we've been dating for about 3 months now.I ALWAYS SAY I TRUST EVERYONE ITS THE DEVIL IN THEM I DNT TRUST. he is very gentle and caring. he doesn't want to discuss his previous relationship because he says he doesnt want to remember the past..which i think is crap.he lives in italy and i live in america. he bought me a ticket to visit him recently,i stayed at his house. i'm west-indian ..he's well known because he is a professional soccer player. most people say nigerians are scammers which i believe to be true. we talk every day web cam of by phone. i'm scared of not knowing him well enough and of the culture difference..other african women are very rude towards me when we are together in public..i dnt understand because even though i'm not african i consider myself to be black woman..will his family accept our relationship? ....my questions and statments are all over the place..i just need some advice
one more thing i'm also older than him..by 5 years..nigerian soccer players are said to reduce there age by 4 for a longer career so who knows if what he says is his correct age..I'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
You sound very ungrateful to start with,Im not an african or ******* nigerian but Im sure every country there is scammers and that part of the world specially nigeria it is loaded so all u can do is listen and watch.You better be careful
The age bit is hilarious the way u put it lol.I'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
Nigerians are scammers?
That's like saying I'm a thief just because I come from Doncaster!
Regards, Barclay
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
i'm 21 and ive never had a girlfriend before! i hate it because all my friends around me have girls and have found love and i feel so empty and unwanted!
ive tried all sorts of places- clubs, bars, activities other than work, ive tried work and many others, and ive still failed at meeting someone!
every party or whatever i go to, girls always get with other guys because they know them better, and they never give me a chance! all they do is just walk away, even when i talk in a friendly way to them! i'm not that shy and i do try and talk to them but they never wanna know! :-(
all the girls i know are in relationships, and don't have anyone they can introduce me to.
i really feel like its never gonna happen to me and i'm gonna be single forvever :-( is it normal for someone whos 21 to have never had a girl before? do u think i will find someone who wants to be my girl?Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
It will happen for you. There is someone for everyone. One thing I do know is that you seem a little desperate, which I'm sure comes across when you try to pick up girls. You need to act sort of indifferent. A good place to try and find girls to date are online dating services. You will have a wide variety of girls who are all looking for relationships. You start talking to a couple, go on a few dates, and find one that you like. I've never used a dating service but I've met alot of my boyfriends on myspace. It's a different way to go, but it's alot less stressful that going to clubs and parties.Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
i know its hard, but be fearless.
go for it.
keep trying!!!!!!!!
(unless you're a jerk)
First and foremost, just because all of your friends are in relationships doesn't mean that you should have one as well. Perhaps all the ones you have approached so far are not worthy of getting your attention. A second point that I would like to make is that being in a relationship before or at the age of 21 does not translate into normal status. I think believe you are in need of a relationship because your surroundings. I wouldn't try to force, but be patient and wait and you will not go unnoticed.
if you've really tried all that much %26amp; get no response, there's def something wrong. look at yourself with 'stranger's'; eyes %26amp; see if it's something physical, your demeaner, What you say, your breath, .... I mean, COULD it be your appearance?
If not, then you just need to step up your game in some way. If you're just talking friendly-like, maybe you need to make it more flirty or suggestive or show more interest in your target or reveal something totally alluring %26amp; intriquing about urself that makes everyone want to be w/you..
just keep your chin up you are so young.
Sure you will ! just don't look for one and the Lord will provide you if you just ask him to. you might not believe in God . but believe me you will find love one day but if you look for it you will never find one, they think you are desperate and they don't like that. they like to be unnoticed, let them come to you. the first thing i'll tell a girl is to not to try to use sex to control me. because there are so many whores out there so just be honest.
you know this might sound a little weird but have you tried myspace? I met my ex on there.. he was one of my friends friends so i knew he wasnt a psycho and we sent msgs back and fourth- talked on aim and then he asked me out. I'm 20 and although it was a little weird it worked.
anyway ur fine i know ppl who are 24 and have never been in relationships! Just be yourself and dont stress over it, things usually happen when u least expect it. Don't worry!
my friend was 31 before she met her first boyfriend so its not that unusual, maybe you are trying a bit too hard without realising and girls can see that coming from a mile away.
