Monday, August 23, 2010

Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?

I'm 22 and there's a guy thats interested in taking me out, problem is he's 31 with 2 kids and baby mama drama, and i not that experienced when it comes to dating. He's a nice a guy but could this be just too much baggage?Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
I am 22 and dated a 24 year old with two kids. Yes it was too much baggage. I loved her and was willing to dedicate myself to her and her children, but in the end there was too much drama with her ex's hanging around. You will be caught in the middle of everything, regardless of wether its your fault or not. You will always be second best to the kids. Personally, many times I felt like I was a spectator and would never truly be a part of the family. Its up to you wether you want to live like that.Has Anyone Dated An Older Person With Kids? Advice Pls?!?
My cousin is 25 and dating a man who is 40 years old. He has four children and a very very hateful ex wife (she made him switch churches so she could go to church with the guy she was sleeping with while still married). They are taking things VERY slow. They have been together for 8 months and still don't say ';I love you'; or sleep together. She is very happy and so is he and his children. But it takes time and a lot of effort. If you aren't willing to put in the effort for him AND his children then move on.
I've been the guy in this situation. The girl I was dating split pretty soon because I put my kids before her (no great loss to me. My kids come first.) If you cant stand being put behind the kids, then do everyone a favor and get out now.

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