
you are the one that seems a little weird,no offense intended but i have never heard of this.just call her and tell her how you feel and you are not ready to have sex with her yet.
something not right here if you dont like her leave her alone it sound like you giving off mixed signals
you should call her and tell her that you just want to take it slow and if she can't deal with that kick her *** out of your gf positition.HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
Just dont sweat alright.
Tell her that you think it鈥檚 going to fast for you and if she doesn鈥檛 slow down dump her
you are the one that seems a little weird,no offense intended but i have never heard of this.just call her and tell her how you feel and you are not ready to have sex with her yet.
something not right here if you dont like her leave her alone it sound like you giving off mixed signals
I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
I have been a single parent for about 6 months now. After graduated from college I move back to my parents place because I needed help on raising my baby. Now I'm start to date again, but I don't know how to open up to my parents about it. I would really want them to know about it, I'm just having the difficulty on the open up thing.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Just sit down at dinner with them one night, and calmly tell them that you think that you're interested in meeting new people, and you just met this really nice guy. It doens't help to brag a little about the man that you're dating, maybe that'll score a few points for your parents.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Are you honest with the relationship you are building? If yes! Go ahead and tell your parents.
you'd think they'd notice by having to look after your child while you go out to get pregnant again!!!! :D
You've graduated college and have a kid? When you going to grow up? Hello,you are an adult now, you don't have to be afraid of your parents anymore!
Being a single parent, with a baby, and a new college degree, you have far more important things to focus on, than dating.
Get your life together, and on solid, independent ground, first and foremost.
Everything else takes a backseat to that. No matter what; you have an example to set.
Next time you leave the house, tell them you have a date (if you do).
your an adult so just tell them that your dating again. simple as that
The easiest way is to just ask them if they would mind watching the baby because you have a date. Your an adult and I am sure they would want you to get out and date. After all, they would rather see their grandchild raised by 2 loving parents rather than a single parent.
tell them ur having xxx
I was a single mom who lived with my parents also. After being single and not dating anyone for about 5 months, I found someone. I dated him for about a month before I introduced him to them but I told them about him after 2 weeks. We are now engaged and going to have a baby.
Just sit down at dinner with them one night, and calmly tell them that you think that you're interested in meeting new people, and you just met this really nice guy. It doens't help to brag a little about the man that you're dating, maybe that'll score a few points for your parents.I'm a single parent, living with my parents, I need some advice on how to let my parents know that I'm dating
Are you honest with the relationship you are building? If yes! Go ahead and tell your parents.
you'd think they'd notice by having to look after your child while you go out to get pregnant again!!!! :D
You've graduated college and have a kid? When you going to grow up? Hello,you are an adult now, you don't have to be afraid of your parents anymore!
Being a single parent, with a baby, and a new college degree, you have far more important things to focus on, than dating.
Get your life together, and on solid, independent ground, first and foremost.
Everything else takes a backseat to that. No matter what; you have an example to set.
Next time you leave the house, tell them you have a date (if you do).
your an adult so just tell them that your dating again. simple as that
The easiest way is to just ask them if they would mind watching the baby because you have a date. Your an adult and I am sure they would want you to get out and date. After all, they would rather see their grandchild raised by 2 loving parents rather than a single parent.
tell them ur having xxx
I was a single mom who lived with my parents also. After being single and not dating anyone for about 5 months, I found someone. I dated him for about a month before I introduced him to them but I told them about him after 2 weeks. We are now engaged and going to have a baby.
HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a ';gf'; material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask ';how I was doing';, through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
WOW..You are like the first guy in the past decade I know that still believe in what you believe in. This is great. Why don't you just dump the girl and come hang out with me. :)HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
you gave to girl a complex, you need to talk to her and let her know that it wasn't her it was you who wanted to stop.
no!! just *** down...ok.you should right here a poem but not just any poem write her a poem about intimacy(MAKING LOVE)make love too her mind and then see how she responses
Well it really depends on if your rounded third base or not. Did you lead off of third base while the pitcher was pitching to the next batter? You need to either stop being a little puss and give it to her or let her find someone who will.
well it sounds liek your making it wierd. if shes contacting yout hen shes probably ok with everything. just make it known that your not ready to get physical with her. girls tend to understand because they usually wants stability. but also... why are you dating her if you feel liek shes NOT gf material?? think about that before you call her back
if she really likes you, she'll respect your decision and wait for the right time. tell her how you feel and she what she says. if she leaves, she's not worth your time
1. How do we know if you pissed her off? If you were THERE and didn't know, what makes you think WE would know?
2. Answer her damned phonecall unless you don't want to see her again. Explain your position, and see how she feels about it. You know, pretend you're an actual adult. It's fun.
3. If it's going to be weird from now on, it's because you're behaving like an adolescent.
You need to talk to her and reiterate that if she wants a relationship with you that she needs to respect your point of view on sleeping with someone. If she can't do that then you should move on. It says she doesn't repect you.