Just be yourself, forget about trying to impress every girl that speaks to you.
The right person will be in the place you least expect her.
Know this from experience
Good luck
Edit - by the way i was 21
maybe you should just try being friends with some girls first. if you like them maybe something will happen. i say don't worry about if too much. something will definately happen. just keep in mind that most gorls can tell when your trying to hard of if your changing your self just to get to them. just be yourself and relax. i'm sure there is a girl out there for you somewhere.
Read some self help stuff on the web like ';double your dating'; and ';the venusian arts';....sort you right out.
It depends on how you interact with a girl. Lets be realistic, girls aren't for the nice guys. We like guys that got their stuff together as well as having a good mind set, goals, strong, confident, and knows how to take care of them self.
If you want more advice don;t hesitate to e-mail me.
have you been on dates? if so than its okay at 21 to never have a girlfriend aslong as you had a few dates. You are 21, young and legal to drink in almost any country, enjoy yourself.
I always say having a boyfriend is like shopping for your perfect shoes, you cant want them, they have to come to you!!
Good Luck
aww.... you sound like a really sweet guy. I honestly would try going to unusual places. where you would never think to meet someone. and just ... be yourself. Us girls hate when guys try to be someone else.
ive tried all sorts of places- clubs, bars, activities other than work, ive tried work and many others, and ive still failed at meeting someone!
every party or whatever i go to, girls always get with other guys because they know them better, and they never give me a chance! all they do is just walk away, even when i talk in a friendly way to them! i'm not that shy and i do try and talk to them but they never wanna know! :-(
all the girls i know are in relationships, and don't have anyone they can introduce me to.
i really feel like its never gonna happen to me and i'm gonna be single forvever :-( is it normal for someone whos 21 to have never had a girl before? do u think i will find someone who wants to be my girl?Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
It will happen for you. There is someone for everyone. One thing I do know is that you seem a little desperate, which I'm sure comes across when you try to pick up girls. You need to act sort of indifferent. A good place to try and find girls to date are online dating services. You will have a wide variety of girls who are all looking for relationships. You start talking to a couple, go on a few dates, and find one that you like. I've never used a dating service but I've met alot of my boyfriends on myspace. It's a different way to go, but it's alot less stressful that going to clubs and parties.Help! having dating issues and need advice!?
i know its hard, but be fearless.
go for it.
keep trying!!!!!!!!
(unless you're a jerk)
First and foremost, just because all of your friends are in relationships doesn't mean that you should have one as well. Perhaps all the ones you have approached so far are not worthy of getting your attention. A second point that I would like to make is that being in a relationship before or at the age of 21 does not translate into normal status. I think believe you are in need of a relationship because your surroundings. I wouldn't try to force, but be patient and wait and you will not go unnoticed.
if you've really tried all that much %26amp; get no response, there's def something wrong. look at yourself with 'stranger's'; eyes %26amp; see if it's something physical, your demeaner, What you say, your breath, .... I mean, COULD it be your appearance?
If not, then you just need to step up your game in some way. If you're just talking friendly-like, maybe you need to make it more flirty or suggestive or show more interest in your target or reveal something totally alluring %26amp; intriquing about urself that makes everyone want to be w/you..
just keep your chin up you are so young.
Sure you will ! just don't look for one and the Lord will provide you if you just ask him to. you might not believe in God . but believe me you will find love one day but if you look for it you will never find one, they think you are desperate and they don't like that. they like to be unnoticed, let them come to you. the first thing i'll tell a girl is to not to try to use sex to control me. because there are so many whores out there so just be honest.
you know this might sound a little weird but have you tried myspace? I met my ex on there.. he was one of my friends friends so i knew he wasnt a psycho and we sent msgs back and fourth- talked on aim and then he asked me out. I'm 20 and although it was a little weird it worked.
anyway ur fine i know ppl who are 24 and have never been in relationships! Just be yourself and dont stress over it, things usually happen when u least expect it. Don't worry!
my friend was 31 before she met her first boyfriend so its not that unusual, maybe you are trying a bit too hard without realising and girls can see that coming from a mile away.
