I'm stuck between two girls... help?
There's one girl I really like alot. I've been seeing her for a month now. We're not officially in a relationship, though she says she's starting to like me. We've been dating a lot and getting to know each other, because as per her request, she's inexperienced and she wants to take it slow.
I met another girl around the same time and we've started hanging out as friends but lately things have gotten more intimate between us. She definitely likes me, she told her friends to tell me. I like her, but not as much as the first girl, who I'd do anything for.
The first girl likes me but is so nervous about herself and relationships that she constantly disrupts the natural way things develop by saying stuff like ';I've never been this way before, I want to take things slow, I want to get to know you, I don't want to jump into anything, etc.';
Lately, the first girl has been waning on me and I've been enjoying time with the second girl more. I want to tell Girl A that I like her like none other and if she does to, to let things develop naturally instead of putting time frames and stepping back to ask if you are doing good enough! It's cute that she's shy about this stuff, but after a while it gets tedious, she acts like she wants me every day, but keeps stepping back because she's afraid of messing up.
I hope you guys get what I'm saying and can help me.
Would you take girl A or girl B? And what would you say to her in my situation? Thanks.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
Ok, here's what I think. I think Girl A is not mature enough to be in a relationship with you or anyone else. Relationships should be fun, natural, a great addition to your life-- not 'tedious.'
It's not like you can have a talk with her about this and she'll just change. She's not ready to work through some insecurities and let things develop naturally.
I'd break it off with her if I were you and continue to see this other girl as a friend and if something develops, it does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. But if you stay with Girl A, you're in for a long hard road.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
go for A, if u like her more then she has to be worth it, right? an if she's not then u don't really like her.
an just make sure u don't lead B on, cos thats just mean. maybe explain that theres someone u really like to her? an that it can't go beyond friends with u to.
have u kissed either of them?
Tell girl A that she needs to let go and if she keeps pulling back it will mess things up with you and her, It will probably get her to come around. Tell her like it is! Girl B just sounds like a person you can hang out with. You can always find someone to hang out with!
dude ,that,s part of playing the field personnaly , i would take A theres alot to take and teach and well you can benefite from it in the long run , if you know what i mean
Ahh, oh my god, you like Girl A more, obviously take her. And tell her those things you want to tell her. You said you'd do anything for her. So bear with her, be patient with her, be understanding. Until (unless) you stop feeling like it's worth the effort.
In my opinion you should take girl A, date the girl you like more, girl A will get over her shyness sooner or later, give it time. Don't date girl B because your Always going to like girl A more and its not fair for girl B.
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damn which girl is A and which girl is B? id hate to give u wrong advice.
turn this question on them but make it boy A and boy B and you can pretend to be boy C just so they dont catch on to ur trick then surprise them when u say ';april fool im AB and u win me';. manage au trois
Mate why not make life really interesting by adding a another women in the pot and if ya real good even a fourth one then you wouldn't really care what you said to women ';A'; or women ';B'; almost like an algebra problem but its real life and real people ya dealing with
Talk to girl A. Tell her how you feel and see how she responds if she doesn't come around either go for girl b or drop them both and move on.
this is kinda bad...... but i'd say go with the one who makes you most
happy, make a desision quick b4 they find out and u loose them both.
dont hurt them badly just break it off..... good luck.
Talk to girl A and tell her how you feel. And pending on how she takes it make your decision off that.
stop reposting your shitty question!
How old are you and how old are the two girls.
This would have some bearing on an answer.
date the girl that you truly have feelings for.
I'd say, just be happy with what you got!
If a girl has never been in a relationship before, it is a nerve racking thing to experience. Girl A will figure it out eventually. If not, just let her know how you feel about her behaviors so she does not do the same behaviors with every guy she becomes involved with. Help her figure out how to be in a relationship so it is fair to her and any other future boyfriends.
But do be careful, this is tricky, and if one girl figures out about the other, both could be repelled from you...
Good luck!
Dude, if you break up with girl A for girl B you're just going to mess her up even more. If you date girl B just because you got antsy and she finds out later- well, she's not going to be happy about being your second pick. Also, you may always have that ';what if'; question in the back of your head because you said it yourself, you liked irl A better.
Sometimes patients rewards.
