I love this man. i have tried to walk away but i can't. I have not met another man who's gotten a hold of my heart like he has. I can have anyone I want but all i want is him. My heart aches. I am so torn.Ever dated a divorced guy? Your advice needed here!!?
well, because he is making his daughter his first priority i would say this man is a good one. it shows he cares about his daughter and would go to the ends of the earth for anyone that is important in his life. it may take some time but this custody battle will end and his mind will become more at ease over the issue. my advice is if you love him then simply support him, and be patient, he will come to you if he needs you, and support is what he needs in this situation. i married my husband when i was 22 and he was previously married with two kids. i am very glad i never took the urge to walk away and run with it, if i had i would have missed out on the greatest love of my life. don't walk away just yet, if you love him, give it some time.Ever dated a divorced guy? Your advice needed here!!?
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This man does not love you like you love him. I agree with the person above who said he's hinting for you to leave him without hurting your feelings. If he did truly love you and want you, he would include you in everything he's going thru and want and respect your help and opinions. He may feel you don't understand him, or are more immature than he is, if you don't have kids yourself. You may just be that ';transitional person'; for him. If he loved you the way you deserve, he would be holding on tight to you right now, not backing away.
My advice is to let him be....for now. I have been in this situation and after while I started getting really tired of it. He sounds like a great guy and understandably doesn't want to involve you in this mess. Tell him you love him and you will be there for him when he needs you. If he is not cheating on you, give him some space and time.
Sounds like you are both being fair to one another, so I guess it is your choice.
I have been in the man's shoes and felt so drained through the court crap, plus I felt guilty toward my GF for being so consumed. Time frames are different for every custody case, but like all bad things, they do end and things will get better. Can you wait?
My husband has a daughter, if I would have walked away in the beginning I would have lost the best thing in my life. My husband and I have been together for seven years now and we have a wonderful three year old and are pregnant with our second due in June. I just hope you don't get hurt. My husband never was married nor loved his daughters mom. You are in a different situation. Alot of men get back with their wives because they don't want to have to go through the pain of having to deal with the divorce or custody battle. You need to sit down with him. And if he is recently separated from his wife. You are looking for disappointment. Good Luck though.
I'm dating a divorced man right now and he also has a daughter. The only difference here is that the mother doesn't let him see her at all. he's actually thought of signing all the rights over to the mother.
Men are very different then women when they deal with emotions. we need to talk and express and men just need to be left alone.
I think you should just stay at a distance like he says but let him know that you care and will be there for him when ever he needs you. He's right, his daughter should be his first priority and he's a strong man for knowing that. I really feel for you dear. I do not even mention anything to my boyfriend about his daughter because I know it hurts him a lot. I wait for him to open up and let me in.
Good luck.
It would help his custody battle if he could show that he was remarried or in a committed relationship. The fact he's shutting you out could mean he's dating you on the rebound or to keep from being lonely. Is it possible he is still in love with his ex and going after custody to get back at her for breaking up with him or to hurt her or to encourage her to take him back in fear that she may lose custody? The best way for you to get answers to your questions and doubt is to talk to the woman or try to observe them together or when all else fails-hire a private investigator. Before you set yourself up for more heartbreak. Speaking from experience-be sure he's really over his ex-regardless of what he says. Most men would reach out to their girlfriends for a shoulder to lean on but he is doing the oppposite....you need to find out why. I once dated a divorced man who had two daughters and his ex had moved on and been with another man for a few years but they hadn't married yet so he dated me to make her jealous to see if she would realize she loved him and wanted him back. He wasn't in a custody battle as your beau is but he used his kids in his wars with the ex wife lots...I left the pathetic loser because whereas I do think a persons kids should come first I realized I didn't even rank in comparison. Damn right he's not being fair to you...I suggest you look around for better,and take him up on his suggestionthat you not wait around twidling your thumbs.
you should let him go.
It'll be hard as hell but its the best thing to do.
he's hinting you to let go without hurting your feelings.
i know this lingo.
if you really want this man hang in there and show him that you can respect his wishes that you will wait if that's what it takes
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