Just be yourself, forget about trying to impress every girl that speaks to you.
The right person will be in the place you least expect her.
Know this from experience
Good luck
Edit - by the way i was 21
maybe you should just try being friends with some girls first. if you like them maybe something will happen. i say don't worry about if too much. something will definately happen. just keep in mind that most gorls can tell when your trying to hard of if your changing your self just to get to them. just be yourself and relax. i'm sure there is a girl out there for you somewhere.
Read some self help stuff on the web like ';double your dating'; and ';the venusian arts';....sort you right out.
It depends on how you interact with a girl. Lets be realistic, girls aren't for the nice guys. We like guys that got their stuff together as well as having a good mind set, goals, strong, confident, and knows how to take care of them self.
If you want more advice don;t hesitate to e-mail me.
have you been on dates? if so than its okay at 21 to never have a girlfriend aslong as you had a few dates. You are 21, young and legal to drink in almost any country, enjoy yourself.
I always say having a boyfriend is like shopping for your perfect shoes, you cant want them, they have to come to you!!
Good Luck
aww.... you sound like a really sweet guy. I honestly would try going to unusual places. where you would never think to meet someone. and just ... be yourself. Us girls hate when guys try to be someone else.
Singles and Dating: Lady Help..Any Advice?
Ok so I am in my second semester of college. I just transferred and in one of my classes I have around 15-20 people in it. So after the 2nd class, I go home and find I have been requested as someones friend on facebook. Its this girl that stared at me coming into the class, and I guess she got my name off the attendance sheet and friended me. I mean I never sat next to her or even talked to her once, but she still found out my name and friended me. She sent me some messages on facebook and said to talk in class and whatever. So the past 2 classes, I have been sitting next to her and we have been talking after class until we reach our next classes. The thing is, it says she has a boyfriend on facebook at another school in the country and were together before college and now still are, yet what the deal with me then? And her main facebook picture is of her and her boyfriend, and she has a bunch of pics with her boyfriend Its making zero sense, i want to talk to her more after class now and see a movie or something, but I have no clue if I should or not because of the boyfriend fiasco.Singles and Dating: Lady Help..Any Advice?
Yes man we know.Singles and Dating: Lady Help..Any Advice?
You should ask her about her boyfriend and get the full story from her.
maybe she wants a new boyfriend or maybe frienge bennifits see where it goes
She's stupid. You should move on to someone else, or just be her friend and nothing more.
Yes man we know.Singles and Dating: Lady Help..Any Advice?
You should ask her about her boyfriend and get the full story from her.
maybe she wants a new boyfriend or maybe frienge bennifits see where it goes
She's stupid. You should move on to someone else, or just be her friend and nothing more.
I'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
we've been dating for about 3 months now. he is very gentle and caring. he doesn't want to discuss his previous relationship because he says he doesnt want to remember the past..which i think is crap.he lives in italy and i live in america. he bought me a ticket to visit him recently,i stayed at his house. i'm west-indian ..he's well known because he is a professional soccer player. most people say nigerians are scammers which i believe to be true. we talk every day web cam of by phone. i'm scared of not knowing him well enough and of the culture difference..other african women are very rude towards me when we are together in public..i dnt understand because even though i'm not african i consider myself to be black woman..will his family accept our relationship? ....my questions and statments are all over the place..i just need some adviceI'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
Several questions:
1. Are you in the market for a husband?
2. Do you regard this man as husband material?
3. Do you ever wish children?
4. Is he father material?
If you answer no to any of these, you are wasting your time... as my daddy always said, ';never shop in a store in which you intend to buy nothing.';
It appears you have real doubt about this guy. If you are just playing around? find, don't get pregnant.
If you are old enough to make a commitment, this guy doesn't seem to qualify.
