Dating a guy in the army? advice?

I am 17 and alot more mature for my age (i have been thru alot) he is just turned 23.


And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.





i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.





Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..


well just make sure you're ready for a very


serious relationship him not being there all the time


and the possibility of him getting shipped off..





the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009


and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that


i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)





If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?





listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.





My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)





My advice to you:





1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.





2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.





3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)





Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)

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Am I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous & Dating )?

Hey, This is my first question ever so enjoy it while you can 83





I'm basically in my first 'REAL' relation [lets just say] The only problem now is I know that I have low-self-esteem and attend to get Jealous easy. I really don't react and get over it but sometimes it attends to get annoying.





The guy I'm dating is friends with some chic and they've been friends for about 8+ years; And its not just that they've been friends its that they've 'done' things together in the past and she always attends to 'touch' him alot. I know I'm alittle paranoid but I'm not sure what to do, I've gone to online help for a last resort.





P.S; I looked at other questions and this isn't just because their friends, Its that there close and have done things. I mainly want to know if I'm over-reacting or if he is going to far?





Thanks,


~ NucozihAm I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
You said she is Touchy with him, you did not say he acts the same way. It may be that they have been around each other so long, she does it out of habit with out even realizing she is doing it, Unless of course she does it then looks at you to see if you are reacting to it. If that is the case she may feel her friendship is threaten by you, Showing you she has rights with your boyfriend, And there is nothing you can do about it. But My dear yes there is , first if you %26amp; your boyfriend are getting serious, you need to tell him you know they are just friends, but her always touching him, Makes you feel she is still wanting more than friendship, %26amp; would he please ask her out of respect for you to stop it, that he is with you now %26amp; it is not right for another woman, friend or not to always be putting her hands on him. If he won't do it then you need to right in front of him when she does it.If you don't this relationship will not last, because you will develop trust issues, %26amp; then it isn't worth being in anyway. BE STRONG You can do it, %26amp; will gain self esteem by doing so!Am I over-reacting or is this normal? ( Advice on Jealous %26amp; Dating )?
well it depends what have they done?

Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?

I texted my friend Mark about how i liked his brother nick's and wanted Nick to ask me out and call me. 30 min later i get a phone call. and Nick is calling from Mark's cell phone. He said that he read the text and liked me and wanted to date me. He also said that he wanted a long term relationship and was ready to meet my parents. I said ok i want a long term realtionship too. he said that he had to go but hed call me tommrow. and said Bye Sweety....are we dating? are we going out?Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
DUH!!! Do you need abig light bulb to go over your head for you to read between the damn lines?!?! Are you sooo shallow???





On a nicer note, yes sweetie, you guys would be officially together.Are we going out? AKA dating plz i need advice fast. Everyone give me advice please!!?
Woah that's hella fast for you two to be going out already and already meeting the family. I think that you two should go out on a couple of dates first then you can see if you're really really interested in this guy first just don't rush into things toooo FAST
Honey take it from a guy that has been around awhile....He doesn't want a long term relationship on the first date. As soon as he gets you in bed he will be gone. Don't fall for his ';polite'; act. Give it a few dates first and see if he is really sincere. I doubt it though. good luck!

Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?

I can see men checking me out and won't get asked out. I have tried 'safe' online dating where I have met creeps asking for money. I have even questioned a good friends about this and I was told that men probably think I am not available and that I look like the kind of woman who doesn't tolerate games. Help!Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
HEY, BUTTERFLY....


IF YOU'RE RECENTLY DIVORCED (AFTER 25-YEARS


OF BEING MARRIED).... TAKE MY ADVICE AND STAY


SINGLE !!! TAKE IT FROM AN EXPERT AT THE OLE


';LOVED-AND-LOST'; THANG.... YOU'LL NEVER BE


MORE HAPPY THAN YOU ARE TODAY. BY THE WAY.... THE ONLY THING THAT'S CHANGED IN THE LAST 25-YEARS.... IS YOU, SUGAR!!! JUST MAKE-UP


YOUR MIND TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.... AND LOVE IT !!!!Recently divorce. I haven't dated in 25 years. Things have changed a lot. Any advice?
The main thing is not to so much look everywhere for men, but sort of enjoy your life and the opportunities will come. If you do see a cute guy you want to talk to, say, in the grocery store. Just make small talk. It's not much or anything at all. But it'll get the butterflies out of your stomach. Being able to have a conversation with a complete stranger is a good thing to pick up. The best way to think of it is this. What do you have to lose? So a guy doesn't turn out to have an interest in you? F him. Move on. There will be more, better guys out there. I'm sure there are some low key bars where you can find some men. Not every bar is crazy insane party or a dump. Look for the in between.

43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?

I have to say that I never expected to date a 18yr younger woman! Do relationships like this ever work? It feels right! She has 2 children and so do I from prior marriages! She is independent so I don't suppect a gold digger! Need some advice!43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
You're only seventeen years older, what's the problem. I've known couples with age differences a lot more that yours and they worked out just fine. Just make sure she is right for you. Don't jump into anything to quickly, especially if she starts pushing you into one. A year or longer would be a good time to really and truly get to know her inside and out. If she doesn't want to wait, say thanks and so long. Good luck to you sir.43yr old man dating a 25yr old woman! Any advice?
I date older guys. I am 25.





Usually I stay in the late 30's range.