Just be upfront to girl B. Tell her that you thought you had no chance with a girl you've been keeping an eye on for a while and tried to move on... but now the girl is giving you a chance and you want to stay in this relationship and yet you also want to go with the uncompleted relationship as well... but think that would be unfair for her (girl B) to stay around just because you like her when you like someone else as well. So you want to take your chances with girl A simply to fix the mess that was already made in the past. That way in the future if it doesn't work out you'll have no regrets about ';what if';.
Its clear that you like the 1st one so just tell her how you feel about her and say this too (or something like it):
I want to be closer to you but you keep pushing me away and its kind of making me feel like you dont feel the same way or dont plan on getting closer with me.. I wouldnt do anything to hurt you. What is it that you are the most affraid of?
Then try to work things out.. Im sure it will.. Good luck
I'd say go for girl A since you like her so much. Bein in a relationship takes work. When you guys grow together, your appreciation and love for each other will grow into an unbreakable bond. The more you and girl A talk to each other and get to know each other by spending time together, the more comfortable she will be around you. But she can't get your FULL attention if your out hanging with girl B (someone you don't really like as much)
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
I've been dating this guy for almost two months, but I've known him for a year or so. He has issues - super bad depression, and sometimes he's very disturbing, ie talking about killing people or how much he hates everyone.
He's fallen desperately in love with me. He says that he'll never leave me, that I need to tell him everything, and that I'm the only person he has. He's threatened suicide because I was mad at him once, and he's ALWAYS butting into my life - conversations I'm having with friends, or on Myspace he comments on every single bulletin and status and things like that. He's even talking about us getting married one day, and we're not even 16 yet. I'm only 14, even. It's driving me crazy. He's always sort of putting down my accomplishments, too, so that he's the smart one in our relationship, which offends me to no end.
I told my mom all this, and she wants me out of this relationship, pronto. I'm not allowed to hang out with him anymore. And honestly, I don't want him anymore either....but how do I break up with him? He's really in love with me. I'm not feeling this at all but with how unstable he is, I don't know what he'll do. I plan on breaking up with him tomorrow, but I'm kind of nervous.Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
dont go alone.get away from this guy.seriouslyHelp! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
Seriously listen to your mother gtfo of that relationship..you want nothing to do with it. Your gonna have to be a big girl and just turn your back, its the best thing to do for both of you. I would tell his parents also, so that they are aware that he may need help.
Dont worry...
95% of the time people are too scared to commit suicide.
Just tell him that you want to be single right now and focus on yourslef and your school work. Someone like this can bring you down and thats not good. You dont need this.
good luck darlin
Make HIM fall out of love with YOU! ;O Then someone will make a movie out of it. But seriously, be a cow and a slobl around him and diss his friends.
This guy is very disturbed and your life is in danger after you tell him you are breaking up with him. You are right in being nervous, and your mother is right in telling you to get out of this relationship pronto. He is very unstable and has the capacity to kill you, himself and both of you at the same time. Do not correspond with him on Myspace or anywhere else. I suggest that you inform your counselor or the principal of the school, as he is capable of coming to school with a gun and killing you and himself. He is a danger to others and to himself, and the school needs to be informed. Perhaps someone will be able to get in touch with his parents and have someone look at what he has on his computer or in his room that may give a better indication as to what he will do if you were to leave him. He is very sick in the head and needs intervention before he kills someone or himself. Tell your mother of this and she will help you make a decision as to how this needs to be handled. This is a delicate situation, and it may be necessary to contact the police. The police will know how to best handle this situation, and if I were you and your mother, I would notify the police as soon as possible. I suggest you not break up with him tomorrow, and not do so until you are assured as to your safety. This is not something to brush aside, as he is very unstable and unpredictable. He may be suffering from the early signs of schizophrenia and be in need of treatment, and the sooner he gets treatment, the better the chances are that he won't kill someone or himself. Were he to kill himself after you break up with him, don't blame yourself for his death, as you have no control over what he does, but you do have control over what you do to protect your self from him. You have asked a very important question on Yahoo Answers, and I hope you will read what I have told you and will take action to protect yourself. He is very unstable and you are wise to end the relationship.
omg, tell him you care about him and everything however yu cant be everything to him, tell him its not healthy. tell him if he really cares about you he will get help. no one can be truly happy if they hate themselves. if he loves you he has to understand if he doesn't you have to tell him he's being selfish. good luck. also do it somewhere public incase he flips out. like a coffeeshop. also maybe consider having your mom talk to his parents.