Personal opinion: Run. Sounds like a typical scam to me.I'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
if he isn't telling you the whole truth, how can you trust you actually HAVE a relationship and you aren't just a bit of fun...dermalogica
Several questions:
1. Are you in the market for a husband?
2. Do you regard this man as husband material?
3. Do you ever wish children?
4. Is he father material?
If you answer no to any of these, you are wasting your time... as my daddy always said, ';never shop in a store in which you intend to buy nothing.';
It appears you have real doubt about this guy. If you are just playing around? find, don't get pregnant.
If you are old enough to make a commitment, this guy doesn't seem to qualify.
Personal opinion: Run. Sounds like a typical scam to me.I'm dating a nigerian ..need advice?
if he isn't telling you the whole truth, how can you trust you actually HAVE a relationship and you aren't just a bit of fun...
Any advice for a capricornn dating a cancer? we also have a libra daughter...are we doomed?
any advice??Any advice for a capricornn dating a cancer? we also have a libra daughter...are we doomed?
Why would you think that any of that matters when it comes to love?
Advise would be not to look to the stars for your answers or guidance. Look to your self and people you surround yourself with.Any advice for a capricornn dating a cancer? we also have a libra daughter...are we doomed?
Princess Deb...I'm not one to be the bearer of bad news. BUT, in your post before you said great match, united for life, etc etc. I know 4 capricorn and cancer couples, all of which are divorced today. So apparently, it's either not as great as you say, or maybe the sign just doesn't make a difference.
Capricorn %26amp; Cancer
A union of talents quite likely to produce harmony. Cancer is delighted to take care of the home and children while Capricorn goes out in the world to earn the family's keep. Each helps the other to fulfill an ambition, in realms that are perfectly complementary. The Saturnine personality benefits from Cancer's intuition, and the moonchild appreciates Capricorn's ability to achieve financial security. They take the time to love, understand, and cuddle each other. An ideal marriage: conventional, happy, and united for life.
Why would you think that any of that matters when it comes to love?
Advise would be not to look to the stars for your answers or guidance. Look to your self and people you surround yourself with.Any advice for a capricornn dating a cancer? we also have a libra daughter...are we doomed?
Princess Deb...I'm not one to be the bearer of bad news. BUT, in your post before you said great match, united for life, etc etc. I know 4 capricorn and cancer couples, all of which are divorced today. So apparently, it's either not as great as you say, or maybe the sign just doesn't make a difference.
Capricorn %26amp; Cancer
A union of talents quite likely to produce harmony. Cancer is delighted to take care of the home and children while Capricorn goes out in the world to earn the family's keep. Each helps the other to fulfill an ambition, in realms that are perfectly complementary. The Saturnine personality benefits from Cancer's intuition, and the moonchild appreciates Capricorn's ability to achieve financial security. They take the time to love, understand, and cuddle each other. An ideal marriage: conventional, happy, and united for life.
Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
I'm stuck between two girls... help?
There's one girl I really like alot. I've been seeing her for a month now. We're not officially in a relationship, though she says she's starting to like me. We've been dating a lot and getting to know each other, because as per her request, she's inexperienced and she wants to take it slow.
I met another girl around the same time and we've started hanging out as friends but lately things have gotten more intimate between us. She definitely likes me, she told her friends to tell me. I like her, but not as much as the first girl, who I'd do anything for.
The first girl likes me but is so nervous about herself and relationships that she constantly disrupts the natural way things develop by saying stuff like ';I've never been this way before, I want to take things slow, I want to get to know you, I don't want to jump into anything, etc.';
Lately, the first girl has been waning on me and I've been enjoying time with the second girl more. I want to tell Girl A that I like her like none other and if she does to, to let things develop naturally instead of putting time frames and stepping back to ask if you are doing good enough! It's cute that she's shy about this stuff, but after a while it gets tedious, she acts like she wants me every day, but keeps stepping back because she's afraid of messing up.
I hope you guys get what I'm saying and can help me.
Would you take girl A or girl B? And what would you say to her in my situation? Thanks.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
Ok, here's what I think. I think Girl A is not mature enough to be in a relationship with you or anyone else. Relationships should be fun, natural, a great addition to your life-- not 'tedious.'
