And hes so sweet and really wants me to go out with him. But i just dont no if i should go out with someone in the army.But im wondering if i should try it out, in the end life is about experiences right?.
i dont live in USA or UK by the way.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Well if he is in the New Zealand army, I am not sure about the laws, but if he is in the US Army, it is against US International laws, to have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18. So you may want to take this to heart, if the NZ Army is anything like the same. Regardless of location.Dating a guy in the army? advice?
Is he posted at Linton or Burnham? I am a NZDF personnel, been with the army for 24 months. I don't see anything wrong with why you should not date him. The New Zealand Defence Force is small, so once your posted with a unit you rarely move out from there, apart from few overseas deployments you are located at that place for the rest of your career.
Its up to you in the end, just because he serves in the military you should not strike him out as a potential date. CHEERS
well im 18 and my bf is 20 and is in the us army..
well just make sure you're ready for a very
serious relationship him not being there all the time
and the possibility of him getting shipped off..
the last time i saw my soldier was on jan.1.2009
and hes coming home on leave for 12 days after that
i wont see him until july 2010
I don't see anything wrong with that. But make sure you know you're ready to face every circumstances that may be on your way. Just give it a try, and you sound like you're falling for him too anyways :)
If you don't live in USA or UK, where are you from then?
well how the hell are we supposed to answer if we dont know which army? the u.s. army is unlike any other army in the world, and women here love dating men in the service.
Go with your heart. You say you have been through a lot for your age so that makes me think you are strong. A soldier or sailor always needs a strong woman.
ain't he a little old for you?
listen to ';where'd you go'; by fort minor, you'll get an idea.
Go for it
It doesnt matter where you live, army is the same everywhere:-) Guys are out there, faraway from the real everyday live they've had before. Its a world with no women around - no sex - nothing! Most of the guys are homesick, in depressions, looking for themselves and feel left over from time to time. WOMEN is topic No1 to discuss amongst them - thats something you should know. Any solder is mad about the idea of having somebody to date with - its the first need in the army.
My best friend (we were friends for years before that) went to the army and there he decided he was falling in love with me. I was so surprised that army is able to change a guy in such a funny way. After he finished his service, we completely forgot about this. Now (15 years later,see) we are still best friends and we are both married to sombody else ;-)
My advice to you:
1. If you like him and you dont care if he is serious towards you, go ahead, but have in mind that every girl desires a full and satisfying relationship with a guy and even if you try to deny it now, you will probably be hurt if he leaves you eventually at the end.
2. If you like him and you want a healthy relatioship with this guy, you go out and see each other but try to keep away of an intimate relationship. Or even better - write to him letters. If he really likes you as much as he says, then he will wait for you. By the way, the army is a very special lifetime for guys. Since its hard, they are most likely to also need a special friend and to really share their feelings (which in normal live happens very rarely with men to share their feeling) So, you build a good and a full with compassion and sympathy relationship and if he really likes you and is able to love you, he will have that opportunity later on when you are sure in his intentions and feel ready to go for it.
3. If the army is not going to finish for your guy and this is a long time dedication and a carreer, then its a tough question. Then your decission is turning around: do you want to be with a person who is having such a dengerous job (when you love somebody, thats a matter of importance). And the other question is: are you ready to be with somebody who will not have as much time for you as you, as a woman, would probably need - he is eventually going to be away for long periods of time and hell be leaving without a note sometimes (depends on your contry situation at the moment and his speciality in the military service). But still, it doesnt mean, indeed, that he is not worth it! Im just saying: think it carefully over when it comes to it. My father worked in the secret serveces (its quite different but still similar). I remember he was so stressed out of his job that not very adequate at home sometimes. He got shot and died at the age of 37. Again, not saying anything - just think it over if youre serious about the boy :-)
Thats all I could think about. Hope it helps :-)
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