He's fallen desperately in love with me. He says that he'll never leave me, that I need to tell him everything, and that I'm the only person he has. He's threatened suicide because I was mad at him once, and he's ALWAYS butting into my life - conversations I'm having with friends, or on Myspace he comments on every single bulletin and status and things like that. He's even talking about us getting married one day, and we're not even 16 yet. I'm only 14, even. It's driving me crazy. He's always sort of putting down my accomplishments, too, so that he's the smart one in our relationship, which offends me to no end.
I told my mom all this, and she wants me out of this relationship, pronto. I'm not allowed to hang out with him anymore. And honestly, I don't want him anymore either....but how do I break up with him? He's really in love with me. I'm not feeling this at all but with how unstable he is, I don't know what he'll do. I plan on breaking up with him tomorrow, but I'm kind of nervous.Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
dont go alone.get away from this guy.seriouslyHelp! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
Seriously listen to your mother gtfo of that relationship..you want nothing to do with it. Your gonna have to be a big girl and just turn your back, its the best thing to do for both of you. I would tell his parents also, so that they are aware that he may need help.
Dont worry...
95% of the time people are too scared to commit suicide.
Just tell him that you want to be single right now and focus on yourslef and your school work. Someone like this can bring you down and thats not good. You dont need this.
good luck darlin
Make HIM fall out of love with YOU! ;O Then someone will make a movie out of it. But seriously, be a cow and a slobl around him and diss his friends.
This guy is very disturbed and your life is in danger after you tell him you are breaking up with him. You are right in being nervous, and your mother is right in telling you to get out of this relationship pronto. He is very unstable and has the capacity to kill you, himself and both of you at the same time. Do not correspond with him on Myspace or anywhere else. I suggest that you inform your counselor or the principal of the school, as he is capable of coming to school with a gun and killing you and himself. He is a danger to others and to himself, and the school needs to be informed. Perhaps someone will be able to get in touch with his parents and have someone look at what he has on his computer or in his room that may give a better indication as to what he will do if you were to leave him. He is very sick in the head and needs intervention before he kills someone or himself. Tell your mother of this and she will help you make a decision as to how this needs to be handled. This is a delicate situation, and it may be necessary to contact the police. The police will know how to best handle this situation, and if I were you and your mother, I would notify the police as soon as possible. I suggest you not break up with him tomorrow, and not do so until you are assured as to your safety. This is not something to brush aside, as he is very unstable and unpredictable. He may be suffering from the early signs of schizophrenia and be in need of treatment, and the sooner he gets treatment, the better the chances are that he won't kill someone or himself. Were he to kill himself after you break up with him, don't blame yourself for his death, as you have no control over what he does, but you do have control over what you do to protect your self from him. You have asked a very important question on Yahoo Answers, and I hope you will read what I have told you and will take action to protect yourself. He is very unstable and you are wise to end the relationship.
omg, tell him you care about him and everything however yu cant be everything to him, tell him its not healthy. tell him if he really cares about you he will get help. no one can be truly happy if they hate themselves. if he loves you he has to understand if he doesn't you have to tell him he's being selfish. good luck. also do it somewhere public incase he flips out. like a coffeeshop. also maybe consider having your mom talk to his parents.
ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Lord I could not even ask advice to a friend.
my boyfriend and meet a month a few weeks now. I from the island and it is a bit different when carribean date.Usually we wait longer to see if the man he serious. I can said that it his the first time in my life that my family know about someone that i m going out with etc... ok we meet and click went out ok, had sex make love and start going out.
1-he works 3 jobs go to school and live with his brother. so only way to be together is to go to a hotel. we see each other 1 or twice a week for a few hours.and talk always in the phone he calls me every minutes.and travel for distances to come see me or pick me up from work.and try to make sure i'm satisfied.My biggest problem is his attitude when i talk and he says i don't care constantly or when i ask him for his opinion and he does like i should only decide.we so far went 3 familly parties and to dinner 1 time. everytime we order food we eat in his car.
Also we went a hotel twice now he only want to have sex in the car and i hate that, i told my condition about my back and knees after a accident,can get worst like that.he said what other solution we have and tells me that he will fix it when he get his own apart. but now I found myself more than once in that position that.so much i decide that if he come to see me next time i will not have sex at all with him.because what if the police come.
