Advice for a late dating bloomer?

Hi everyone,





So I'm 23 and I'm only getting into dating now... God knows why, but I've only recently started giving serious thought to asking a few girls out.





I guess I did too much drinking with the boys as a teen, and now I realize I've missed an important stage in my development - those early dating years - so I need some advice to get me caught up!





To give you a better idea, here's some examples of stuff I'm struggling with:





Girls like confidence, and I can't be confident in something I've never done. So do I just fake the confidence, or would it be better to causally let it slip that I've never dated in advance, so if I mess up a bit she knows why?





I know that it ruins the mood to ask to kiss, so when is it appropirate? Describe the atmosphere? And do you take offense if we don't kiss you the first night? Like do you expect a goodnight kiss, or what is good end-of-date habits?





is chivalry lame?





Thanks for your thoughts, I'll give more background below...Advice for a late dating bloomer?
1. Be open about yourself, so yes, tell her that you have never gone out with a girl before, it will help ALOT.


2. It dont ruin no mood to ask someone to kiss, but most of the time, it just happens, just think about her first, if you go and lean for a kiss and she pulls back, then go in for a deep embracing hug instead.


3. And you dont have to kiss the first night, lol. Just take it slow, read her signs, let her know how you feel (dont say you ';love'; her on the first date or the 10th date, its not worth it).


4. a hug is appropriate for a end of a date, or a kiss, or both.


Chivalry isnt lame at all, alot of girls like to have the man open the car door for them, its flattering.Advice for a late dating bloomer?
NO act confident smile at her and if she smiles back go to her. dont let her know uv neva dated just walk up and dont make it wierd dont say i think your hot be like hey my names (wutevayournameis) so anyways i saw you back there and i think you have the most amazing smile ever and id like to see more of it how about friday at 8 can i have your number?
You sound girl-friendly enough.Have confidence in yourself,but not over-confidence.Chivalry is cool.Dont make excuses for mistakes,nobody is perfect except me.Just be calm and be yourself.You'll be fine.Treat your girls with respect.
I am in a similar situation (age 22). The best advice I can give is go find girl you are comfortable with and see where that leads you. Find something you are confident in such as some sport, ie. golf or basketball and try to bring the girl into it with you. I'm sure go could go play mini golf somewhere.





As far as telling her about no dating experience; I wouldn't mention it if I were you. If she doesn't ask, don't tell her. There are plenty of women, who don't care if you have a lack of experience so that truly shouldn't be much of an issue.





I wouldn't advise kissing the first night; however, it depends on the occasion and the activity. If it is dinner and a movie go for it if you are comfortable, otherwise discretion is the better part of valor.





As far as chivalry goes it depends on the girl some like it other don't. Try to analyze the girl you're with to see for certain.





I'm not really an authority on this issue, but I am in a similar situation as you except for the reasons you mention.