Help! having dating issues and need advice!?

i'm 21 and ive never had a girlfriend before! i hate it because all my friends around me have girls and have found love and i feel so empty and unwanted!





ive tried all sorts of places- clubs, bars, activities other than work, ive tried work and many others, and ive still failed at meeting someone!





every party or whatever i go to, girls always get with other guys because they know them better, and they never give me a chance! all they do is just walk away, even when i talk in a friendly way to them! i'm not that shy and i do try and talk to them but they never wanna know! :-(





all the girls i know are in relationships, and don't have anyone they can introduce me to.





i really feel like its never gonna happen to me and i'm gonna be single forvever :-( is it normal for someone whos 21 to have never had a girl before? do u think i will find someone who wants to be my girl?Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
It will happen for you. There is someone for everyone. One thing I do know is that you seem a little desperate, which I'm sure comes across when you try to pick up girls. You need to act sort of indifferent. A good place to try and find girls to date are online dating services. You will have a wide variety of girls who are all looking for relationships. You start talking to a couple, go on a few dates, and find one that you like. I've never used a dating service but I've met alot of my boyfriends on myspace. It's a different way to go, but it's alot less stressful that going to clubs and parties.Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
i know its hard, but be fearless.


go for it.


keep trying!!!!!!!!





(unless you're a jerk)
First and foremost, just because all of your friends are in relationships doesn't mean that you should have one as well. Perhaps all the ones you have approached so far are not worthy of getting your attention. A second point that I would like to make is that being in a relationship before or at the age of 21 does not translate into normal status. I think believe you are in need of a relationship because your surroundings. I wouldn't try to force, but be patient and wait and you will not go unnoticed.
if you've really tried all that much %26amp; get no response, there's def something wrong. look at yourself with 'stranger's'; eyes %26amp; see if it's something physical, your demeaner, What you say, your breath, .... I mean, COULD it be your appearance?





If not, then you just need to step up your game in some way. If you're just talking friendly-like, maybe you need to make it more flirty or suggestive or show more interest in your target or reveal something totally alluring %26amp; intriquing about urself that makes everyone want to be w/you..
just keep your chin up you are so young.
Sure you will ! just don't look for one and the Lord will provide you if you just ask him to. you might not believe in God . but believe me you will find love one day but if you look for it you will never find one, they think you are desperate and they don't like that. they like to be unnoticed, let them come to you. the first thing i'll tell a girl is to not to try to use sex to control me. because there are so many whores out there so just be honest.
you know this might sound a little weird but have you tried myspace? I met my ex on there.. he was one of my friends friends so i knew he wasnt a psycho and we sent msgs back and fourth- talked on aim and then he asked me out. I'm 20 and although it was a little weird it worked.





anyway ur fine i know ppl who are 24 and have never been in relationships! Just be yourself and dont stress over it, things usually happen when u least expect it. Don't worry!
my friend was 31 before she met her first boyfriend so its not that unusual, maybe you are trying a bit too hard without realising and girls can see that coming from a mile away.


Just be yourself, forget about trying to impress every girl that speaks to you.


The right person will be in the place you least expect her.


Know this from experience


Good luck





Edit - by the way i was 21
maybe you should just try being friends with some girls first. if you like them maybe something will happen. i say don't worry about if too much. something will definately happen. just keep in mind that most gorls can tell when your trying to hard of if your changing your self just to get to them. just be yourself and relax. i'm sure there is a girl out there for you somewhere.
Read some self help stuff on the web like ';double your dating'; and ';the venusian arts';....sort you right out.
It depends on how you interact with a girl. Lets be realistic, girls aren't for the nice guys. We like guys that got their stuff together as well as having a good mind set, goals, strong, confident, and knows how to take care of them self.





If you want more advice don;t hesitate to e-mail me.
have you been on dates? if so than its okay at 21 to never have a girlfriend aslong as you had a few dates. You are 21, young and legal to drink in almost any country, enjoy yourself.





I always say having a boyfriend is like shopping for your perfect shoes, you cant want them, they have to come to you!!





Good Luck
aww.... you sound like a really sweet guy. I honestly would try going to unusual places. where you would never think to meet someone. and just ... be yourself. Us girls hate when guys try to be someone else.