I would not put her in the ';gold digger'; category this soon. Many women just prefer men that are older than them because they feel like they can respect them. Every girl wants a man that she can look up to and have true respect for. Maturity is also an added bonus.
Frankly I would rather see a man or woman stick closer to their own age group. Do you have lot in common other than sex. Also if you married her you would be raising 2 young children, guess you have thought of that. It's your life and it is hers so I am not judging...really up to you two after all.
no reason why it cant, ive seen it work before and if it feels right then keep going. your just dating right now so keep it there for now and take it slow. if you really look at your relationship with her from all angles and it seems bullet proof then theres no reason why cant work ';til death does you apart'; haha good luck bro!
Thats kool man i feel for ya but not like i would dump my wife for a younger chick its just how the strings unravel but no man just be your self she'll love you for who you are just be more supportive thats all i think if your asking whats changed in the passed years
Answer Number Two.- hahahaha.











Question- Wow.


Kinda wierd. but its yer life.





Have Fun %26amp;%26amp; Enjoy it.
Man my fiance is 40 and I am 19 dont worry about it if you two are happy then good nothing more to worry about
Richard?
I'm currently dating a girl that is 23 and I'm 39. She hasn't ever been married and doesn't have any baggage (children), so I've got you beat my man! LOL...
If it feels right, then it's all good bro. Go for it.
Sort of wierd but if you love her and it works thna good luck/
you dont need us --- its up to the both of you -- if you dont see the age then enjoy what you have ---- best wishes
hell yea son get em ur doing a good job.they mostly do my mom is 30 he bf is 50 been together 12 years
John?
Follow your heart. It will never lie and from what you say, will lead you into her arms.
if u love her go for it.
get her pregnant and wear a seat belt.

Please please help me i really need advice on this dating situation?

okay so i know i already asked this question before but i didn't really get the help i wanted from it so i rephrased my question a bit and here it is.....








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He may like you just from even talk to you on line... the way you word your sentences and the way you talked when you did meet face to face. The only thing you have to do is let him no that you are sorry about what you did but you are also sorry about saying yes... you want to get know him and hang out when it's just the two of you and the mutual friend isn't involved in it. Of course your friend might be another contributing factor as to why this guy liked you so much... You might want to talk to your friend and see if they have been telling him things to try to get you two hooked up... one of my friends did it to me and I told him that I wanted to get to know him a little better then I already did. He was a sweetheart but we found out that we are better off as friends and have tried dating on multiple occasions and it still didn't feel quite right... So you really never know how good this guy is going to be for you until the two of you just sit down and talk or just hang out... I hope this helps you out... Best of luck!Please please help me i really need advice on this dating situation?
I would call him up or how ever you get in touch with him and tell him you want to meet up and tell him how you feel. That you do like him but you want to get to know him before you jump into a relationship with him. And he should be able top understand That, and if he cant understand that then maybe it's not worth trying Again. I hope i helped you and if you take my advice let me know how it turns out
Well just say your sorry and explain your situation to him. if he really still likes you he will take you back :) but i was in a similiar situation and if you dont know the guy that well then usually it doesnt work out and it would be hard to dump him again. So just think about it before you make a decision.


Good luck!
try to ask him out instead. say you didn't know why you said yes in the first place but tell him that your curious to know who he is and you want to know who he is. you never know where love is hiding but there is a moment when you can see the flash of love in someones eyes.





thanks for listening


HS
I think you should try give it 4 dates and if you don't like him you just don't but tell him why you dumped him and you could say you will give him a chance as friends first then see wear it leads
give him a shot. you can ask as many questions as you like but until you take chances and experience life you will never know anything for sure.
ask him out! he probably does still like u. explain the situation 2 him just like u explained it 2 us..
no1 cares about u shut up

African American dating customs? I Need Advice?

I am an African guy dating an African American girl and I really love her! Now I would like your help in understanding the African American dating customs. I want to be better and be the man for her in every way no matter the differences in our culture.African American dating customs? I Need Advice?
To be 100% honest with you, when I think of an African man I would think that he's very traditional and maybe what he learned at home is that the man has the power and the woman is inferior. An African-American woman will not tolerate that.


I do not mean to offend you, I know that Africa has many many different groups that have very different customs. Maybe in some of them, the women have power? From my experience though, African men expect their women to listen to their every command.


The best advice I can give you on dating an African-American woman is to treat her as an equal, treat her respectfully.African American dating customs? I Need Advice?
Well, take her to to dinner, to movies, for walks, and romantic stuff like that. Occasionally, treat her somewhere expensive. Be a gentlemen, hold doors open and stuff. Show her how much you love her. Kiss her at the end of the date, and if you guys are close enough, kiss her during the date as well. Give her your undivided attention.
Yes buy some pants that fits you twice as big so you can wear them half off your ***, get some tattoos like little wayne and when you say a sentence make sure you used the N word a couple of times in it!! Blackwomen love a Thug!!
Your culture is our culture. You do the same exact thing any other American man does for his woman.


Tell her she's pretty, hug and kiss her every now and then and don't cheat on her. Happily ever after.
Be yourself and ask her is it any cultural differences that annoy her or need to be addressed if not dont worry about it ... ask only like twice to make sure she aint lyin it off the first time its great to hear of Black love ...good luck
African American girls are just like any other American girl. They all fall into the same culture. You should show her how you get down and tell her where she got her roots from.
The African guys I know are pretty honest...so live the difference...

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