It's not like you can have a talk with her about this and she'll just change. She's not ready to work through some insecurities and let things develop naturally.
I'd break it off with her if I were you and continue to see this other girl as a friend and if something develops, it does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. But if you stay with Girl A, you're in for a long hard road.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
go for A, if u like her more then she has to be worth it, right? an if she's not then u don't really like her.
an just make sure u don't lead B on, cos thats just mean. maybe explain that theres someone u really like to her? an that it can't go beyond friends with u to.
have u kissed either of them?
Tell girl A that she needs to let go and if she keeps pulling back it will mess things up with you and her, It will probably get her to come around. Tell her like it is! Girl B just sounds like a person you can hang out with. You can always find someone to hang out with!
dude ,that,s part of playing the field personnaly , i would take A theres alot to take and teach and well you can benefite from it in the long run , if you know what i mean
Ahh, oh my god, you like Girl A more, obviously take her. And tell her those things you want to tell her. You said you'd do anything for her. So bear with her, be patient with her, be understanding. Until (unless) you stop feeling like it's worth the effort.
In my opinion you should take girl A, date the girl you like more, girl A will get over her shyness sooner or later, give it time. Don't date girl B because your Always going to like girl A more and its not fair for girl B.
now please answer mine:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
damn which girl is A and which girl is B? id hate to give u wrong advice.
turn this question on them but make it boy A and boy B and you can pretend to be boy C just so they dont catch on to ur trick then surprise them when u say ';april fool im AB and u win me';. manage au trois
Mate why not make life really interesting by adding a another women in the pot and if ya real good even a fourth one then you wouldn't really care what you said to women ';A'; or women ';B'; almost like an algebra problem but its real life and real people ya dealing with
Talk to girl A. Tell her how you feel and see how she responds if she doesn't come around either go for girl b or drop them both and move on.
this is kinda bad...... but i'd say go with the one who makes you most
happy, make a desision quick b4 they find out and u loose them both.
dont hurt them badly just break it off..... good luck.
Talk to girl A and tell her how you feel. And pending on how she takes it make your decision off that.
stop reposting your shitty question!
How old are you and how old are the two girls.
This would have some bearing on an answer.
date the girl that you truly have feelings for.
I'd say, just be happy with what you got!
If a girl has never been in a relationship before, it is a nerve racking thing to experience. Girl A will figure it out eventually. If not, just let her know how you feel about her behaviors so she does not do the same behaviors with every guy she becomes involved with. Help her figure out how to be in a relationship so it is fair to her and any other future boyfriends.
But do be careful, this is tricky, and if one girl figures out about the other, both could be repelled from you...
Good luck!
Dude, if you break up with girl A for girl B you're just going to mess her up even more. If you date girl B just because you got antsy and she finds out later- well, she's not going to be happy about being your second pick. Also, you may always have that ';what if'; question in the back of your head because you said it yourself, you liked irl A better.
Sometimes patients rewards.
Just be upfront to girl B. Tell her that you thought you had no chance with a girl you've been keeping an eye on for a while and tried to move on... but now the girl is giving you a chance and you want to stay in this relationship and yet you also want to go with the uncompleted relationship as well... but think that would be unfair for her (girl B) to stay around just because you like her when you like someone else as well. So you want to take your chances with girl A simply to fix the mess that was already made in the past. That way in the future if it doesn't work out you'll have no regrets about ';what if';.
Its clear that you like the 1st one so just tell her how you feel about her and say this too (or something like it):
I want to be closer to you but you keep pushing me away and its kind of making me feel like you dont feel the same way or dont plan on getting closer with me.. I wouldnt do anything to hurt you. What is it that you are the most affraid of?
