Complicated situation with girl i dated...need help and advice.? yes its long ?

we dated for acouple of months after her and her boyfriend broke up but in the end she decided to go back to him. I was going to stop talking to her all together but she still called me and I still wanted to talk. I told her i feel like were together and she said the same thing. we seriously do this all the time where we would stop talking and it happen 3 times this last month. I really do like her and i think i have fallin for her but she recently did something to me that really turned me off and said things that gave me red flags. She basically ditched me on my bday and went to meet up with boyfriend and told me she would come back or at least call me back to tell me if she can come. She never returned my call that night and went to sleep god knows where she claims her house but w/e and had class in the morning but never called me the next day to apologize and i proceeded to text her the next day saying basically wow an amazed what she did to me. and proceeded to go tell her to go F her self and only cares about herself. We got into an arguement and said to me you gave me a red flag when you told me that and has to really think ';about us';. So i got scared when she said that and i thought i should just end it right there and tell her to stop talking for now to me. She said i was ****** up and that we couldnt make our relationship work if we were ever in one. That relationships you dont run away from problems you try to make it work... I basically laughed at this because i said to her what relationship? we were never in one so how can i run away to our problems. You cant have two different people that it does not work that way. she said i was abandoning her and told her we can only become friends. She then texted me and said to me oh how she could not believe how i am doing this today and i havent return her text message at all today. I really want to be with her and i want her as my friend atleast but i cant just act and pretend we have something when we offically dont. ... she continues to cal and text me and i feel like responding i cant do this anymore. She has me as her back up and dosent want to break up with her boyfreind and yet tell me she loves me but when in fact i know she loves the other guy too. SHe tells me i cant be with other girls because she would not talk to me. And i think thats messed up that we still could not talk adn be friends if that was to happen. There was also another thing that bother me she said that if they ever broke up and she was with me that her boyfriend would still call her. THey known each other for 3 years while I known her for almost 6 months. I dont know what to do i want to be with her but i cant put myself through this anymore because i feel like im going insane and i cant function or do school work im in college btw and hang out with my friends. Personally i dont want her out of my life because i care about her that much but i cant wait around for her forever and she does not watn to be wtih me fully by leaving her boyfriend for me. So many problems. Yes she has cheated on him with me if your wondering. I know its wrong but i really do love her and i want to be with her. What should i do? i just want to be her friend but i risk losing her all together which i dont want to do.Complicated situation with girl i dated...need help and advice.? yes its long ?
All you can do is offer to be her friend and let the chips fall as they may.Complicated situation with girl i dated...need help and advice.? yes its long ?
She is a high maintenance drama queen, block her phone number and stay away she is trouble.
It sounds like she is just using you to have as a back up in case she breaks up with the other guy. Why not move on and fine someone who appreciates you. It will be hard for a while but time will help you through all this.
To me, it sounds like she's not even worth it. Putting you through this crap? Forget her. Yes...it sounds hard...and I know how hard it is but let's face it, she is confused and can't make up her mind, so why should YOU wait around forever for her?? Theres more fish in the sea hun. You should just straight up tell her in a serious tone, ';I really like you, but your really confusing me and I don't want to wait for you forever because I need to move on with my life. So seriously make up your mind.';





Theres more important things in life to worry about then her. She's not worth it if she is putting you through this crap.
Move on, get a new girlfriend. If she cant deal with you moving on, like she did then that's bull. She'll be mad that your interested in having someone else in your life but she will get over it, that's pretty low. Im sure you can't find someone else to be happy with, and not everyone gets over ended relationships that quick so take some time, relax, enjoy being single for a bit and then get back into dating. You'll feel a lot better about stuff and you wont be struggling from all this bull from this ex gf. If her and her bf are going strong and happy, then leave them, or give up getting her to cheat on her bf with you because that will just lead to **** and wait for time to pass and see what happens. Either way, its what you gotta do for yourself if its good.
drop her *** like a hot potato!


never talk to her again!


once a cheater always a cheater!


she'll do the same thing to you!


plus its not even what she wants!


she's using you!


block her!


and leave her the hell alone!


never ever talk to her again!


only only only if she gets her act together and realizes how much you mean to her!
To be honest, just drop her. If she's with him than chances are she'll stay with him. If she really loves you she would be with you and only you. She needs to stop playing the field if she is already taken. Even if she breaks up with him and dates you how can you trust her not to be seeing another guy behind your back. She seems a little shady to me and you can probably do better.