Your fine...Just talk to her again. If she wants it but you dont then shes not the right girl for you. Just tell her that...But you gotta call her again.
Sounds like you are not into her. If your not just break it off now.
In the future if you want to take it slow stick to that and you won't have this problem. If you still want to see her then explain to her that you would like to start over. But be very clear to her about how you feel about sex.
its only going to get weirder the longer you wait.
call her and tell her how you really feel.
if she is any women at all she should respect what you have to say.
I respect guys so much more when they like to take it slow.
hope this helps
well maybe u should consider not going out with her bc clearly she doesnt want the same things as u form a relationship --- u need to talk to her
Anytime you don't call a girl for four days, she wonders. And any time that you turn a girl down for sex, she panics. So doing them both means you have some serious grovelling to do. She needs to understand how big a deal intimacy is to you, then if she doesn't respect that: move on. If she does, than you can try again and find out how you feel about her from there. First off though, apologize profusely for not getting into contact with her and tell her how horribly sorry you were for just disappearing after that night.
Do you think i pissed her off?
I dunno, maybe the incidnt just humiliated her. Stick to your guns, though, don't sleep with someone just because they want it. Wait until you want it.
what should I do now?
Well, if you don't see her as GF material, you should call her back once and tell her that. Then leave her alone for a while. Why did you keep going out with her and go to 3rd base with her if you didn't see her as GF material? It could have led her on.
Is it going to be weird from now on?
Ya, most likely.
Wow!!! That's really cool....dump her and find someone else that has just as much respect for you as you would for her.....Stick to your guns!!! She's obviously a slut!!
Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a ';gf'; material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask ';how I was doing';, through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
WOW..You are like the first guy in the past decade I know that still believe in what you believe in. This is great. Why don't you just dump the girl and come hang out with me. :)HELP! Real good advice needed from the Dating Gurus!!?
you gave to girl a complex, you need to talk to her and let her know that it wasn't her it was you who wanted to stop.
no!! just *** down...ok.you should right here a poem but not just any poem write her a poem about intimacy(MAKING LOVE)make love too her mind and then see how she responses
Well it really depends on if your rounded third base or not. Did you lead off of third base while the pitcher was pitching to the next batter? You need to either stop being a little puss and give it to her or let her find someone who will.
well it sounds liek your making it wierd. if shes contacting yout hen shes probably ok with everything. just make it known that your not ready to get physical with her. girls tend to understand because they usually wants stability. but also... why are you dating her if you feel liek shes NOT gf material?? think about that before you call her back
if she really likes you, she'll respect your decision and wait for the right time. tell her how you feel and she what she says. if she leaves, she's not worth your time
1. How do we know if you pissed her off? If you were THERE and didn't know, what makes you think WE would know?
2. Answer her damned phonecall unless you don't want to see her again. Explain your position, and see how she feels about it. You know, pretend you're an actual adult. It's fun.
3. If it's going to be weird from now on, it's because you're behaving like an adolescent.
You need to talk to her and reiterate that if she wants a relationship with you that she needs to respect your point of view on sleeping with someone. If she can't do that then you should move on. It says she doesn't repect you.
Your fine...Just talk to her again. If she wants it but you dont then shes not the right girl for you. Just tell her that...But you gotta call her again.
Sounds like you are not into her. If your not just break it off now.
In the future if you want to take it slow stick to that and you won't have this problem. If you still want to see her then explain to her that you would like to start over. But be very clear to her about how you feel about sex.
its only going to get weirder the longer you wait.
call her and tell her how you really feel.
if she is any women at all she should respect what you have to say.
I respect guys so much more when they like to take it slow.
hope this helps
well maybe u should consider not going out with her bc clearly she doesnt want the same things as u form a relationship --- u need to talk to her
Anytime you don't call a girl for four days, she wonders. And any time that you turn a girl down for sex, she panics. So doing them both means you have some serious grovelling to do. She needs to understand how big a deal intimacy is to you, then if she doesn't respect that: move on. If she does, than you can try again and find out how you feel about her from there. First off though, apologize profusely for not getting into contact with her and tell her how horribly sorry you were for just disappearing after that night.
Do you think i pissed her off?
I dunno, maybe the incidnt just humiliated her. Stick to your guns, though, don't sleep with someone just because they want it. Wait until you want it.
what should I do now?
Well, if you don't see her as GF material, you should call her back once and tell her that. Then leave her alone for a while. Why did you keep going out with her and go to 3rd base with her if you didn't see her as GF material? It could have led her on.
Is it going to be weird from now on?
Ya, most likely.
Wow!!! That's really cool....dump her and find someone else that has just as much respect for you as you would for her.....Stick to your guns!!! She's obviously a slut!!
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