Then try to work things out.. Im sure it will.. Good luck
I'd say go for girl A since you like her so much. Bein in a relationship takes work. When you guys grow together, your appreciation and love for each other will grow into an unbreakable bond. The more you and girl A talk to each other and get to know each other by spending time together, the more comfortable she will be around you. But she can't get your FULL attention if your out hanging with girl B (someone you don't really like as much)
There's one girl I really like alot. I've been seeing her for a month now. We're not officially in a relationship, though she says she's starting to like me. We've been dating a lot and getting to know each other, because as per her request, she's inexperienced and she wants to take it slow.
I met another girl around the same time and we've started hanging out as friends but lately things have gotten more intimate between us. She definitely likes me, she told her friends to tell me. I like her, but not as much as the first girl, who I'd do anything for.
The first girl likes me but is so nervous about herself and relationships that she constantly disrupts the natural way things develop by saying stuff like ';I've never been this way before, I want to take things slow, I want to get to know you, I don't want to jump into anything, etc.';
Lately, the first girl has been waning on me and I've been enjoying time with the second girl more. I want to tell Girl A that I like her like none other and if she does to, to let things develop naturally instead of putting time frames and stepping back to ask if you are doing good enough! It's cute that she's shy about this stuff, but after a while it gets tedious, she acts like she wants me every day, but keeps stepping back because she's afraid of messing up.
I hope you guys get what I'm saying and can help me.
Would you take girl A or girl B? And what would you say to her in my situation? Thanks.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
Ok, here's what I think. I think Girl A is not mature enough to be in a relationship with you or anyone else. Relationships should be fun, natural, a great addition to your life-- not 'tedious.'
It's not like you can have a talk with her about this and she'll just change. She's not ready to work through some insecurities and let things develop naturally.
I'd break it off with her if I were you and continue to see this other girl as a friend and if something develops, it does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. But if you stay with Girl A, you're in for a long hard road.Stuck dating two girls, need advice badly!?
go for A, if u like her more then she has to be worth it, right? an if she's not then u don't really like her.
an just make sure u don't lead B on, cos thats just mean. maybe explain that theres someone u really like to her? an that it can't go beyond friends with u to.
have u kissed either of them?
Tell girl A that she needs to let go and if she keeps pulling back it will mess things up with you and her, It will probably get her to come around. Tell her like it is! Girl B just sounds like a person you can hang out with. You can always find someone to hang out with!
dude ,that,s part of playing the field personnaly , i would take A theres alot to take and teach and well you can benefite from it in the long run , if you know what i mean
Ahh, oh my god, you like Girl A more, obviously take her. And tell her those things you want to tell her. You said you'd do anything for her. So bear with her, be patient with her, be understanding. Until (unless) you stop feeling like it's worth the effort.
In my opinion you should take girl A, date the girl you like more, girl A will get over her shyness sooner or later, give it time. Don't date girl B because your Always going to like girl A more and its not fair for girl B.
now please answer mine:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
damn which girl is A and which girl is B? id hate to give u wrong advice.
turn this question on them but make it boy A and boy B and you can pretend to be boy C just so they dont catch on to ur trick then surprise them when u say ';april fool im AB and u win me';. manage au trois
Mate why not make life really interesting by adding a another women in the pot and if ya real good even a fourth one then you wouldn't really care what you said to women ';A'; or women ';B'; almost like an algebra problem but its real life and real people ya dealing with
Talk to girl A. Tell her how you feel and see how she responds if she doesn't come around either go for girl b or drop them both and move on.
this is kinda bad...... but i'd say go with the one who makes you most
happy, make a desision quick b4 they find out and u loose them both.
dont hurt them badly just break it off..... good luck.
Talk to girl A and tell her how you feel. And pending on how she takes it make your decision off that.
stop reposting your shitty question!
How old are you and how old are the two girls.
This would have some bearing on an answer.
date the girl that you truly have feelings for.
I'd say, just be happy with what you got!
If a girl has never been in a relationship before, it is a nerve racking thing to experience. Girl A will figure it out eventually. If not, just let her know how you feel about her behaviors so she does not do the same behaviors with every guy she becomes involved with. Help her figure out how to be in a relationship so it is fair to her and any other future boyfriends.
But do be careful, this is tricky, and if one girl figures out about the other, both could be repelled from you...