I hate when he tells that sex his the only thing in life ,he notice that a few to me I start worried and told him no he told me waht else than. He, yersterday told me that he need to have sex everyday i was like what.(we have sex only 1 or 2 time a week). i worried more and tried to talk to him when he told me that make him feel that he love his woman better.He will constantly tell me how he would like to have sex with me sometime i feel like bad not love for affection or touch. or sofht love making
I let him be itself so i can discover stuff about him. He curse to much sometimes when he talk and i a lot made the remark.he told me that he became like that for certain reason.
when i try to show him why i'm mad or explain someting that i know will upset him just to get a better communication he keep telling me my bad habit and that i get on his nerve.
for valentine I never had nothing from no one before and hope that it will be a nice day soon. Like he will be romantic and go to a dinner and dance with me. he decide already two weeks before we said we will go to a hotel to have sex and keep telling me during this week i can't wait to be paw paw with you.Also he don't want to use condonm and don't want to go get tested wiht me. to tell the truht, i'm hurt.Only a few good souvenir make me smile.
We mad today , i do love him but if that continued my health and person are more important. we are both in our 20's. i'm tired to ear of his big past story how he got girls and him be so proud of it and if i will tell him a story he say ok ok enough.can any dating coach or anyone tell me how to fix this mess.I fell like respect his the mean point there and sexual health.PLEASE ADVICE HOW TO MAKE HIM KNOW THAT HE'S WRONG.
I'm crying while wrinting this can not even review mistakes sorry for the english.ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Don't worry about telling him he's wrong because he could care less.
Seriously, cut your losses and toss this dude out like a parking ticket! You want someone who's going to respect your wishes and physical limits and understands that sex isn't everything. It's important, but it's not everything.
You'll have to be tough, but you don't need to be crying and upset over a manchild.
Take careANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
You need a better man than that, he's bad news
You maybe need to separate for a while then get back together. If he doesn't change well i guess hooking up with someone else is better
being a guy working 3 jobs is mind craming, the sex relaxs hims i bet, w/o a condom is bad news, you should both get tested if your unsure, i think clinics do that for free nowa days, as long as you feel he's really working 3 jobs , then i would say help the man thru it...bj here and there, make sure your not wasting your time.
Just don't give in to his requests, he treating you as a sex object %26amp; he using his past to ';force'; you in giving in to him.
He not respecting you at all, I bet he love himself more then you too.
my boyfriend and meet a month a few weeks now. I from the island and it is a bit different when carribean date.Usually we wait longer to see if the man he serious. I can said that it his the first time in my life that my family know about someone that i m going out with etc... ok we meet and click went out ok, had sex make love and start going out.
1-he works 3 jobs go to school and live with his brother. so only way to be together is to go to a hotel. we see each other 1 or twice a week for a few hours.and talk always in the phone he calls me every minutes.and travel for distances to come see me or pick me up from work.and try to make sure i'm satisfied.My biggest problem is his attitude when i talk and he says i don't care constantly or when i ask him for his opinion and he does like i should only decide.we so far went 3 familly parties and to dinner 1 time. everytime we order food we eat in his car.
Also we went a hotel twice now he only want to have sex in the car and i hate that, i told my condition about my back and knees after a accident,can get worst like that.he said what other solution we have and tells me that he will fix it when he get his own apart. but now I found myself more than once in that position that.so much i decide that if he come to see me next time i will not have sex at all with him.because what if the police come.
I hate when he tells that sex his the only thing in life ,he notice that a few to me I start worried and told him no he told me waht else than. He, yersterday told me that he need to have sex everyday i was like what.(we have sex only 1 or 2 time a week). i worried more and tried to talk to him when he told me that make him feel that he love his woman better.He will constantly tell me how he would like to have sex with me sometime i feel like bad not love for affection or touch. or sofht love making
I let him be itself so i can discover stuff about him. He curse to much sometimes when he talk and i a lot made the remark.he told me that he became like that for certain reason.
when i try to show him why i'm mad or explain someting that i know will upset him just to get a better communication he keep telling me my bad habit and that i get on his nerve.
for valentine I never had nothing from no one before and hope that it will be a nice day soon. Like he will be romantic and go to a dinner and dance with me. he decide already two weeks before we said we will go to a hotel to have sex and keep telling me during this week i can't wait to be paw paw with you.Also he don't want to use condonm and don't want to go get tested wiht me. to tell the truht, i'm hurt.Only a few good souvenir make me smile.
