you have a MAJOR problem...My 15yr old girl is dating a gang member, any advice?
Forbid her to see him anymore.
Who is the adult in your house?
u should tell her she dont need him and beet HIM with a bar thats what i do
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a ';gang'; member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
so this is a real problem n needs a real solution!
she is too young to date huh, well anyway just be firm and this time u'll need ur hubby's help... good luck
Meet the dude, and stand uncomfortably close to him, Look him up and down like you're a guard dog. Give her a curfew.
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
Your mom and dad should set boundries for her. If I had a daughter I would not even allow her to date at that age. When she gets into trouble she needs to be grounded for a long time. He will get tired of it and find another girl. I would do anything to get her away from that lifestyle.
Well, I'd have to say that if you are letting your 15 year old daughter date, you have already lost the battle. Don't think that's too young? It is, as evidenced by her choice of a ';boyfriend.';
Lock her in her room. Who is the adult in your family???
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
YOU are the problem!
Why are YOU letting YOUR 15 year-old daughter date?
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
You NEED to take CONTROL then! Before it gets real bad! Think about this, drugs, sex, illegal activity, etc. Parents now a days seriously NEED to remember that they are the parents, and the kids are just that KIDS. If you feel your kids are being influenced, do something about it.
Move! Move now! Put her in a private school. Move now!
#1 you made a mistake in letting her date at this age.
#2 you need to step up as a parent
#3 I would talk to the boy...tell him your rules about dating your daughter and your fears about his lifestyle and what that means to your daughter and your family
#4 Make sure your daughter is aware of the rules and that you expect HER to make the right choice in how much she gets involved with this boy.
#5 at this point, most of what you are going to have to is problem solve. earlier in her life if you parented her, you would only be dealing with prevention now...but...good luck...this is a difficult thing at this point.
Grab her and move far away
There's a million reasons why you couldn't....But you could!
intervention
Umm... give me his number and I can take care of that. (;
jk. Talk to her, even if she doesn't seem to be listening or argues back, she WILL remember what you tell her.
oh boy.
I wasnt allowed to date when I was 15!
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
I guess it is the time to send her away to live with other family and friends, you can even try to get her to sign in international students where she moves to a different country to keep up with school, believe me if you offer her a better adventure over a wild gasta, she would take it. Check with your school district to see what are your options. Once she gets in with him there are two ways out, jail or death. I speak for experience since I have known many friends and family going trough that way and guess what, I had to stop going to funerals and visitations to jail because, I couldn't keep up.
oh, good luck with that.
send her to a boot camp or move to another state or plant drugs on him somehow n get him arrested for it,, get him capped off
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
I think they say '; if by age 12 you havent instilled high moral values. forget it you've lost.';
Hey ! you only got 2+ years to wait to kick her out.
kill her
You are the parent. Lay down the rules. This could ruin her life. She is a minor and it sounds like he is not. Very bad situation all the way around.
stoppp them from dateing and tell her to find her a real man!
Sounds like she's running the show at your place. Gee, that's tough.
Especially the part about you missing out on the PARENTING experience during these wonder years.
You ought to try it.
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?
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