My question is for the ladies, i need your advice. I have been dating this girl for about a month now.?

but, ive known her for about twenty three years. We have both been married and divorced to other people. my question is, she is very insecure and has very low self esteem. she was verbally abused and mentally abused by her ex-husband and two other guys she has dated since then. I have told her things like I love you and i want to take care of you. she has a 8 year old daughter who is the apple of my eye. we have done several things together like go out to dinner, go to movies, go to the park, we even colored easter eggs together all with her daughter. nobody has ever included her daughter in things, they've always asked can you find a babysitter so we can go out and she did. even her husband did this, when she would work and he would be home for the day he would telll her to take the child to her mothers. which i think is disgusting. I have done alot for her to show her im different from the others but she is still leary of me because she has seen all this before. how do i show im reaMy question is for the ladies, i need your advice. I have been dating this girl for about a month now.?
Your friend needs a therapist if she's very insecure and has very low self esteem, and was verbally abused and mentally abused by her ex-husband and two other guys.


Don't try to rescue her-- she needs professional help, not another boyfriend.My question is for the ladies, i need your advice. I have been dating this girl for about a month now.?
That's such a great post, and it's obvious that you're a kind and caring person. I don't think you have to do anything else to prove you're not a bully. One month is still really early, so I'd say that time is the best healer.. give her time and space, and watch to see how things develop. I have had to do this myself because my boyfriend is much less experienced than me and I have had to slow down loads and go back to basics with him. But it is working and the trust is slowly building, and it's worth it.
Just stay there and be supportive. I am sure here daughter is enjoying your company too. The only thing you need to be careful of is not to be too pushy. She may just need some time to take things slow. Be patient, I sure wish I could find someone like you from me and my son. Good Luck
YOU HAVE TO GIVE HER TIME. THERE'S NOTHING ELSE YOU CAN DO BUT THAT. AND CONTINUE TO SHOW YOU LOVE HER. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE'S BEEN THREW. SO IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN'T WAIT TILL SHE'S READY THEN LEAVE HER ALONE NOW BECAUSE YOU ARE LOOKING AT A LONG ROAD AHEAD WITH HER
stay by her side. show her you are always a good guy and not just putting on a show. you need to understand though, that she has a lot of feelings that she's probably scared to tell you and it may cause fights.. that's the situation with me.
you have know her for 23 years.....that's is a long time, and


it is more than wonderful that your friendship has lasted that long. I too, have men friends that I have know for over 50 years and we still comm unite. Married, divorced...


I have been separated for years, now am going to file for a


divorce. However, these men have become my Friends....


forever. I just cannot see marriage to either of them.


Don't get me wrong, they I believe are just like you...


could not ask for more as a woman...but I do not have that


';feeling'; towards them.


Quite possibly that is how she feels....


Ask her point blank...23 years...a long time...I would think you could ask her anything.


try it...my best wishes to you! You are one wonderful man!!!
I would say continue as you are. The only thing that proves to me someone is reliable is their actions over a period of time. But even then nobody鈥檚 perfect. And even the best have bad days and bad qualities as well as their good ones. With that is it better to be single and have just Mom鈥檚 pro鈥檚 and con鈥檚 or bring in another man with his? And now we have her previous experience to add to it. So the more you ask the more she may get stressed out. Just continue being (there, supportive) and don鈥檛 push too hard or it will seem odd.
the best way u can show her u love her is by sticking around for her, which obviously the other men in her life didnt do..


stick around long enuf n shell know u love her eventually.. n at that point i assure u that u wudnt even find the need to keep reminding her of it!


if the current situation ure in permits it or if uv been together for a while, u guys shud get married.. that wud take all the doubt away for good!


what do u say?
you're doing everything right! just keep being the good guy that you are. you can't erase years of hurt that easily. just give her time and keep being supportive! some counseling might even do her some good!
give her time. don't pressure her, she wants to believe that everything that is going on is real, giver her time to realize that is real and that ur not playing her.
Dude but if u really do like her and what her to give u a ghance then, just stick with her. Shell notcie that you've been by her side and dint give up on her.Good Luck
It just takes time. I know that it sucks for you because you sound like a hell of a guy, but she is going to need time and your understanding.

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