We mad today , i do love him but if that continued my health and person are more important. we are both in our 20's. i'm tired to ear of his big past story how he got girls and him be so proud of it and if i will tell him a story he say ok ok enough.can any dating coach or anyone tell me how to fix this mess.I fell like respect his the mean point there and sexual health.PLEASE ADVICE HOW TO MAKE HIM KNOW THAT HE'S WRONG.
I'm crying while wrinting this can not even review mistakes sorry for the english.ANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
Don't worry about telling him he's wrong because he could care less.
Seriously, cut your losses and toss this dude out like a parking ticket! You want someone who's going to respect your wishes and physical limits and understands that sex isn't everything. It's important, but it's not everything.
You'll have to be tough, but you don't need to be crying and upset over a manchild.
Take careANY DATING COACH OR ANYONE ADVICE PLEASE?
You need a better man than that, he's bad news
You maybe need to separate for a while then get back together. If he doesn't change well i guess hooking up with someone else is better
being a guy working 3 jobs is mind craming, the sex relaxs hims i bet, w/o a condom is bad news, you should both get tested if your unsure, i think clinics do that for free nowa days, as long as you feel he's really working 3 jobs , then i would say help the man thru it...bj here and there, make sure your not wasting your time.
Just don't give in to his requests, he treating you as a sex object %26amp; he using his past to ';force'; you in giving in to him.
He not respecting you at all, I bet he love himself more then you too.
Girls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
I just turned 18, freshman year at university.
Things (I feel) that have been holding me back from dating are just about to be over forever.
I got braces on late but I am so glad I got them, miracles happened. Anyway I get them off in less than a month.
Physically matured- im 6'2 180 lbs, exercise etc
got over teenage mild acne
mentally matured
so there is this chick i will be working with until february. i already flirt with her and that but should I wait the 2 months or so when I finally hit my prime or should I just go for it now. I know it shouldn't matter if the girls likes me she does either way, but it is such a confidence booster!
any advice?
thanks for the help
cheersGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
i say go for it, what do you have to lose?
2 months wont exactly be your prime, we're always growing, but good luck with itGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
Stick your d|ck in her butt.
Things (I feel) that have been holding me back from dating are just about to be over forever.
I got braces on late but I am so glad I got them, miracles happened. Anyway I get them off in less than a month.
Physically matured- im 6'2 180 lbs, exercise etc
got over teenage mild acne
mentally matured
so there is this chick i will be working with until february. i already flirt with her and that but should I wait the 2 months or so when I finally hit my prime or should I just go for it now. I know it shouldn't matter if the girls likes me she does either way, but it is such a confidence booster!
any advice?
thanks for the help
cheersGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
i say go for it, what do you have to lose?
2 months wont exactly be your prime, we're always growing, but good luck with itGirls, dating, and self confidence. Advice?
Stick your d|ck in her butt.
Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Earlier in the day,my boyfriend texted me yesterday and he said that a girl that is close to his grandma said that I cheated on him,he said she thinks she is hating.I dont know this girl,and she keeps buggin him about it,and its getting to his head.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
Bad at the whole dating thing... Need some advice... Please and thank you. open to all suggestions / answers :
I work in a bar and one of our bartenders works a second job at another one about 20 minutes away. So last ight a few friends, co-workers and I went out there. This guy (the bartender) is sooo hot! I mean god like, it is rediculious, he is a really awesomely nice guy too. So anyway I was standing there talking to him, I have been thinking about asking him out for coffee or something sometime but wasn't going to do it for another couple of weeks or so.
As I was talking to him one of my friends walks up and says... ';She thinks you are hot, you probably think she is hot, why don't you two just get it over with, exchange numbers and go out.'; OMG! Deer in the headlights. We exchanged numbers and have loose plans to ';get together'; on sunday.
If we do would it be a pity date?
How do I act when I see him at work tomorrow?
Should I mention it? Or let him?
I am so bad at this whole dating thing and he makes me all nervous cuz I feel like he is out of my league (just a little).Bad at the whole dating thing... Need some advice... Please and thank you. open to all suggestions / answers :
My advice would be for you to talk openly with this 篓godlike篓guy about last night's incident, letting him know that no matter how you got into it, you're interested in getting together. The one who set you up guys for a date must have had some inside information about this guy thinking you are hot, right? So, chances are, this bartender is probably feeling just as ackward as you are but in a way thankful that it's all out in the open.dermalogica
As I was talking to him one of my friends walks up and says... ';She thinks you are hot, you probably think she is hot, why don't you two just get it over with, exchange numbers and go out.'; OMG! Deer in the headlights. We exchanged numbers and have loose plans to ';get together'; on sunday.