Good luck!
Dude, if you break up with girl A for girl B you're just going to mess her up even more. If you date girl B just because you got antsy and she finds out later- well, she's not going to be happy about being your second pick. Also, you may always have that ';what if'; question in the back of your head because you said it yourself, you liked irl A better.
Sometimes patients rewards.
Just be upfront to girl B. Tell her that you thought you had no chance with a girl you've been keeping an eye on for a while and tried to move on... but now the girl is giving you a chance and you want to stay in this relationship and yet you also want to go with the uncompleted relationship as well... but think that would be unfair for her (girl B) to stay around just because you like her when you like someone else as well. So you want to take your chances with girl A simply to fix the mess that was already made in the past. That way in the future if it doesn't work out you'll have no regrets about ';what if';.
Its clear that you like the 1st one so just tell her how you feel about her and say this too (or something like it):
I want to be closer to you but you keep pushing me away and its kind of making me feel like you dont feel the same way or dont plan on getting closer with me.. I wouldnt do anything to hurt you. What is it that you are the most affraid of?
Then try to work things out.. Im sure it will.. Good luck
I'd say go for girl A since you like her so much. Bein in a relationship takes work. When you guys grow together, your appreciation and love for each other will grow into an unbreakable bond. The more you and girl A talk to each other and get to know each other by spending time together, the more comfortable she will be around you. But she can't get your FULL attention if your out hanging with girl B (someone you don't really like as much)
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
I've been dating this guy for almost two months, but I've known him for a year or so. He has issues - super bad depression, and sometimes he's very disturbing, ie talking about killing people or how much he hates everyone.
He's fallen desperately in love with me. He says that he'll never leave me, that I need to tell him everything, and that I'm the only person he has. He's threatened suicide because I was mad at him once, and he's ALWAYS butting into my life - conversations I'm having with friends, or on Myspace he comments on every single bulletin and status and things like that. He's even talking about us getting married one day, and we're not even 16 yet. I'm only 14, even. It's driving me crazy. He's always sort of putting down my accomplishments, too, so that he's the smart one in our relationship, which offends me to no end.
I told my mom all this, and she wants me out of this relationship, pronto. I'm not allowed to hang out with him anymore. And honestly, I don't want him anymore either....but how do I break up with him? He's really in love with me. I'm not feeling this at all but with how unstable he is, I don't know what he'll do. I plan on breaking up with him tomorrow, but I'm kind of nervous.Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
dont go alone.get away from this guy.seriouslyHelp! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
Seriously listen to your mother gtfo of that relationship..you want nothing to do with it. Your gonna have to be a big girl and just turn your back, its the best thing to do for both of you. I would tell his parents also, so that they are aware that he may need help.
Dont worry...
95% of the time people are too scared to commit suicide.
Just tell him that you want to be single right now and focus on yourslef and your school work. Someone like this can bring you down and thats not good. You dont need this.
good luck darlin
Make HIM fall out of love with YOU! ;O Then someone will make a movie out of it. But seriously, be a cow and a slobl around him and diss his friends.
This guy is very disturbed and your life is in danger after you tell him you are breaking up with him. You are right in being nervous, and your mother is right in telling you to get out of this relationship pronto. He is very unstable and has the capacity to kill you, himself and both of you at the same time. Do not correspond with him on Myspace or anywhere else. I suggest that you inform your counselor or the principal of the school, as he is capable of coming to school with a gun and killing you and himself. He is a danger to others and to himself, and the school needs to be informed. Perhaps someone will be able to get in touch with his parents and have someone look at what he has on his computer or in his room that may give a better indication as to what he will do if you were to leave him. He is very sick in the head and needs intervention before he kills someone or himself. Tell your mother of this and she will help you make a decision as to how this needs to be handled. This is a delicate situation, and it may be necessary to contact the police. The police will know how to best handle this situation, and if I were you and your mother, I would notify the police as soon as possible. I suggest you not break up with him tomorrow, and not do so until you are assured as to your safety. This is not something to brush aside, as he is very unstable and unpredictable. He may be suffering from the early signs of schizophrenia and be in need of treatment, and the sooner he gets treatment, the better the chances are that he won't kill someone or himself. Were he to kill himself after you break up with him, don't blame yourself for his death, as you have no control over what he does, but you do have control over what you do to protect your self from him. You have asked a very important question on Yahoo Answers, and I hope you will read what I have told you and will take action to protect yourself. He is very unstable and you are wise to end the relationship.