If we do would it be a pity date?
How do I act when I see him at work tomorrow?
Should I mention it? Or let him?
I am so bad at this whole dating thing and he makes me all nervous cuz I feel like he is out of my league (just a little).Bad at the whole dating thing... Need some advice... Please and thank you. open to all suggestions / answers :
My advice would be for you to talk openly with this 篓godlike篓guy about last night's incident, letting him know that no matter how you got into it, you're interested in getting together. The one who set you up guys for a date must have had some inside information about this guy thinking you are hot, right? So, chances are, this bartender is probably feeling just as ackward as you are but in a way thankful that it's all out in the open.
Difficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice?
I am going through a divorce and have reconnected with an old friend who definitely wants to date but doesn't want to do it officially until my divorce is final. She is reluctant to date a married man (even though I won't be in a few months). Is there any argument I can give her to see that my marriage is over (my spouse cheated on me) and all thats left is the legal wranglingDifficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice?
personally i believe a marriage is over when either of the parties breaks their vows to each other, the same way a partnership contract is ended when one partner steals from another. the paperwork is just for the lawyers and for the state and to make money out of us. i consider myself divorced from the day i walked out, but like you, i am waiting for the final paperwork, and for the state to decide when they think i should be declared divorced or not. my viewpoint, morals and ethics are between me and god, not between me and the state. unfort, many ';divorcing'; couples still try to rekindle old flames, and your lady friend has no way in knowing if you are one of them or not. she is protecting herself from any possible hurt, and like many, she probably views marriage as a legal state based institution, which she is entitled to. just continue to ';be there';, lay of the pressure and be grateful for her support. a few months is no big deal - look forward to it - its good for the imagination lol. good luckDifficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice?
if this old friend is someone you would really like to reconnect with and she wants the divorce to be final...why can you not keep it casual as friends for a couple of months and date when everything is done with.....
why are you pushing her to do something she doesn't want to?
if you like her, wait. otherwise you're just trying to get in her pants and she probably senses that
Tell her you have moved on. There is nothing wrong with reconnecting with her. You feel though as she doesnt want to reconnect with you. Make sure you are what she wants. Its seems she would still be hesitant even if you were single.
Just wait until your divorce is final. If it's important to her you need to respect that.
No argument I could or would give. In fact I would take her advice and clean up one complication in your life before you start another complication. It's just nice to know someone is there waiting for you. She is willingly giving you the opportunity and time you need to create stability in your life so she can be with you.
There's nothing wrong with dating her, but you have to put yourself in her shoes. She probably doesn't want to get burnt if you decide to back out of the divorce at the last minute. I would just keep it casual with her for now...lunches, dinners, etc. Three months will pass by very quickly.
She wants to date you, and sounds like she's willing to wait. She may have ';heard it all before'; from other married men....who remained married. It's not to say that you'll do that, but consider her point of view.
Frankly, I think you should take a Girl Break and get your head straight. You didn't leave your marriage because you didn't love your wife, she cheated on you. That's good enough reason to leave, but rather than run out and get involved again, put some distance between yourself and the end of your marriage. If you still want to get with your old friend, then do that but take it slow.
Also consider that the divorce is a process that will have your attention until it's over. If I were dating you, I'm not sure that I'd want to be updated on the status of your divorce or what thing went wrong (or right) in court. I may feel compelled to ask just to be polite.
Get through your divorce; get yourself in a position where it's a done deal and not rolling around in your mind. It sounds like she'll wait.
Her issue is probably more a moral issue. She isn't avoiding dating you because she is afraid you will get back with your wife, she is waiting because her morals tell her that it isn't right to date you until you are legally single again. Don't try to push her into something she doesn't feel is right. This would be a selfish action on your part and a bad beginning to the relationship. Honor her request to wait. This doesn't mean you can't hang out as friends though. Spending time together without the pressure of being ';together'; will be a good way to get reconnected and know each other on a more basic level before taking it further. Be patient with her and show her that you respect her wishes.
Just wait till you're divorced dude. Looks better on you if the soon to be X finds out before the divorce is final.