omg, tell him you care about him and everything however yu cant be everything to him, tell him its not healthy. tell him if he really cares about you he will get help. no one can be truly happy if they hate themselves. if he loves you he has to understand if he doesn't you have to tell him he's being selfish. good luck. also do it somewhere public incase he flips out. like a coffeeshop. also maybe consider having your mom talk to his parents.
He's fallen desperately in love with me. He says that he'll never leave me, that I need to tell him everything, and that I'm the only person he has. He's threatened suicide because I was mad at him once, and he's ALWAYS butting into my life - conversations I'm having with friends, or on Myspace he comments on every single bulletin and status and things like that. He's even talking about us getting married one day, and we're not even 16 yet. I'm only 14, even. It's driving me crazy. He's always sort of putting down my accomplishments, too, so that he's the smart one in our relationship, which offends me to no end.
I told my mom all this, and she wants me out of this relationship, pronto. I'm not allowed to hang out with him anymore. And honestly, I don't want him anymore either....but how do I break up with him? He's really in love with me. I'm not feeling this at all but with how unstable he is, I don't know what he'll do. I plan on breaking up with him tomorrow, but I'm kind of nervous.Help! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
dont go alone.get away from this guy.seriouslyHelp! Dating an unstable guy....advice please?
Seriously listen to your mother gtfo of that relationship..you want nothing to do with it. Your gonna have to be a big girl and just turn your back, its the best thing to do for both of you. I would tell his parents also, so that they are aware that he may need help.
Dont worry...
95% of the time people are too scared to commit suicide.
Just tell him that you want to be single right now and focus on yourslef and your school work. Someone like this can bring you down and thats not good. You dont need this.
good luck darlin
Make HIM fall out of love with YOU! ;O Then someone will make a movie out of it. But seriously, be a cow and a slobl around him and diss his friends.
This guy is very disturbed and your life is in danger after you tell him you are breaking up with him. You are right in being nervous, and your mother is right in telling you to get out of this relationship pronto. He is very unstable and has the capacity to kill you, himself and both of you at the same time. Do not correspond with him on Myspace or anywhere else. I suggest that you inform your counselor or the principal of the school, as he is capable of coming to school with a gun and killing you and himself. He is a danger to others and to himself, and the school needs to be informed. Perhaps someone will be able to get in touch with his parents and have someone look at what he has on his computer or in his room that may give a better indication as to what he will do if you were to leave him. He is very sick in the head and needs intervention before he kills someone or himself. Tell your mother of this and she will help you make a decision as to how this needs to be handled. This is a delicate situation, and it may be necessary to contact the police. The police will know how to best handle this situation, and if I were you and your mother, I would notify the police as soon as possible. I suggest you not break up with him tomorrow, and not do so until you are assured as to your safety. This is not something to brush aside, as he is very unstable and unpredictable. He may be suffering from the early signs of schizophrenia and be in need of treatment, and the sooner he gets treatment, the better the chances are that he won't kill someone or himself. Were he to kill himself after you break up with him, don't blame yourself for his death, as you have no control over what he does, but you do have control over what you do to protect your self from him. You have asked a very important question on Yahoo Answers, and I hope you will read what I have told you and will take action to protect yourself. He is very unstable and you are wise to end the relationship.
omg, tell him you care about him and everything however yu cant be everything to him, tell him its not healthy. tell him if he really cares about you he will get help. no one can be truly happy if they hate themselves. if he loves you he has to understand if he doesn't you have to tell him he's being selfish. good luck. also do it somewhere public incase he flips out. like a coffeeshop. also maybe consider having your mom talk to his parents.
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