I feel your pain, I been going through the process of divorce now starting the third year since I filed. I have tried dating during that time frame but your life is truly in limbo. It is very hard for anyone starting a new relationship without the baggage of divorce happening at the same time. If you have a docket number and going through the process you have establish that you are separated and working to finish the divorce you can date. If you see the light at the end of tunnel then wait for the divorce. If you need to spend time building up your social life without the chains of dating try joining groups of interest to you and you will begin to heal from the past relationships and meet others to share your spare time with. You need to be happy with yourself before you try to have any type of relationship. Good luck.
no, because the marriage is not over until all the paperwork is done.
Most likely not, but hey look at it this way, at least she has morals! Which in this day and time is something not a lot of people have.
you cant even commit to married and you want to date no Wonder
she cheated on you
Some people have a hard time dating people who are still legally married. It's just the way they are %26amp; you aren't going to change it. You can tell her until you're blue in the face that you're getting divorced but maybe to her you are still married.
She is very wise.
Put an end to your marriage totally and legally.
Then go see her.
You don't argue with someone over her principled position.
You'd be much better off if you were respectful of those principles, good natured about the wait, and told her she was worth that wait.
If you push this, you'll blow it.
Patience, Sparky.
No, your marriage is over --- all but the paperwork... Cheating is the big dealbreaker just about not recaoverable, and a no brainer to end. If marriage is respect, admiration, passion and trust, the trust is gone, and the rest of it is down the tubes.---if there is no trust, there is nothing...... She should be able to understand this.... You are married in paper only, not emotionally, and that is the important part. Hope this helps.
It is against martial law to date while married. You need to show her the papers stating that the marriage is officially over. It is in the constitution. Updates at 11:00 p.m.
What is the rush? Sounds like she has more integrity than you do.
you answered your own question. just wait then.
no arguement...respect her wishes. You'll destroy the relationship by destroying her convictions. Remember, you're the one going through the divorce. Finish dealing with what you're a part of, and then invite her into your life.
If you are not living with your ex and not seeing your ex socially, then it makes no sense to me why you can't be dating someone else. I've been separated for 5 years and financially it doesn't make sense to divorce yet. I consider myself single or divorced socially..but I am legally married. I don't see a reason to legally divorce unless I or my spouse wants to get remarried. Why not date?? Providing you really aren't living with (but not sleeping with..sure), involved with, etc etc half in and half out of your marriage...then i would understand someone not believing your marriage was really over.
How about dating ';unofficially';? I think as long as you two keep in touch (coffee, lunch, nothing too date-ish) it'll show her your serious intentions. However, she may think that you're on the rebound and doesn't want to be that ';rebound'; girl. She may also see you as damaged goods.
Good luck!
You cannot make her do something that she doesn't wish to. Respect her decision, stay in touch and let her know that when you are finally free and single you would very much like to date her.
personally i believe a marriage is over when either of the parties breaks their vows to each other, the same way a partnership contract is ended when one partner steals from another. the paperwork is just for the lawyers and for the state and to make money out of us. i consider myself divorced from the day i walked out, but like you, i am waiting for the final paperwork, and for the state to decide when they think i should be declared divorced or not. my viewpoint, morals and ethics are between me and god, not between me and the state. unfort, many ';divorcing'; couples still try to rekindle old flames, and your lady friend has no way in knowing if you are one of them or not. she is protecting herself from any possible hurt, and like many, she probably views marriage as a legal state based institution, which she is entitled to. just continue to ';be there';, lay of the pressure and be grateful for her support. a few months is no big deal - look forward to it - its good for the imagination lol. good luckDifficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice?
if this old friend is someone you would really like to reconnect with and she wants the divorce to be final...why can you not keep it casual as friends for a couple of months and date when everything is done with.....
why are you pushing her to do something she doesn't want to?
if you like her, wait. otherwise you're just trying to get in her pants and she probably senses that
Tell her you have moved on. There is nothing wrong with reconnecting with her. You feel though as she doesnt want to reconnect with you. Make sure you are what she wants. Its seems she would still be hesitant even if you were single.
Just wait until your divorce is final. If it's important to her you need to respect that.
No argument I could or would give. In fact I would take her advice and clean up one complication in your life before you start another complication. It's just nice to know someone is there waiting for you. She is willingly giving you the opportunity and time you need to create stability in your life so she can be with you.
There's nothing wrong with dating her, but you have to put yourself in her shoes. She probably doesn't want to get burnt if you decide to back out of the divorce at the last minute. I would just keep it casual with her for now...lunches, dinners, etc. Three months will pass by very quickly.
She wants to date you, and sounds like she's willing to wait. She may have ';heard it all before'; from other married men....who remained married. It's not to say that you'll do that, but consider her point of view.
Frankly, I think you should take a Girl Break and get your head straight. You didn't leave your marriage because you didn't love your wife, she cheated on you. That's good enough reason to leave, but rather than run out and get involved again, put some distance between yourself and the end of your marriage. If you still want to get with your old friend, then do that but take it slow.
Also consider that the divorce is a process that will have your attention until it's over. If I were dating you, I'm not sure that I'd want to be updated on the status of your divorce or what thing went wrong (or right) in court. I may feel compelled to ask just to be polite.
Get through your divorce; get yourself in a position where it's a done deal and not rolling around in your mind. It sounds like she'll wait.
Her issue is probably more a moral issue. She isn't avoiding dating you because she is afraid you will get back with your wife, she is waiting because her morals tell her that it isn't right to date you until you are legally single again. Don't try to push her into something she doesn't feel is right. This would be a selfish action on your part and a bad beginning to the relationship. Honor her request to wait. This doesn't mean you can't hang out as friends though. Spending time together without the pressure of being ';together'; will be a good way to get reconnected and know each other on a more basic level before taking it further. Be patient with her and show her that you respect her wishes.
Just wait till you're divorced dude. Looks better on you if the soon to be X finds out before the divorce is final.
I feel your pain, I been going through the process of divorce now starting the third year since I filed. I have tried dating during that time frame but your life is truly in limbo. It is very hard for anyone starting a new relationship without the baggage of divorce happening at the same time. If you have a docket number and going through the process you have establish that you are separated and working to finish the divorce you can date. If you see the light at the end of tunnel then wait for the divorce. If you need to spend time building up your social life without the chains of dating try joining groups of interest to you and you will begin to heal from the past relationships and meet others to share your spare time with. You need to be happy with yourself before you try to have any type of relationship. Good luck.
no, because the marriage is not over until all the paperwork is done.
Most likely not, but hey look at it this way, at least she has morals! Which in this day and time is something not a lot of people have.
you cant even commit to married and you want to date no Wonder
she cheated on you
Some people have a hard time dating people who are still legally married. It's just the way they are %26amp; you aren't going to change it. You can tell her until you're blue in the face that you're getting divorced but maybe to her you are still married.
She is very wise.
Put an end to your marriage totally and legally.
Then go see her.
You don't argue with someone over her principled position.
You'd be much better off if you were respectful of those principles, good natured about the wait, and told her she was worth that wait.
If you push this, you'll blow it.
Patience, Sparky.
No, your marriage is over --- all but the paperwork... Cheating is the big dealbreaker just about not recaoverable, and a no brainer to end. If marriage is respect, admiration, passion and trust, the trust is gone, and the rest of it is down the tubes.---if there is no trust, there is nothing...... She should be able to understand this.... You are married in paper only, not emotionally, and that is the important part. Hope this helps.
It is against martial law to date while married. You need to show her the papers stating that the marriage is officially over. It is in the constitution. Updates at 11:00 p.m.
What is the rush? Sounds like she has more integrity than you do.
you answered your own question. just wait then.
no arguement...respect her wishes. You'll destroy the relationship by destroying her convictions. Remember, you're the one going through the divorce. Finish dealing with what you're a part of, and then invite her into your life.
If you are not living with your ex and not seeing your ex socially, then it makes no sense to me why you can't be dating someone else. I've been separated for 5 years and financially it doesn't make sense to divorce yet. I consider myself single or divorced socially..but I am legally married. I don't see a reason to legally divorce unless I or my spouse wants to get remarried. Why not date?? Providing you really aren't living with (but not sleeping with..sure), involved with, etc etc half in and half out of your marriage...then i would understand someone not believing your marriage was really over.
How about dating ';unofficially';? I think as long as you two keep in touch (coffee, lunch, nothing too date-ish) it'll show her your serious intentions. However, she may think that you're on the rebound and doesn't want to be that ';rebound'; girl. She may also see you as damaged goods.
Good luck!
You cannot make her do something that she doesn't wish to. Respect her decision, stay in touch and let her know that when you are finally free and single you would very much like to date her.
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